# White people: your use of the N word

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/white-people-your-use-of-the-n-word/920043>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [September 7, 2020, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/white-people-your-use-of-the-n-word/920043 "2020-09-07T17:56:00Z")\
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**Post date:** [September 10, 2020, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/white-people-your-use-of-the-n-word/920043/177 "2020-09-10T21:31:41Z")

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> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#):
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> First off, they weren’t expressing “romantic interest”. They were expressing the desire to have sex with me which is insulting as hell to anyone that believes considers sex only for a marriage relationship and a marriage is only possible for me with someone of my own culture and ethnicity. I’ve always been open about that (i.e., it usually comes up in conversation immediately when people ask about dating or family relationship). I wasn’t married in college, but I wore a wedding ring and used Mrs. for introductions in order to avoid men trying to flirt with me. If some guy can’t read those signs that I wasn’t to be bothered with, or let’s be realistic, choose to ignore them in order to suggest I engage in an immoral act, I’ll use whatever tools are available to get rid of him. And I am not light skinned enough to qualify as white.

Thanks for answering the question. Your race and skin color are irrelevant for this discussion – you chose to use the rhetorical tools of white supremacism against black men because they behaved in a way you found inappropriate due to your culture. Similar, in fact, to the way that many Southern white people used the tools (rhetorical and otherwise) of white supremacism against black men because they behaved in a way they found inappropriate due to their culture (say, dating or expressing interest in a white woman). Those Southern whites, including many in the KKK, certainly believed that a black man wanting to date a white woman was “utterly despicable and merits at the least most vile slur” and worse.

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