# Who has better orgasms? Men or women? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 12, 2013, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128 "2013-12-12T02:19:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 8:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/21 "2013-12-12T08:58:09Z")
> [@DataX](#): > > To the women who say their orgasms are better: > > Have you ever masturbated… > while driving? > > Apologies for whoever I stole that from. They’ve been known to do it while _walking_. I recall the case of a woman who ended up in the emergency room after she fell over and hit her head while shopping; it was discovered that she’d fallen over because she was walking around with a vibrator plugged into herself, and an orgasm made her trip. ---
**Author:** ![DataX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@DataX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DataX)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 9:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/22 "2013-12-12T09:13:37Z")
> [@Cerealbox](#): > > Sexual behavior isn’t the same as sexual pleasure. Women are averse to public displays of sexuality for a variety of reasons - I think there may even be an inborn behavior tendencies that keep us as the pursuers and they the harder-to-get-gender. They also engage in less risky behavior in general to begin with. And I the only person I ever met who said they had masturbated while driving before was a woman. Women could even be less kinky than men (though I don’t think it’s fair when 90% of all kinky things seem to be the things that are less comfortable for them than for us - and on top of that, I have yet to have a girlfriend who was anything near prudish). I do think women’s sex drive is less than men’s at least earlier in life, which has to do with that revving them up speed thing I mentioned earlier. Though I have read that women’s sex drive and ease at which they can orgasm keep going up long after men have started to calm down sexually. But none of that speaks to whether they are enjoying sex more or less than men. > > And as far as that fluid thing is - it’s all in your head. Ask anyone who’s had a vasectomy. Orgasm pleasure has nothing to do with fluid. 1. I have had a vasectomy 2. a vasectomy only decreases fluid amount ~ 3% and is not noticeable 3. It is absolutely not in my head - the more that comes out - the better it feels. I am not sure if you are a guy or a girl (you mention girlfriends, but you could still be a woman). If you are a woman - ask a guy. If you are a guy - I am pretty sure you are in the minority in believing that the amount you ejaculate has no bearing on physical pleasure. I am open to believing other people feel differently - but since you seem to think that a vasectomy magically gets rid of semen - I am going to suggest perhaps my knowledge of the male reproductive system is superior 🙂 ETA: I see I only had to look up to see you were a dude. I will take your data point into consideration and believe you when you say the fluid amount doesn’t mean much to you. Have you ever had one without semen? I really think you’d feel differently, but I could be wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 9:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/23 "2013-12-12T09:42:24Z")
> [@DataX](#): > > To the women who say their orgasms are better: > > Have you ever masturbated… > while driving? Masturbated … whom? … while driving. ---
**Author:** ![Duke\_of\_York](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f6c823/32.png) [@Duke\_of\_York](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke_of_York)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 12:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/24 "2013-12-12T12:10:53Z")
> [@Cerealbox](#): > > men. > And as far as that fluid thing is - it’s all in your head. Ask anyone who’s had a vasectomy. Orgasm pleasure has nothing to do with fluid. Take some flomax for a few days, I think you’ll find you’re wrong. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 1:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/25 "2013-12-12T13:14:14Z")
A friend had to remove her genital piercing (captive bead ring in her clitoral hood) because she was unable to walk around without stimulation. She had a desk job, and walking across the room would get her dangerously close to orgasm. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 1:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/26 "2013-12-12T13:44:22Z")
> [@NoClueBoy](#): > > I have good ones every time, sometimes they’re really good. > > My wife has a few levels. > 1- enjoying the act, feels good. > 2- The Moaner, what she calls a mini-O. > 3- when I really work on her, she has a Screamer. It wears her out. > > Totally anecdotal, and the sample size is two people, but there ya go. This has been my experience with my ex-wife and any other long term GF. I’m theorizing here, but I think the problem with LTRs is, once the guys knows all the right buttons to push to get his woman to happy town, it’s hard not to take shortcuts sometimes. Which leaves the lady feeling #1 or #2 of **NoClueBoy** ’s post. However, if you take the scenic route to happy town (in other words, take your time.), the end result will be a more explosive orgasm for her. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/27 "2013-12-12T14:03:57Z")
Very good point, **Shakes**! Often, my wife tells me to go for it, iow, she won’t get anymore out of it than #1 or a mild #2, so just let go and focus on my climax. Thus, I always get to have at least a good orgasm. When she is in the mood, I “play” a lot with her. Take my time, really focus on her pleasure. That’s when her #3s happen. Every now and then, we both have extremely powerful Os together, THAT is awesome! But, rare. And, unlike a Penthouse Forum letter, I can’t predict it or force it. So, for volume and regularity, we men have it. For ultra intense pleasure, from time to time, women have it. Obviously, this is very much YMMV ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/28 "2013-12-12T14:39:55Z")
> [@Cerealbox](#): > > And as far as that fluid thing is - it’s all in your head. Ask anyone who’s had a vasectomy. Orgasm pleasure has nothing to do with fluid. Sorry, but you’re just wrong about this. As noted above, some guys who take or have had to take Flomax or similar medication suffer a side effect of loss of ejaculation. The best analogy I can come up with is when you feel a big sneeze coming on, it’s building, building, and then disappears. The buildup to orgasm is the same as it always was, and there is an actual orgasm, but the pleasure of it is reduced by about 50% or more due to lack of ejaculate. Having a vasectomy has no noticeable effect on the amount of ejaculate. And my wife and I have both masturbated while driving, so there’s that. ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/29 "2013-12-12T14:47:58Z")
