# Which Way do you Spoon? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 17, 2010, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494 "2010-06-17T01:12:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![RedWood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f08c70/32.png) [@RedWood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RedWood)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/21 "2010-06-17T03:49:41Z")
I am female and we switch places every so often so both can be inside/outside of the snuggle. ---
**Author:** ![Is\_it\_safe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/6de8d8/32.png) [@Is\_it\_safe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Is_it_safe)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/22 "2010-06-17T05:10:44Z")
Male and prefer to be the back spoon but we do swap sometimes. We’re both 5’10" so it makes switching fairly simple ---
**Author:** ![Kkrose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Kkrose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kkrose)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/23 "2010-06-17T05:28:11Z")
I much prefer to be the front spoon. I like to be held. However, so does he, so we switch back and forth. For the record, he has about a foot on me but I have no problem being the back spoon. I just like the front better. ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 7:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/24 "2010-06-17T07:26:28Z")
I like holding on to him and he likes holding on to me - it’s win/win ---
**Author:** ![MaceMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4bbf92/32.png) [@MaceMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaceMan)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 8:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/25 "2010-06-17T08:02:38Z")
I hate being the back spoon for very long, because I don’t know what to do with my arm on the side facing the bed. It’s very, very uncomfortable. How can people sleep this way? ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 8:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/26 "2010-06-17T08:03:52Z")
> [@MaceMan](#): > > I hate being the back spoon for very long, because I don’t know what to do with my arm on the side facing the bed. It’s very, very uncomfortable. How can people sleep this way? This is my exact problem. The bottom arm feels awkward no matter where I put it. ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 8:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/27 "2010-06-17T08:07:55Z")
I like being on the back, but I turn in my sleep so it never lasts. Obligatory [XKCD](http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/mattress.png). ---
**Author:** ![Race\_Harley](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ecccb3/32.png) [@Race\_Harley](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Race_Harley)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 8:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/28 "2010-06-17T08:56:32Z")
Male, back spoon… easy access. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 11:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/29 "2010-06-17T11:13:08Z")
Female and I like being the front spoon. However, my husband also likes being the front spoon, so we trade off a bit. But I usually get to be the front spoon. ---
**Author:** ![Dead\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9fc29f/32.png) [@Dead\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dead_Cat)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 12:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/30 "2010-06-17T12:16:50Z")
> [@kittenblue](#): > > Um…do I really need to draw a picture? With the female as the front spoon, the male can wrap a hand around the interesting things on a female’s front, while the male’s interesting bits are snuggled nicely against or between the comfy bits on the female’s backside, where she can be instantly made aware of any changes in the state of readiness of said bit. Plus he can throw his leg over (you always wondered where that phrase came from, didn’t you?) and kind of pull her close, while nibbling on her neck. This sums up my thoughts exactly, and is why I voted for “male, back spoon”. That’s not to say I don’t enjoy being the front spoon on occasion (for, er, obvious reasons), but back is the norm for me. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 12:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/31 "2010-06-17T12:28:56Z")
I like both, but when we’re sleeping I have to be the back spoon because I feel crushed by my husband the other way after a while. ---
**Author:** ![Johanna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johanna/32/8318_2.png) [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/32 "2010-06-17T12:43:45Z")
_I’m female and I have no preference._ We’re two women and we do it either way randomly. Feels just as good either way. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/33 "2010-06-17T13:21:37Z")
Male here- I’m usually the back spoon, but we don’t sleep that way. In fact, neither of us can sleep while touching the other person; we each stay on our own sides of the bed to sleep, thankyouverymuch. But for morning wakey-time snuggling, I’m often in the back. Sometimes, though, we’ll both need to change positions, so we’ll roll over and I’ll be in the front. That gives her the opportunity for a reacharound, which is a nice way to begin the day. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/34 "2010-06-17T13:45:19Z")
Male, and I picked other. It really depends on what I’m in the mood for. If I want to be loving and protective, or if I want to play a little game of grindy grindy, I’m the back spoon. If I want to get some sleep, I’m the front spoon. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/35 "2010-06-17T13:54:58Z")
> [@Audrey\_Levins](#): > > I just want a realistic explanation for why guys are always so much HOTTER than girls. Like these big male furnaces. All of my girlfriends swear it’s true with their guys, too. Where is this heat coming from? Greater muscle mass, generally speaking. Muscle gives off heat in a way that (adult, white) fat cells don’t. That’s also why y’all lose weight easier and faster, too, darnit. Muscle cells burn more energy than fat cells. That being said, I’m a female furnace. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/36 "2010-06-17T15:27:22Z")
I never really thought about the temperature thing. I get hot easily, so maybe that’s one reason why I like to be the back spoon. > [@MaceMan](#): > > I hate being the back spoon for very long, because I don’t know what to do with my arm on the side facing the bed. It’s very, very uncomfortable. How can people sleep this way? You put it so that the front spoon is resting their head on it. Then you can use both hands/arms on the front spoon. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/37 "2010-06-17T17:43:05Z")
I choose, “I’m female and I prefer to be the front spoon.” but I don’t get any real choice in the matter. For all he’s a laid-back, undemanding fellow when he’s awake; the Devil’s Grandfather is a tyrant in his sleep. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/38 "2010-06-17T19:34:29Z")
Female, straight; usually prefer being the front spoon, but sometimes like being the back spoon. Very tall and usually date guys about the same height as me, so height difference usually doesn’t factor in. I’m another one of those who can’t cuddle all night, though, much as I’d like to. If I want to get any sleep, sooner or later I have to shove my partner to the other side of the bed. > [@Audrey\_Levins](#): > > I just want a realistic explanation for why guys are always so much HOTTER than girls. Like these big male furnaces. All of my girlfriends swear it’s true with their guys, too. I get cold very easily–many jokes through the years about me being cold-blooded. All my boyfriends have been like furnaces. > [@MaceMan](#): > > I hate being the back spoon for very long, because I don’t know what to do with my arm on the side facing the bed. It’s very, very uncomfortable. How can people sleep this way? There’s an xkcd for tha– > [@EvilTOJ](#): > > Obligatory [XKCD](http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/mattress.png). Dammit! ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/39 "2010-06-17T19:44:05Z")
> [@Race\_Harley](#): > > Male, back spoon… easy access. 😃 Yes… this is actually called sporking. ---
**Author:** ![ZenBeam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/3ab097/32.png) [@ZenBeam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZenBeam)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494/40 "2010-06-17T23:05:39Z")
> [@Not\_a\_Platypus](#): > > Ha! It’s the opposite here. I had an ex that would (jokingly) pick my leg up when we were snuggling to make sure he wasn’t burnt 😛 It gets even worse if I’ve been sleeping. I was so cold once, my wife had to check if I was still breathing… (not making that up) I put down “no preference”, but really I like doing both. Always one or the other wouldn’t be as good. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-way-do-you-spoon/543494.md?page=3)