# Where are you on the sexual map? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 7, 2010, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625 "2010-03-07T15:07:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![tumbleddown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e9bcb4/32.png) [@tumbleddown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tumbleddown)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/21 "2010-03-08T07:46:52Z")
> [@Serenata67](#): > > Never been past the Impassable Reaches, but I’ve been all over that land. Well said, I’ve done a fair bit of roaming my own self, and would do a lot more given opportunity. Though I’ve got to say, some of the terminology on this thing is just not on. The word “shemale” should not be in anyone’s sexual (or other) vocabulary. It’s a slur, plain and simple. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 8:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/22 "2010-03-08T08:56:44Z")
> [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](#): > > What I can’t figure is: as soon as you leave Mundania, you make landfall on the shoreline of ‘Tribbing’ (which I had to look up), or ‘Group Sex’ or ‘The Port of Asymmetric Bondage’. Isn’t it more likely that we’d come ashore at ‘Roleplaying’ or ‘Erotic Massage’, and yet they’re off on in Oregon or something, far from the Bermuda of Mundania. > > Or maybe I’m thinking to much about this. You’re not the only one overanalyzing it. I went ahead and tried to make that make snese. Tribbling is a poor name for what that is supposed to represent: it refers to all homosexual experimentation. Basically, if you head that way, you’re headed toward Gay Homeland. You may find out you don’t like it and turn back, or you may not. And, of course, if you already know you are gay, you cross without even having to go there, and then can experiment anyways. There are just multiple ways to cross that Straight of Fear. What I don’t like is that, since everyone starts from the Citidel of chastity, it implies you have to go through two-person sex to be able to go solo. That’s not the case at all. I’d say a large percentage of religiously chaste people even self-stimulate sometimes. Making them have to have missionary sex first is silly. I think they didn’t put a lot of thought into Mundania. Assuming my rearranging of the map, I live in the outskirts of the Citidel Of Chastity, right near the border between it and the Island of Self Love, which has a small portion that completely bypasses that little peninsula of Internet Porn. My homeland (i.e. the places I plan to visit) almost completely avoids crossing any mountains. There are a few fantasies that do, but they involve a bit of warping. In particular, there’s a couple places on the map that are really far apart that I would actually want to establish something in the warp space betweeen them. Did I mention I’ve overanalyzed this? ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 11:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/23 "2010-03-08T11:17:59Z")
I agree about both the “shemale” thing and the map layout, but then I note that it’s he product of a sex toy company, not the Kinsey Institute. ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 12:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/24 "2010-03-08T12:35:47Z")
I come from a land down under. ---
**Author:** ![Rala](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8797f3/32.png) [@Rala](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rala)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/25 "2010-03-08T15:55:43Z")
I spend most of my time in the Citadel of Chastity, with occasional trips to Terra de Solo and the Island of Slash fiction. That map was … um … a real eye opener. I couldn’t have made head or tail of it without the aid of urban dictionary, and there were a few things even that didn’t explain. I saw a few places I’d be interested in visiting one day, but I’m staying right here for the time being. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/26 "2010-03-08T16:26:03Z")
> [@tumbleddown](#): > > Well said, I’ve done a fair bit of roaming my own self, and would do a lot more given opportunity. > > Though I’ve got to say, some of the terminology on this thing is just not on. The word “shemale” should not be in anyone’s sexual (or other) vocabulary. It’s a slur, plain and simple. Yeah, and nice to know “sex with transsexuals” is a specific kink, as opposed to being, you know, sex with someone. ---
**Author:** ![Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malleus_incus_stapes/32/3293_2.png) [@Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malleus_Incus_Stapes)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/27 "2010-03-08T17:40:24Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Often, it’s a matter of permission. Many people have fantasies at an early age, and of course they think they’re the only ones thinking about that particular subject. Then one day they discover that other people have thought about it, and actually acted on these feelings. All of a sudden you realize you’re not unique in having these fantasies, and you have “permission” to act on them. This has happened to me, with several activities. > > It’s very much like coming out. Once you realize you’re not the only one, there’s no turning back. > > And by the way, diapers are not all that uncommon. So you’re saying it’s inborn? I really have been curious about this for a long time. ---
**Author:** ![Trepa\_Mayfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/edb3f5/32.png) [@Trepa\_Mayfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trepa_Mayfield)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/28 "2010-03-08T18:14:03Z")
I’m just another fellow holed up in the Citadel of Chastity, but… > [@BigT](#): > > What I don’t like is that, since everyone starts from the Citidel of chastity, it implies you have to go through two-person sex to be able to go solo. That’s not the case at all. I’d say a large percentage of religiously chaste people even self-stimulate sometimes. Making them have to have missionary sex first is silly. I think they didn’t put a lot of thought into Mundania. I just sort of figured there was a ferry service between the Citadel of Chastity and the Island of Self-Love. They just didn’t put it on the map because it has to be…ya know, discreet. ---
