# Whistling at Women? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 9, 2013, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935 "2013-05-09T22:20:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 11
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 12:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/201 "2013-05-14T00:47:40Z")
> [@colander](#): > > It’s just your imagination. Love that [song.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5Z9-QCmZyw) ---
**Author:** ![Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f475e1/32.png) [@Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jimmy_Chitwood)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/202 "2013-05-14T00:52:19Z")
And I’m gonna make I’m gonna make you love me Oh, oh, yes I will Ooh, I will Yes I will I’m gonna make you love me ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/203 "2013-05-14T00:57:43Z")
Featuring both the Temptations and Diana Ross. I’m gonna call that one a wash. ---
**Author:** ![midnight-dreary](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba8739/32.png) [@midnight-dreary](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/midnight-dreary)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/204 "2013-05-14T01:50:03Z")
On Saturday night, I went out for dinner. I had a knee length dress on. It is made of a opaque purple material, with a black lace overlay. It is not a tight dress. It has a V neck and straps, no sleeves, However, was wearing a bolero that covered my cleavage and my upper arms. I had black, opaque pantyhose on I had boots on. The only skin I was showing was from my elbows to my hands, and from neck to my head. Yet, I had three people whistle/yell at me. Was I ‘asking for it’? Was I ‘showing too much skin?’ Some people’s attitudes make SMH. ---
**Author:** ![Askthepizzaguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/askthepizzaguy/32/9405_2.png) [@Askthepizzaguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askthepizzaguy)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/205 "2013-05-14T01:59:57Z")
> [@colander](#): > > honestly this is fucking gross and i don’t really give a shit how many hilarious tipping rants you’ve posted in the past Sorry, was a joke. I couldn’t really think of any, to be honest. ---
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/206 "2013-05-14T17:29:42Z")
> [@midnight-dreary](#): > > On Saturday night, I went out for dinner. > > I had a knee length dress on. > It is made of a opaque purple material, with a black lace overlay. > It is not a tight dress. > It has a V neck and straps, no sleeves, > However, was wearing a bolero that covered my cleavage and my upper arms. > I had black, opaque pantyhose on > I had boots on. > > The only skin I was showing was from my elbows to my hands, and from neck to my head. > > Yet, I had three people whistle/yell at me. > > Was I ‘asking for it’? > > Was I ‘showing too much skin?’ > > Some people’s attitudes make SMH. Today I had tied back unbrushed (greying) hair, slightly tatty purple leggings, old hill walking boots, a brown outdoorsy jacket, and got whistled at for the first time in years by two neds in a sportscar. I blame this thread 😛 In all seriousness, my reaction wasn’t to be flattered or threatened, I was more insulted - it was very much a sarcastic whistle as much as “you think we’d _seriously_ be whistling at you?” with accompanying hoots. I still zipped up my coat to cover my chest more though, just in case. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/207 "2013-05-14T17:59:36Z")
Are we sharing stories now? I totally should have sicced the cops on this dude for annoying me last night. This is what I was wearing: [ul] [li]Brown, huge and flowy, cute-ish/bum-ish brown sweater[/li][li]Black tank beneath sweater[/li][li]Jeans[/li][li]Ballet flats[/li][li]Yellow corduroy pea coat[/li][/ul] Dressed like a regular lady of the night, I was! Some idiot on a bike didn’t whistle at me, but slowed down to play the “Hey baby” game. I ignored it because that’s what I do to guys who yell “Hey baby” at me, which prompted him to slow down, inquire about my final destination and marital status, etc, before I said “Leave me alone.” Pretty clear, right? Nope! Chucklefuck kept bothering me, at which point I let out a heavy sigh of irritation. Then he told me I had an attitude problem, followed by something else in vexed tone that I didn’t catch because I crossed the street to get away from him. Once on the other side of the street I passed a parked cop car and one of the cops said to me, nodding toward dumb ass, “You all right?” I told him I was fine and that crossing the street finally gave him the hint. Cop said “Okay, good” and it was done. I know the cops would have gladly hassled him considering they offered and this was in Wrigleyhell on Cubs night (anyone who’s been knows what I’m talking) where cops \*love \*hassling people. Don’t know why I didn’t. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/208 "2013-05-14T18:09:08Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > I crossed the street to get away from him. It’s okay, so long as you got his address. A lady always mails thank you notes. > [@Melbourne](#): > > And it’s a big enough gift that any kind of price is worth it. ---
**Author:** ![voltaire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voltaire/32/313_2.png) [@voltaire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voltaire)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/209 "2013-05-14T18:49:37Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > Then he told me I had an attitude problem, followed by something else in vexed tone that I didn’t catch because I crossed the street to get away from him. > > Once on the other side of the street I passed a parked cop car and one of the cops said to me, nodding toward dumb ass, “You all right?” I told him I was fine and that crossing the street finally gave him the hint. I guess we finally got the answer to why the “hen” crossed the road… ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/210 "2013-05-14T19:00:01Z")
> [@midnight-dreary](#): > > On Saturday night, I went out for dinner. > > I had a knee length dress on. > It is made of a opaque purple material, with a black lace overlay. > It is not a tight dress. > It has a V neck and straps, no sleeves, > However, was wearing a bolero that covered my cleavage and my upper arms. > I had black, opaque pantyhose on > I had boots on. > > The only skin I was showing was from my elbows to my hands, and from neck to my head. > > Yet, I had three people whistle/yell at me. > > Was I ‘asking for it’? > > Was I ‘showing too much skin?’ > > Some people’s attitudes make SMH. I wanted to respond to this post and the quote “Was I ‘asking’ for it?'” I think we’d have to know you personally to be able to answer that question, and, unless I’m mistaken, none of us do. So, being that I’m a friend to almost everyone on SDMB, I’m not prepared to judge you on what you’ve described. Thanks Quasi ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/211 "2013-05-14T19:10:18Z")
