# Which is worse... me or....? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [September 27, 2012, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979 "2012-09-27T06:45:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/81 "2012-09-29T01:15:49Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > An adulterer is better than being a wife-beater. What’s your point? Well someone said I’m not worthy to even go to a prostitute. Also people don’t often seem to become outraged if someone (who is part of a large percentage of people) who had committed adultery ends up getting married again. Yet they seem outraged for me to do that. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/82 "2012-09-29T01:22:11Z")
> [@Nzinga\_Seated](#): > > …And some women can get much, much less fat and still have their belly poke out the most. Yeah I suspected it might be the case for my fiance. BTW last night she said that she doesn’t want to get any bigger. I told her that there is advice about having a flat tummy that you should eat every 4 hours - even if you’re not hungry. > [@](#): > > …Have you tried doing a jedi mind trick, where you learn to embrace a flaw, and flip it so that it has some kind of sexy, erotic twist to it? That shit works. I embrace all of my flaws to the point where I have learned to find my faults sexy. It’s exhausting. But it works! I find it difficult to do - I just find most other parts of her sexy - including her freckles. BTW last night we were lying on a futon bed watching a movie and she was lying on her side with her back to me - so I couldn’t see her belly at all but the side of her waist has a bit small which was sexy. On second thoughts it looks like she’s pregnant… yesterday I thought that that was kind of sexy since many of the world’s most beautiful people have had a pregnant look. > [@](#): > > But this advice is really for anyone reading this thread who relates to the OP on some level and may benefit from honest feedback. I don’t think that is what the OP is here for. I’m looking for honest feedback - though some of the honest feedback I find ridiculous. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/83 "2012-09-29T01:36:28Z")
> [@Nzinga\_Seated](#): > > …Have you tried doing a jedi mind trick, where you learn to embrace a flaw, and flip it so that it has some kind of sexy, erotic twist to it? That shit works. I embrace all of my flaws to the point where I have learned to find my faults sexy. It’s exhausting. But it works!.. BTW many times my fiance has said that she loves my boobies while touching them. BTW I am skinny but have a belly and man-boobs that are about size B. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 8:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/84 "2012-09-29T08:00:16Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > Do NOT get married until you can identify at least three of her feelings before she shares them. I can tell: - playful - horny - not interested in what I’m talking about - not very comfortable (she’s very quiet) ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 8:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/85 "2012-09-29T08:06:38Z")
We just watched a movie I’ve seen before called “She’s Out Of My League”. It had a lot of people having inappropriate thoughts or comments in a similar way to I sometimes do. My fiance said the main girl was very pretty or something and I said “yeah well they said she’s a 10 out of 10”. I found it interesting that the girl in the movie hated the guy thinking she was too perfect and that he “put her on a pedestal”! She didn’t like that he had low self esteem. Well I have moderate self esteem and I don’t claim my partner is too perfect. BTW today we were talking about brothels and I said that my fiance was cheaper than a prostitute and she was shocked. Then I said she’s better than a prostitute at sex and she liked that comment. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 8:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/86 "2012-09-29T08:13:42Z")
I just told my fiance that I found it interesting that the girl in the movie was upset that the guy thought she was too perfect. My fiance said that she wasn’t perfect. I said that if she was she’d already have a lot of stalkers. She said she already has had a lot of stalkers as well as people who had committed suicide about her. She said that she wasn’t good looking at all. I said she’s cute and attractive and she said thanks or something like that. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/87 "2012-09-29T08:42:33Z")
She asked if I’d been naughty and I told her about my posts on the board. I told her about the first part of my previous post. She was worried that people on the board would think she’s stuck up and wants me to stop talking about her on the board. She also said people might give bad advice and I agreed. ---