**Author:** ![HeyHomie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heyhomie/32/207_2.png) [@HeyHomie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HeyHomie)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/29 "2010-03-08T18:49:59Z")
Subscribing. I’ll take a peek at that site when I get home from work. ---
**Author:** ![Knorf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/58956e/32.png) [@Knorf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knorf)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/30 "2010-03-08T18:59:15Z")
> [@pedescribe](#): > > I just sort of figured there was a ferry service between the Citadel of Chastity and the Island of Self-Love. They just didn’t put it on the map because it has to be…ya know, discreet. I think there is also a cruise line that skirts the coast. It departs daily from a pier at the Sea of Conformity. Edit: Doesn’t it seem like the Kingdom of Chemical Alteration should be a lot closer to the Land of Mundania? ---
**Author:** ![History\_Geek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b19c9b/32.png) [@History\_Geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/History_Geek)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/31 "2010-03-08T19:20:49Z")
The most amusing thing about this map is imagining the travel services that move you from place to place and some of the tourist attractions to be found in the territories. I bet brochures would be big sellers. ---
**Author:** ![ITR\_champion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c67d28/32.png) [@ITR\_champion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ITR_champion)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/32 "2010-03-08T20:50:54Z")
I’m in the Citadel of Chastity, not (as the map implies) because I fear anything, but rather because of personal choice. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2010, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/33 "2010-03-08T23:56:59Z")
Man, Canada’s full of perverts. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2010, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/34 "2010-03-09T02:23:25Z")
:eek: :eek: I **never** thought of using my Wartenberg wheel for sexual purposes until I saw this map!!! :smack: ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2010, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/35 "2010-03-09T02:36:18Z")
> [@ITR\_champion](#): > > I’m in the Citadel of Chastity, not (as the map implies) because I fear anything, but rather because of personal choice. Many people in the Citadel of Chastity have thinly-disguised agoraphobia. I hope you’re at least going on little excursions to the Terra del Solo. ---
**Author:** ![SleepyDuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@SleepyDuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SleepyDuck)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2010, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/36 "2010-03-09T02:37:19Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > :eek: :eek: > > I **never** thought of using my Wartenberg wheel for sexual purposes until I saw this map!!! > > :smack: Best if you didn’t google it, then. :o ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2010, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/37 "2010-03-09T04:37:29Z")
There’s a _map?!!_ No wonder I got lost that time orienteering in high school. 🙂 :: looks at link :: Cripes. Ever since that movie [Crash](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0115964/), Canada’s had this reputation as a land of total perverted sickos. This map doesn’t help. However, I’m here to fight that. I live in whitest Mundania. [sub]Except for the voyages to the land of BBWs…[/sub] Edit: thought I saw a part of the map labeled ‘Doper Fetish’. Then I saw that it said ‘_Diaper_ Fetish’. Bother. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2010, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/38 "2010-03-09T04:43:25Z")
So Tronna is what, Dogging? ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2010, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/39 "2010-03-09T05:08:20Z")
> [@matt\_mcl](#): > > Yeah, and nice to know “sex with transsexuals” is a specific kink, as opposed to being, you know, sex with someone. Sex with a “pre-op” (MTF) transsexual is a pretty specific kink, yeah. Seeing as how they have a mostly female body, with boobs and such, but also have a penis. That’s not something you are going to get with any natural-born “someone”. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2010, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625/40 "2010-03-09T05:28:06Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Many people in the Citadel of Chastity have thinly-disguised agoraphobia. No, I just can’t find the door. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-are-you-on-the-sexual-map/531625.md?page=3)