Stories? I got stories. Last weekend, I decided to go shopping at the mall. I was wearing jeans, my “Women Belong In The House and Senate” t shirt, and some old flip flops. I had brushed my hair, but barely. I think I had some pink lipgloss on, but that was more because the blistering sun had dried my lips and I was out of chapstick. Anyway, I digress. I walk into a shop and hear, “AYO! GIRL!” shouted at me from across the store. I assume it’s just some idiot shopper, so I ignore and go about my business. A second later I hear the guy getting dressed down as I’m walking by and I quickly realize _he was a fucking store employee._ As I walked by, he said to his manager, “Sorry! I’m just saying she looks good, ok?! It just came out!” while pointing at me. Fun fact: _I was in Saks_ when this happened. ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/212 "2013-05-14T19:16:43Z")
Heh, just last night I was walking from my car to my front door and some guy yelled out his car window ‘Rip your skirt off!’ I’m confused, because I really don’t look like a member of Bucks Fizz. ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/213 "2013-05-14T19:27:42Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > Stories? I got stories. > > Last weekend, I decided to go shopping at the mall. I was wearing jeans, my “Women Belong In The House and Senate” t shirt, and some old flip flops. I had brushed my hair, but barely. I think I had some pink lipgloss on, but that was more because the blistering sun had dried my lips and I was out of chapstick. Anyway, I digress. > > I walk into a shop and hear, “AYO! GIRL!” shouted at me from across the store. I assume it’s just some idiot shopper, so I ignore and go about my business. A second later I hear the guy getting dressed down as I’m walking by and I quickly realize _he was a fucking store employee._ As I walked by, he said to his manager, “Sorry! I’m just saying she looks good, ok?! It just came out!” while pointing at me. > > Fun fact: _I was in Saks_ when this happened. I’m sorry, but I don’t really know you, so I’m not sure whether or not you were “asking for it”. Perhaps if you send me close-up shots of your fingers and wrists dusted in powdered sugar? It’s just what message board friends do when they’re getting to know one another… and I am friend to all! ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/214 "2013-05-14T19:32:08Z")
> [@Quasimodem](#): > > I wanted to respond to this post and the quote “Was I ‘asking’ for it?'” > > I think we’d have to know you personally to be able to answer that question, and, unless I’m mistaken, none of us do. > > So, being that I’m a friend to almost everyone on SDMB, I’m not prepared to judge you on what you’ve described. > > Thanks > > Quasi Wait, you are saying there was a possibility she was “asking for it”? That’s pretty messed up. ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/215 "2013-05-14T19:41:25Z")
> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > Wait, you are saying there was a possibility she was “asking for it”? That’s pretty messed up. Welcome to Chinatown. Would you like a tiny ornamental parasol? ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/216 "2013-05-14T19:43:08Z")
> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > Wait, you are saying there was a possibility she was “asking for it”? That’s pretty messed up. Nope. Reread the post. ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/217 "2013-05-14T20:28:02Z")
> [@Quasimodem](#): > > Nope. Reread the post. Maybe I am being dense, but I took from what you wrote as “we don’t know you well enough to say if you were asking for it or not, so it’s a possibility you were.” Maybe you better explain. ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/218 "2013-05-14T20:42:57Z")
Nope. I don’t feel an explanation is necessary. No opinion one way or the other because I don’t know her. What part of that is escaping you? ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/219 "2013-05-14T20:46:07Z")
> [@Quasimodem](#): > > Nope. I don’t feel an explanation is necessary. No opinion one way or the other because I don’t know her. What part of that is escaping you? Ok then. I was correct in my original post. ---
**Author:** ![gracer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8e7dd6/32.png) [@gracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gracer)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2013, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935/220 "2013-05-14T21:23:44Z")
> [@midnight-dreary](#): > > On Saturday night, I went out for dinner. > > I had a knee length dress on. > It is made of a opaque purple material, with a black lace overlay. > It is not a tight dress. > It has a V neck and straps, no sleeves, > However, was wearing a bolero that covered my cleavage and my upper arms. > I had black, opaque pantyhose on > I had boots on. > > The only skin I was showing was from my elbows to my hands, and from neck to my head. > > Yet, I had three people whistle/yell at me. > > Was I ‘asking for it’? > > Was I ‘showing too much skin?’ > > Some people’s attitudes make SMH. > [@Quasimodem](#): > > I wanted to respond to this post and the quote “Was I ‘asking’ for it?'” > > I think we’d have to know you personally to be able to answer that question, and, unless I’m mistaken, none of us do. > > So, being that I’m a friend to almost everyone on SDMB, I’m not prepared to judge you on what you’ve described. > > Thanks > > Quasi > [@Quasimodem](#): > > Nope. I don’t feel an explanation is necessary. No opinion one way or the other because I don’t know her. What part of that is escaping you? Well let me help you with this one, **Quasimodem**. Yo, **midnight-dreary** , this past Saturday, did you approach people three people and say “would you mind please whistling/yelling at me?” What’s that? Oh, you didn’t? Well then I guess you weren’t asking for it. Huh. Well **Quasimodem** , it seems that without knowing her personally it is actually pretty easy to have an opinion on whether she was “asking for it”. :smack: [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935.md?page=10) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whistling-at-women/657935.md?page=12)