# Where (kind of place, not town) did you meet your current best friend? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 13, 2007, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893 "2007-12-13T19:29:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Stauderhorse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Stauderhorse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stauderhorse)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/21 "2007-12-13T20:52:55Z")
High school. She hung out with my guy friend, and we became really close. ---
**Author:** ![E.Thorp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@E.Thorp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/E.Thorp)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/22 "2007-12-13T21:27:25Z")
Here is where I met the people any of whom, depending on context, I would call my best friend: [ol] [li]5th grade, band practice (I played trombone, he played clarinet)[/li][li]6th grade, YMCA soccer league (didn’t become friends until high school, though)[/li][li]Freshman year of college, sidewalk in front of women’s dorm (though I’d been emailing her for weeks – recognized her from her Baby Book photo – hey, I guess that was a proto-“Facebook”)[/li][li]Sophomore year, college writing center (he was a fellow tutor, later we were roommates)[/li][li]Grad school, university classroom (now married)[/li][/ol] ---
**Author:** ![Cluricaun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bb73d2/32.png) [@Cluricaun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cluricaun)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/23 "2007-12-13T21:27:31Z")
Gym class in high school playing hacky sack. ---
**Author:** ![Contrary](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/db5fbb/32.png) [@Contrary](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrary)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/24 "2007-12-13T21:53:44Z")
I met my best friend at work, in Cubeville. Our cubes shared a back wall so we could hear each other talk. I will really miss seeing her face-to-face when I finally do move to Boston. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/25 "2007-12-13T21:56:13Z")
Cannot for the life of me remember. It was ten years ago. Or eleven. I may be weird. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/26 "2007-12-13T22:02:05Z")
Online. I’ve yet to meet her but we’re pretty close – as we should be if I’m talking about her in a thread about best friends – and have plans to spend a few weeks together in Australia in a couple years. My best friend offline I met at work when he and another friend were talking music and I butted in. He, his girlfriend, some other friends, and I all went to Bonnaroo earlier this year and I talk to him pretty often, though mostly at work 'cause I’m not really the type to hang out much and we live about twenty miles from each other. ---
**Author:** ![Lissla\_Lissar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@Lissla\_Lissar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lissla_Lissar)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/27 "2007-12-13T22:21:07Z")
First day of college. She bounced into the room at the professor’s house/temporary residence, wearing, I think, bright pink or orange, and said something very enthusiastic and friendly to me, her new goth housemate. Seven years ago. She still wears a lot of fuschia. And orange. And lime green. I really wish she didn’t live eight hours away. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/28 "2007-12-13T22:23:47Z")
The SDMB, or university. Depending on how you look at it. ---
**Author:** ![cbawlmer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@cbawlmer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cbawlmer)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/29 "2007-12-13T22:45:21Z")
**NailBunny** : I LOVED _Whisper, the Winged Unicorn_ when I was a kid! I wonder if I still have my copy, or if my mom does. I met my three closest friends at: my local comic book shop; a screening of _The Rocky Horror Picture Show_; and the first day of freshman orientation in college. ---
**Author:** ![Ghanima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Ghanima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ghanima)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/30 "2007-12-13T22:56:46Z")
My best friend and I either met in high school in 1990 or 1991, or at the local coffee shop or possibly a mutual friend’s house sometime between then and summer of 1993. The actual first meeting has been lost to time as we both were doing massive quantities of drugs at the time and didn’t really become great friends until summer 1993. The fact that we don’t know when or how we met has become a joke now. ---
**Author:** ![Beadalin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3be4f8/32.png) [@Beadalin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beadalin)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/31 "2007-12-13T23:09:59Z")
I don’t mean this as a snark, but: do adults have “best” friends? I have several very close friends (the kind like family), and others I’d call good friends (the kind you hang out with, bitch to, travel with sometimes, etc.). Picking one and labeling him or her “best” seems juvenile to me – unless we’re talking spouses. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/32 "2007-12-13T23:22:31Z")
