# Where do lesbians live? \* **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [September 17, 2008, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938 "2008-09-17T02:24:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Sapo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@Sapo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sapo)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/1 "2008-09-17T02:24:35Z")
My wife and I watch “My House is Worth What?” and “House Hunters” every night, plus random home improvement shows every now and then. It seems to us that gay (mm) couples are adequately represented (in proportion to their presence in non-TV society), but that lesbian couples are hardly ever shown in these shows. Is there a reason for this perceived bias? Is this bias real or just imagined by us? Are they numerically less present? Do they not own homes? Not appraise them and resell them daily? Not want to show them on TV? - please don’t shoot. Notice that this is CS. I call that humor. Read the whole post before grilling. ---
**Author:** ![AuntiePam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f19dbf/32.png) [@AuntiePam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AuntiePam)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/2 "2008-09-17T03:10:41Z")
Because women still earn less than men so they aren’t buying or renovating as many houses as men? 😉 I got nuthin’, but I’ve seen lesbian couples on HH. Okay. One couple. Looking at flats in Sweden. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Second\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbe5ce/32.png) [@The\_Second\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Second_Stone)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/3 "2008-09-17T03:12:11Z")
They live with the baby pigeons. ---
**Author:** ![Exapno\_Mapcase](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/exapno_mapcase/32/1051_2.png) [@Exapno\_Mapcase](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Exapno_Mapcase)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/4 "2008-09-17T03:21:48Z")
One couple lives next door to me. But they aren’t out house hunting. Seriously, the number of male-male couples is tiny and the tiny of female-female couples even tinier. They in total consisted of 1% of households in the 2000 census. Even assuming they’ve doubled that’s still a small number. If you’re seeing enough male couples to notice, then maybe they’re overrepresented. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/5 "2008-09-17T03:24:40Z")
They live [right here](http://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&geocode=&q=lesbos,+greece&sll=37.0625,-95.677068&sspn=38.144864,57.65625&ie=UTF8&z=6&iwloc=addr) ---
**Author:** ![elmwood](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/elmwood/32/3060_2.png) [@elmwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elmwood)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/6 "2008-09-17T03:32:58Z")
There’s two lesbian couples on my block, and I see a lot of lesbian couples and very, very butch women at the nearby dog park. I’m in a middle-class inner ring suburb of Cleveland. There’s really not lesbian neighborhoods to the same extent that that there’s gay neighborhoods. Lesbians may be concentrated in some parts of a city or region, but generally not to the extent of gay men. Here in Northeast Ohio, if you’re a gay man, you’re going to live in Lakewood, or else be very, very lonely. Lesbians, on the other hand, are really scattered around the region. There’s more in denser, more liberal and more white collar inner ring suburbs, and fewer in the loop-and-lollypop sprawl beyond, but there’s really no lesbian neighborhood. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/7 "2008-09-17T03:34:57Z")
Dyke Street. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/8 "2008-09-17T03:38:16Z")
> [@elmwood](#): > > There’s really not lesbian neighborhoods to the same extent that that there’s gay neighborhoods. Lesbians may be concentrated in some parts of a city or region, but generally not to the extent of gay men. One of the reasons for this is that it’s more acceptable for two women to live together long-term than it is for two men, and that goes back a LONG time. Two “spinsters” living together, even with some amount of public affection, doesn’t attract as much attention as two men living together long-term, especially if they don’t cover for obvious affection for each other. Of course, nowadays, it’s not so much of a huge risk for two men to be “found out”, but in the old days it was. ---
**Author:** ![elmwood](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/elmwood/32/3060_2.png) [@elmwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elmwood)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/9 "2008-09-17T03:42:00Z")
> [@jayjay](#): > > One of the reasons for this is that it’s more acceptable for two women to live together long-term than it is for two men, and that goes back a LONG time. Two “spinsters” living together, even with some amount of public affection, doesn’t attract as much attention as two men living together long-term, especially if they don’t cover for obvious affection for each other. Boston marriages. There were a few on my block even when I was a kid. Crunching Census data, I’ve noticed that there’s more female same sex couples sharing a residence than male same-sex couples. I know two _straight_ women that bought a house together, and from what I understand it’s not that uncommon of an occurrence. ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/10 "2008-09-17T03:51:24Z")
In close proximity to [U-Hauls](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/U-Haul_lesbian). ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/11 "2008-09-17T03:52:54Z")
Lesbians in general are a lot less socially visible than gay men. My personal theory is that our society doesn’t take female sexuality seriously. So we look at lesbians as just women playing around till the men get home- not really something significant enough to have public dialogue about. ---
**Author:** ![Pollux\_Oil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/858c86/32.png) [@Pollux\_Oil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pollux_Oil)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/12 "2008-09-17T03:53:14Z")
Didn’t you know? Lesbians only exist in co-ed dorm rooms and they are always scantily clad. When they turn 25 they cease to exist.\* _My cite is the “All I Know I Learned From Porn” Handbook_\* \*\*Not a real cite. ---
**Author:** ![torie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/77aa72/32.png) [@torie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/torie)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/13 "2008-09-17T03:53:44Z")
They live in Lesbania. Duh. ---
**Author:** ![lexi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lexi/32/6806_2.png) [@lexi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lexi)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/14 "2008-09-17T03:55:30Z")
In my neighbourhood (no really, there are maybe 10 couples on this block). ---
**Author:** ![JThunder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e95f7d/32.png) [@JThunder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JThunder)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/15 "2008-09-17T03:57:56Z")
> [@torie](#): > > They live in Lesbania. You mean Lesbia. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/16 "2008-09-17T03:58:53Z")
> [@JThunder](#): > > You mean Lesbia. C’mon, there was just a court case about this. It’s Lesbos… ---
**Author:** ![DanBlather](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f4b2a3/32.png) [@DanBlather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DanBlather)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/17 "2008-09-17T04:00:03Z")
Seriously though, the 2nd poster had it right: lesbians couples generally don’t have as much money as gay men couples. That makes them “less interesting” for those kind of shows. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/18 "2008-09-17T04:07:28Z")
> [@The\_Second\_Stone](#): > > They live with the baby pigeons. Eh! Get off my balcony, you lesbians! ---
**Author:** ![Argent\_Towers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e8c25b/32.png) [@Argent\_Towers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Argent_Towers)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/19 "2008-09-17T04:30:30Z")
They live in burrows underneath the ground, and generally forage for food at night. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2008, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938/20 "2008-09-17T04:32:45Z")
> [@Argent\_Towers](#): > > They live in burrows underneath the ground, and generally forage for food at night. No, those are Lebanese. There’s a subtle but definite difference. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-do-lesbians-live/463938.md?page=2)