# Who here has done the Eharmony thing? Opinions, please **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 1, 2007, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379 "2007-06-01T18:29:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2007, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/22 "2007-06-03T14:13:43Z")
Maybe this [Reuter’s story](http://www.reuters.com/article/wtMostRead/idUSN3122132120070531) sheds a little light on the creepy factor: > [@](#): > > eHarmony was founded in 2000 by evangelical Christian Dr. Neil Clark Warren and had strong early ties with the influential religious conservative group Focus on the Family… ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2007, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/23 "2007-06-03T18:52:22Z")
[QUOTE=amarinth] At that point, it ignored all of my restrictions (within 50 miles? hah - unless 3000 and 50 are considered similar as they’re both numbers that end in “0.”) [/QUOTE] I thought I was the only one! Yeah getting “matches” from thousands of miles away when I’d specified 25 or 50 miles? Whatever. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2007, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/24 "2007-06-03T18:54:59Z")
I got the same “undatable” message from eHarmony. I met exactly one person from OKCupid. It was a very quiet website for me (this was in January of 2006). Nobody ever seemed to write back. Match was a goldmine. I literally had one week lined up with four different girls, four days in a row, and all of them were good dates. If I were a player, this is the site I would use. But I found my current SO on Match, so those other three dates had to go post haste. I did Yahoo! Personals for a spell in 2004, and that sucked for me as well. So, in my experience, Match was the best match for me. Plenty of down-to-earth girls, didn’t meet any “crazies,” girls were up for meeting within a week of writing them. That’s my unreserved recommendation. ---
**Author:** ![Lok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e8c25b/32.png) [@Lok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lok)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2007, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/25 "2007-06-03T19:03:58Z")
[QUOTE=DianaG] FWIW, I was on OK Cupid for about 5 minutes. Well, I’m STILL on there, sans picture and most info. [/QUOTE] Try this, log in, click on My Account\>Edit Settings. At the bottom, at the bottom of the page click on Show Delete Account Options. Put in your password, then delete your account. [QUOTE=DianaG] (Honestly, if anyone REALLY wants to get into my pants, your best shot is if you can tell me how to delete that damned account.) [/QUOTE] So, how you doin’? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_Hildo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/bbce88/32.png) [@Johnny\_Hildo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_Hildo)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2007, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/26 "2007-06-03T19:04:01Z")
[QUOTE=pherorama] If you’re going to go with a dating site, I’d suggest [www.okcupid.com](http://www.okcupid.com) Not as restrictive as eHarmony, and free. [/QUOTE] OKCupid isn’t free. Paying members can write to you and you can respond, but if you want to initiate an email you gotta pay. Definitely beats Match but few in my area seem to use it. Seems that New York is a hotbed of swanky, attractive chicks using that service, though. Hmm, I’ll have to move there one day. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2007, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/27 "2007-06-03T19:15:17Z")
[QUOTE=Johnny Hildo] OKCupid isn’t free. Paying members can write to you and you can respond, but if you want to initiate an email you gotta pay. [/QUOTE] When did this change? It used to be free for the longest time. ---
**Author:** ![Nametag](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nametag/32/406_2.png) [@Nametag](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nametag)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2007, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/28 "2007-06-03T19:20:54Z")
I’ve never seen anything on OKCupid that has to be paid for; are you sure you’re not thinking of some other service that has “cupid” in it somewhere? ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2007, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/29 "2007-06-03T19:22:11Z")
OkCupid is absolutely free. I just messaged someone to be sure, right before I DELETED MY ACCOUNT!!! Yay! Thanks **Lok**! 😃 Oh, and a deal’s a deal. Let me know if it’s worth the trip to you. Sight unseen, since I DELETED MY OKCUPID ACCOUNT!!! Oh happy day!!! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Lok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e8c25b/32.png) [@Lok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lok)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2007, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/30 "2007-06-03T19:27:24Z")
That depends, trip to where? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![JoeSki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b487fb/32.png) [@JoeSki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JoeSki)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2007, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/31 "2007-06-03T19:30:04Z")
[QUOTE=Johnny Hildo] OKCupid isn’t free. Paying members can write to you and you can respond, but if you want to initiate an email you gotta pay. Definitely beats Match but few in my area seem to use it. Seems that New York is a hotbed of swanky, attractive chicks using that service, though. Hmm, I’ll have to move there one day. [/QUOTE] I think you’re confused with another site. I’ve never given OKCupid a dime, have sent messages to users, and have received back responses. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_Hildo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/bbce88/32.png) [@Johnny\_Hildo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_Hildo)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2007, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/32 "2007-06-03T19:32:11Z")
[QUOTE=Nametag] I’ve never seen anything on OKCupid that has to be paid for; are you sure you’re not thinking of some other service that has “cupid” in it somewhere? [/QUOTE] Ah, you’re right. I was thinking of FastCupid, which is affiliated with The Onion Personals. ---
**Author:** ![Scribble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scribble/32/3317_2.png) [@Scribble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scribble)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2020, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/35 "2020-07-11T06:14:09Z")
New York is dating hell for women and dating heaven for men. The male : female ratio would definitely be in your favor. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [July 11, 2020, 6:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/36 "2020-07-11T06:28:12Z")
I’ve used EHarmony (sometimes called “E, Ha, Money”.) The website is near worthless. They charge an immense amount of money to give you an extremely narrow tailored pool of dating prospects who are still no more useful than anyone else. Other websites delivered far better results - genuine people, not bots - for far less money. ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2020, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/37 "2020-07-12T15:28:32Z")
I found my wife on eHarmony. So did my best friend. So it can work. Incidentally, both of us and our wives are not at all religious, despite its apparently religious origins. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2020, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/38 "2020-07-12T16:29:26Z")
> [@RickJay](#): > > I found my wife on eHarmony. So did my best friend. I thought you were going somewhere else with this… ---
**Author:** ![PastTense](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pasttense/32/14550_2.png) [@PastTense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PastTense)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2020, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379/39 "2020-07-12T16:43:24Z")
Here is a Wikipedia comparison of online dating services: > **[Comparison of online dating services](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comparison_of_online_dating_services)** > > Pages for logged out editors learn more > > This is a partial, non-exhaustive list of notable online dating websites and mobile apps. > All services in the list that have an entry, whether they support heterosexual connections, currently support homosexual connections. > Users can swipe up for more serious dating, swipe down for casual hookups. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-has-done-the-eharmony-thing-opinions-please/406379.md?page=1)