# When you got married, how sure were you (that it was what you wanted to do?) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 5, 2024, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-you-got-married-how-sure-were-you-that-it-was-what-you-wanted-to-do/1006797 "2024-09-05T01:45:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Die\_Capacitrix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/die_capacitrix/32/9_2.png) [@Die\_Capacitrix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Die_Capacitrix)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2024, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-you-got-married-how-sure-were-you-that-it-was-what-you-wanted-to-do/1006797/41 "2024-09-07T14:43:18Z")
Met in March, by July we were talking wedding dates - for after I finished college. I may have legible printouts from that email exchange. 35 years since we met. And we have friends who are saw us meet, and are still amazed how well we clicked from the very beginning. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2024, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-you-got-married-how-sure-were-you-that-it-was-what-you-wanted-to-do/1006797/42 "2024-09-09T15:04:12Z")
> [@Dr.Girlfriend](#): > > I didn’t want to make them mad by backing out because they’d lose the money they spent. I know a guy whose wedding was a total loss. Everything (the hall, caterer, bartenders, band, etc) was paid for. The morning of the wedding he decided he wasn’t ready. So, no wedding. Three weeks later he decided he was ready, so the couple went to a Justice of the Peace office and got married with two witnesses. They remained married until he died thirty years later. ---
**Author:** ![Mighty\_Mouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mighty_mouse/32/7776_2.png) [@Mighty\_Mouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mighty_Mouse)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2024, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-you-got-married-how-sure-were-you-that-it-was-what-you-wanted-to-do/1006797/43 "2024-09-09T15:42:16Z")
Good for him. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2024, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-you-got-married-how-sure-were-you-that-it-was-what-you-wanted-to-do/1006797/44 "2024-09-09T15:49:26Z")
> [@Mighty\_Mouse](#): > > Good for him heh, I always felt bad for him. His wife (who he loved) had mental health issues that caused her to purchase things they couldn’t afford. For example she bought a very expensive coat. She used a credit card he did not know about, then hid the coat. She couldn’t wear it or he’d know she bought it. He’d eventually learn about the credit card that she’d maxed out and he’d get a second job to pay off what she owed. She got therapy, but would periodically go shopping. I don’t think she was ever “cured”. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2024, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-you-got-married-how-sure-were-you-that-it-was-what-you-wanted-to-do/1006797/45 "2024-09-09T15:53:51Z")
I told a live in girlfriend that we would never get married unless she cured her shopping addiction. No way I was going to let her piss away my decades of hard earned savings on her buying tons of useless crap. She eventually was “cured” in that she’s completely broke and living in her van now. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/when-you-got-married-how-sure-were-you-that-it-was-what-you-wanted-to-do/1006797.md?page=2)