Junior year of high school, new student orientation day, playing chess in the library. ---
**Author:** ![IOMDave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/91b2a8/32.png) [@IOMDave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IOMDave)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/33 "2007-12-13T23:57:23Z")
Martial arts class. ---
**Author:** ![BrknButterfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/439d5e/32.png) [@BrknButterfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrknButterfly)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/34 "2007-12-14T00:40:16Z")
I met him at work. He’s like the brother I never wanted. 😉 Though it is nice to find a friend that I know 10 years from now he will still be there. I never had that comfort with any other friendship before. To be accepted for who I am, with the millions of faults and all. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/35 "2007-12-14T01:24:21Z")
[QUOTE=Beadalin] I don’t mean this as a snark, but: do adults have “best” friends? I have several very close friends (the kind like family), and others I’d call good friends (the kind you hang out with, bitch to, travel with sometimes, etc.). Picking one and labeling him or her “best” seems juvenile to me – unless we’re talking spouses. [/QUOTE] Apparently we do. ---
**Author:** ![BrknButterfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/439d5e/32.png) [@BrknButterfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrknButterfly)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/36 "2007-12-14T01:33:58Z")
[QUOTE=Beadalin] Picking one and labeling him or her “best” seems juvenile to me – unless we’re talking spouses. [/QUOTE] I don’t think it is juvenile at all.. and I know a lot of people that are married, who wouldn’t consider their spouse their “best friend”. ---
**Author:** ![coffinjumper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8baadc/32.png) [@coffinjumper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/coffinjumper)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/37 "2007-12-14T01:56:30Z")
[QUOTE=Beadalin] I don’t mean this as a snark, but: do adults have “best” friends? I have several very close friends (the kind like family), and others I’d call good friends (the kind you hang out with, bitch to, travel with sometimes, etc.). Picking one and labeling him or her “best” seems juvenile to me – unless we’re talking spouses. [/QUOTE] Just speaking for myself here, but when I say best friend I don’t mean it as a value judgment really, there are just some friends I’m a lot closer to than others. And I do have more than one “best friend,” a lot of people do. All it really means is that I have greater relationship with them than some of the others. They’re family. Now when we start competing for and withholding the title for stupid transgressions, then it’s juvenile. Right now it’s just a term which has carried over. ---
**Author:** ![Pixilated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/aeb1de/32.png) [@Pixilated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixilated)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/38 "2007-12-14T02:31:17Z")
I have 3 best friends (I know, that doesnt make sense, but it’s true) BFF (best female friend): Thru work in Kansas. She was my boss. She’s a lot like me (she has a fear of the number 5, btw, & she’s the one who taught me to embrace my whimsicle nature) BMF (best male friend): through a free online dating site. I was interested in gaming, not dating, and we clicked asap - I consider him the male version of my bff Bestest of the best - met him on the same site as my bmf, but we met in person at a bookstore over a coffee (of course!). The little sneak walks as silent as a mouse & snuck up behind me, scaring the b-hay-suess out of me… we clicked, and I wasnt even interested in dating him (or anyone) when we first started to talk - but I thought he’d be a good friend to converse with. I was his after the first kiss (which wasnt on the first date). Does that make me easy if it wasnt planned? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![SandyHook](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dec6dc/32.png) [@SandyHook](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SandyHook)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/39 "2007-12-14T02:48:28Z")
7th grade, Wheelersburg, Ohio, 1960 ---
**Author:** ![Kuboydal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ecb155/32.png) [@Kuboydal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kuboydal)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 4:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893/40 "2007-12-14T04:05:08Z")
I opened a bottle of wine for her in the kitchen at a friend’s birthday party. Michael Stipe had just through the room and looked at me suspiciously. The not yet then Ms. Kuboydal pointed a bottle of cheap red wine at me and asked me if I could open it. I swear she had a nimbus. I couldn’t say a word but I opened the bottle and returned it. The next time I saw her she jumped into a kiddie pool in my backyard. This time I started talking. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/where-kind-of-place-not-town-did-you-meet-your-current-best-friend/429893.md?page=3)