**Author:** ![Pitchmeister](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pitchmeister/32/3459_2.png) [@Pitchmeister](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pitchmeister)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 9:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/88 "2012-09-29T09:24:44Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > BTW today we were talking about brothels and I said that my fiance was cheaper than a prostitute and she was shocked. No shit! A little hint - do NOT compare your current lover to a prostitute, ever! My mind is by this point officially blown. ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 10:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/89 "2012-09-29T10:07:38Z")
John, what are you hoping to achieve by sharing so much of the private conversations between you and your fiancee on this message board? And do you think you are achieving it? ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 10:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/90 "2012-09-29T10:38:15Z")
> [@sandra\_nz](#): > > John, what are you hoping to achieve by sharing so much of the private conversations between you and your fiancee on this message board? And do you think you are achieving it? Becoming more conscious/aware of things and yes it is working. ---
**Author:** ![MacCat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/maccat/32/216_2.png) [@MacCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MacCat)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 12:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/91 "2012-09-29T12:12:31Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > Then I said she’s better than a prostitute at sex and she liked that comment. What gal wouldn’t? ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/92 "2012-09-29T12:15:20Z")
> [@MacCat](#): > > What gal wouldn’t? Every female I know I would imagine. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/93 "2012-09-29T12:30:18Z")
> [@Cicero](#): > > Every female I know I would imagine. Well, to be fair, it wouldn’t be any better to be told I was \*worse \*than a prostitute at sex… Really, the only winning move is not to play…which is perhaps the moral of this entire thread. ---
**Author:** ![BubbaDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bubbadog/32/333_2.png) [@BubbaDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BubbaDog)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/94 "2012-09-29T12:49:44Z")
> [@sandra\_nz](#): > > John, what are you hoping to achieve by sharing so much of the private conversations between you and your fiancee on this message board? And do you think you are achieving it? He wanted lots of attention, and yes, he’s getting it. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/95 "2012-09-29T14:24:12Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > Well, to be fair, it wouldn’t be any better to be told I was \*worse \*than a prostitute at sex… > > Really, the only winning move is not to play… She had a good reaction - BTW she is very attracted to ME - she’s not the typical girl who is more attracted to you guys so your rules don’t necessarily apply. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/96 "2012-09-29T14:25:15Z")
> [@BubbaDog](#): > > He wanted lots of attention, and yes, he’s getting it. Yeah that sounds right. BTW if it wasn’t for replies like this on the messageboard I wouldn’t have realised things like that. Well maybe I’d realise it eventually. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/97 "2012-09-29T14:25:52Z")
So why are you asking our opinions? ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/98 "2012-09-29T14:29:46Z")
BTW tonight she said something about her belly being like she’s pregnant… I don’t remember telling her that… well years ago a salesman asked her about her pregnancy and I might have later said that I agreed with him that she kind of looks pregnant. Also she asked what I wanted as a wedding present… I said “a blowjob”. Her jaw hanged wide open (she had a funny shocked face) then said that she thought I didn’t like it. Well it was nice though after a few minutes I just decided that we should have sex. I was lasting for a long time and was worried that I’d lose my erection (like it happens often if I’m taking too long). Being more passionate helped me finally ejaculate. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/99 "2012-09-29T14:30:47Z")
> [@Cicero](#): > > So why are you asking our opinions? It’s sort of like companionship involving a very wide circle of people. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2012, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979/100 "2012-09-29T14:33:50Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > BTW tonight she said something about her belly being like she’s pregnant… I don’t remember telling her that… well years ago a salesman asked her about her pregnancy and I might have later said that I agreed with him that she kind of looks pregnant. Also she asked what I wanted as a wedding present… I said “a blowjob”. Her jaw hanged wide open (she had a funny shocked face) then said that she thought I didn’t like it. Well it was nice though after a few minutes I just decided that we should have sex. I was lasting for a long time and was worried that I’d lose my erection (like it happens often if I’m taking too long). Being more passionate helped me finally ejaculate. A vision of you on the vinegar stroke is something I can live without. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-is-worse-me-or/635979.md?page=6)