The classic Rusty Warren line: “When you stick your finger in your ear to scratch it, which feels better – your finger or your ear?” ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/30 "2013-12-12T15:04:36Z")
> [@Inna\_Minnit](#): > > From what I hear, women can ejaculate too. I dunno. Yep. The several that I’ve known over the years have described that type of orgasm as different but not necessarily better. > [@kayaker](#): > > A friend had to remove her genital piercing (captive bead ring in her clitoral hood) because she was unable to walk around without stimulation. She had a desk job, and walking across the room would get her dangerously close to orgasm. A FWB had to remove her’s for the same reason. She would orgasm by shifting in her chair. She is the most orgasmic person I have ever met. I would try to get her to count them but she always lost count. Always double digits to my 1 or two. She sometimes got to around 50. So multiples make women win this contest in a landslide. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/31 "2013-12-12T15:13:33Z")
> [@CalMeacham](#): > > The classic Rusty Warren line: > > “When you stick your finger in your ear to scratch it, which feels better – your finger or your ear?” Depends on which had the greater itch, I suppose. ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/32 "2013-12-12T15:37:31Z")
> [@Doctor\_Jackson](#): > > Depends on which had the greater itch, I suppose. Dunno. I rarely scratch my finger with my ear. But that line of reasoning leads to odd things. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/33 "2013-12-12T16:06:40Z")
> [@the\_diego](#): > > For men, easier during sex. For Women, easier elsewhere. They (women) can orgasm while attending a board meeting with just their legs crossed. > > Conclusion: a tie. Was there a race? Will there be a rematch…? _dream segway_ \*Its a fine afternoon, here at Belmont, and the second race is about to begin. To repeat the last minute changes, number 6, “Crazy Yanker” has been scratched from today’s race. There will be no exacta or trifecta wagering on this event, odd-even parking is in effect and Lasix is highly encouraged. December is Special Events month at Belmont; be with is on the 21st for Candy Cane Day… and the 28th for Half Priced Drinks Day. Fun for the Whole family…! And now… Its Pants Time! At the first turn its Turgid Slam taking an early lead with Pecos Thrill coming up hard, Fappy Flaps, Wigglin Jill, Kerfluffle Shuffle, and 3 lengths back its Lubed Rube bringing up the rear… ---
**Author:** ![baileygrrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e19b73/32.png) [@baileygrrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/baileygrrrl)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/34 "2013-12-12T16:14:06Z")
I think women have the better orgasms. Once my husband ejaculates, he’s pretty much out of the sex mood and off for a smoke. I on the other hand am barely able to move or speak for a while. My orgasms radiate out to my toes and finger tips. ---
**Author:** ![Lucas\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucas_jackson/32/303_2.png) [@Lucas\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucas_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/35 "2013-12-12T16:17:23Z")
I voted men based on my experience. I think a more interesting poll would have looked like this: I’m a man, men. I’m a man, women. I’m a woman, men. I’m a woman, women. ---
**Author:** ![2ManyTacos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/2/3da27b/32.png) [@2ManyTacos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/2ManyTacos)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/36 "2013-12-12T16:32:28Z")
Hmm, I dunno. For those of us guys here who are capable of having more than one orgasm back-to-back, all of us would probably admit that any O’s after the first are undoubtedly more powerful and pleasurable than the initial go-around. If that same pattern of heightened intensity carries over to the multiple-orgasmic female, and then you carry that out to five-ten orgasms in succession…shit, I’d probably be on the fuckin’ floor. So yeah, as a man, I think it’s safe to say that women take this one just because they can experience more than one orgasm in quick succession. Then again, maybe not. Women do seem to be far less sexually _motivated_ than men, so if they’re really deriving all of this superior pleasure from their orgasms, then why aren’t they out there trying to experience this feeling as much as possible? It’s seems as if it’s always men, after all, who are the ones constantly trying to get themselves off. Interesting question in any case. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/37 "2013-12-12T17:02:03Z")
> [@2ManyTacos](#): > > Then again, maybe not. Women do seem to be far less sexually _motivated_ than men, so if they’re really deriving all of this superior pleasure from their orgasms, then why aren’t they out there trying to experience this feeling as much as possible? It’s seems as if it’s always men, after all, who are the ones constantly trying to get themselves off. Or maybe you are hanging out with the wrong women. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/38 "2013-12-12T17:07:10Z")
> [@Loach](#): > > Or maybe you are hanging out with the wrong women. 😃 It’s the tacos. Makes you taste funny, or so I hear. ---
**Author:** ![Lukeinva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lukeinva/32/17872_2.png) [@Lukeinva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lukeinva)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/39 "2013-12-12T17:28:58Z")
Men have died having orgasms… that there should tell you something. ---
**Author:** ![Mr\_Quatro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/bc8723/32.png) [@Mr\_Quatro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr_Quatro)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2013, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128/40 "2013-12-12T18:12:50Z")
> [@CalMeacham](#): > > The classic Rusty Warren line: > > “When you stick your finger in your ear to scratch it, which feels better – your finger or your ear?” That’s funny and you even gave credit to Rusty … what about scratching between your toes though … no doubt in my mind that my toes feel better lol I can’t believe women are winning this poll … perhaps it’s true. I remember a woman having an orgasm sitting on the bar when I was posing her for a picture, as a old western floosy, in an antique photo studio I was a photographer in. She really was enjoying the moment too. Some of these stories about women’s climax’s sound like the stories I heard in the Navy called sea stories … could it really be true that some of them were true? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-has-better-orgasms-men-or-women/676128.md?page=3)