# When was your 1st time... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 10, 2012, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119 "2012-08-10T20:11:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![F14tomcat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a88e4f/32.png) [@F14tomcat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/F14tomcat)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2012, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/1 "2012-08-10T20:11:24Z")
I have kids coming into their teens and while I don’t feel out of touch with their lives I am curious as to when I really need to start worrying. I have already had the “talk” with my oldest, but when do I need to really re-enforce it. ---
**Author:** ![perfectparanoia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a5b964/32.png) [@perfectparanoia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/perfectparanoia)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2012, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/2 "2012-08-10T20:14:42Z")
I am sure there have been other threads about this… Anyway, my first time was three days after my 14th birthday. ---
**Author:** ![listedmia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e0b2c6/32.png) [@listedmia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/listedmia)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2012, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/3 "2012-08-10T20:20:16Z")
I was about 2 months away from turning 15. I was kind of an outlier, though. Most of my friends were about 16-17. ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2012, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/4 "2012-08-10T20:34:01Z")
> [@F14tomcat](#): > > when do I need to really re-enforce it. Sooner rather than later. If your kids are coming into their teens and you’ve only had the talk with the oldest…I would say you are too late. They’ve probably already heard most everything, albeit, probably not completely accurate from their friends at school. ---
**Author:** ![Jennyrosity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@Jennyrosity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennyrosity)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2012, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/5 "2012-08-10T20:55:54Z")
I was a month off 17. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2012, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/6 "2012-08-10T21:06:03Z")
45 and still got it. ---
**Author:** ![Michael63129](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3da27b/32.png) [@Michael63129](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Michael63129)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2012, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/7 "2012-08-10T21:50:01Z")
17 However, my sister actually got herself _pregnant_ (aborted) at 16. Surprisingly, my parents didn’t go nuts over that, especially as they knew who did it. They also didn’t give us any talk about “it” beforehand. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2012, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/8 "2012-08-10T21:52:56Z")
> [@Omar\_Little](#): > > Sooner rather than later. If your kids are coming into their teens and you’ve only had the talk with the oldest…I would say you are too late. They’ve probably already heard most everything, albeit, probably not completely accurate from their friends at school. This. Frankly I’ve been having some version of the talk (and I don’t just mean where babies come from) since they were young. My kids are so sick of hearing about birth control and being safe and being with someone who respects you and respecting them etc etc… (15 daughter and 17 year old son). ---
**Author:** ![EmilyG](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/emilyg/32/364_2.png) [@EmilyG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmilyG)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2012, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/9 "2012-08-10T22:00:25Z")
I’m 27 and still a virgin. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2012, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/10 "2012-08-10T22:15:19Z")
17 for consensual sex…and I got pregnant that first time. I’d been doing “everything but” since 14, though. Yeah, more than past time for The Talk. ---
**Author:** ![Drain\_Bead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47774/32.png) [@Drain\_Bead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drain_Bead)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2012, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/11 "2012-08-10T23:25:50Z")
Two weeks or so shy of my 16th birthday. Make sure your kids know that if they want to have sex, they can come to you and you’ll get them birth control. I never once had unprotected sex before I was actively trying to get pregnant. ---
**Author:** ![Taomist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@Taomist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taomist)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2012, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/12 "2012-08-11T00:44:17Z")
> [@Jennyrosity](#): > > I was a month off 17. Same, though I was halfway through my senior year of high school at the time. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2012, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/13 "2012-08-11T00:56:12Z")
One of my sisters-in-law had sex at age 12. She’s over 50 now. I agree that at the minimum, the oldest has already heard a ton. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2012, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/14 "2012-08-11T01:04:25Z")
Define “it.” Intercourse? I was 23 and it was my wedding night. Oral sex? I was 17. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2012, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/15 "2012-08-11T02:18:26Z")
Think I fessed up. I was 17. A poker buddy was getting married & the bachelor party was in a shady bar in Newark. I got tossed into a back room with girl who had that Dallas Cowboys short blonde hair bob that was on the posters. I was stupid, awkward, didn’t know what to do & took way too long. She was really Super Pissed at the money she’d “lost” too. :rolleyes: And I was eff’d up for the rest of HS & the first year of college re: girls. I still, under no circumstances, can ever find “professionals” sexy. “…ain’t no condom thick enough…to tempt me to you-hoo…” ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2012, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/16 "2012-08-11T02:44:00Z")
18, the night before my Calculus final, which I aced anyway. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2012, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/17 "2012-08-11T04:28:03Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > 18, the night before my Calculus final, which I aced anyway. Marriage isn’t enough for you guys ? You want to claim loss of virginity as well ? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2012, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/18 "2012-08-11T04:53:37Z")
17 and a senior in high school. Girlfriend was 15 and a sophomore. We were together for 2 years after that. Still friends, too, 40 years later. ---
**Author:** ![F14tomcat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a88e4f/32.png) [@F14tomcat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/F14tomcat)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2012, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/19 "2012-08-11T15:47:41Z")
> [@F14tomcat](#): > > I have kids coming into their teens and while I don’t feel out of touch with their lives I am curious as to when I really need to start worrying. I have already had the “talk” with my oldest, but when do I need to really re-enforce it. My oldest is turning 13 soon, my middle is not 11 for a few more months. I had the talk with my oldest when he was 10, but have waited for the middle son because of maturity. Also, I know that big brother has corrected some of his misconceptions. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2012, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119/20 "2012-08-11T16:30:40Z")
1. A few months before 18th birthday. I was a freshman in college. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-was-your-1st-time/631119.md?page=2)