# Who here is queer? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 14, 2000, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217 "2000-04-14T18:41:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![AWB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/bb73d2/32.png) [@AWB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AWB)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2000, 12:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/41 "2000-04-15T12:54:00Z")
I’m a heterosexual male. _Not that there’s anything **wrong** with that!_ * * * Wrong thinking is punished, right thinking is just as swiftly rewarded. You’ll find it an effective combination. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2000, 1:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/42 "2000-04-15T13:15:00Z")
So, I was at dinner with a rather nosy family friend the other day. Upon hearing that our dog sleeps on the bed with us, she asked what the dog did when my husband and I, ahem, got friendly. I told her the truth, which is that he just curls up and minds his own business. But I missed a great opportunity. I should have told her that the dog joined right in. That would teach her not to ask nosy questions at the dinner table! Not that there is anything _wrong_ with bestiality… ---
**Author:** ![the\_Scarlet\_Pimpernel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f1d935/32.png) [@the\_Scarlet\_Pimpernel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_Scarlet_Pimpernel)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2000, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/43 "2000-04-15T16:12:00Z")
Present!..bi, mostly interested in women. * * * Hey, sweetie! You want a Danish with that coffee? – _another custom design by the mind of Wally_ Whan that Aprillè with hise shourès soote The droghte of March had percèd to the roote, I druv a motor thro’ Aprillè’s bliz Somme forty mile, and dam neere lyke to friz. – Bert Leston Taylor ---
**Author:** ![Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/96bed5/32.png) [@Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Patty_O_Furniture)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2000, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/44 "2000-04-15T16:20:00Z")
I resent this sophomoric attempt at getting me to out myself, and I won’t fall for it. wait a minute… ---
**Author:** ![Elthia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e274bd/32.png) [@Elthia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elthia)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2000, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/45 "2000-04-15T16:49:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by A girl: > \*\*I’M NOT GAY…boo hoo hooo! Sometimes I wish I was, but, oh well. There’s just something about men that I like. 🙂 > > Esprix, I’m going to Japan in August, why don’t you go with me? 😉 Lots of Asians over there for you to choose from! > 🙂 > A girl\*\* I’m bi. I prefer men more than half of the time, but I have and do find women I like also. I suspect it’s because I’m very femme in look, and I prefer women like me (femme in look, powerhouse mind, not afraid to be themselves). Heartless Bitches, in other words. My problem is that, in the gay scene (in my experience), femme women frequently go for butch women. I get really frustrated with the ‘there’s got to be a male/female style to the relationship’ mentality. Dammit, I _like_ pretty women! Long hair, nice waist, real breasts, and strong hearts. _drool_ Of course, I also tend toward pretty men (long hair and/or no facial hair, martial-arts style body (no overblown oafs) or geek body (scrawny, pale, glasses)). GeekGrrls unite. Or something. \> 🙂 -Elthia ---
**Author:** ![Elthia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e274bd/32.png) [@Elthia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elthia)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2000, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/46 "2000-04-15T16:51:00Z")
Oops, forgot to include my reason for posting that to A Girl’s msg. _laugh_ I’ve got this thing for asians, male OR female… (I can’t believe so many people think asians can’t be attractive, and the way movies show them is shameful.) -Elthia ---
**Author:** ![Ghost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f04885/32.png) [@Ghost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ghost)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2000, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/47 "2000-04-16T05:27:00Z")
I’m not gay, but alot of gay guys come on to me. Must be my hair and good looks…who knows. ---
**Author:** ![evilbeth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/evilbeth/32/2268_2.png) [@evilbeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/evilbeth)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2000, 8:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/48 "2000-04-16T08:31:00Z")
I guess you could count me as bi if by “bi” you can mean you have had previous (enjoyable) experiences/relationships with women but are currently (married) in a monogamous relationship with a man but if anything were to happen, you would go for women just as often as you would men (?) If not, then I am straight. 😉 * * * Those who are dancing look insane to those who cannot hear the music. * * * One-of-a-kind, custom-designed Wally sig available on request. ---
**Author:** ![Babar714](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/779978/32.png) [@Babar714](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Babar714)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2000, 10:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/49 "2000-04-16T10:09:00Z")
If I were a woman, I’d be a lesbian. Or I’d just never leave the house. ---
**Author:** ![Babar714](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/779978/32.png) [@Babar714](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Babar714)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2000, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/50 "2000-04-16T10:11:00Z")
Evilbeth, do you have a story you’d like to share with the rest of us? ---
**Author:** ![milroyj](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@milroyj](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/milroyj)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2000, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/51 "2000-04-16T14:58:00Z")
I’m not gay, my boyfriend is 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Chef\_Troy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/85f322/32.png) [@Chef\_Troy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chef_Troy)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2000, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/52 "2000-04-16T15:40:00Z")
I had a friend in college who, when asked his orientation, used to say, “Straight…but not narrow.” I loved that. * * * Live a Lush Life Da Chef ---
**Author:** ![Falcon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/49beb7/32.png) [@Falcon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Falcon)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2000, 11:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/53 "2000-04-16T23:42:00Z")
I’m with SRiddles and Mega - 90% straight (but SO not narrow), 10% bi-curious. Although, given what I _write_, you’d never guess… ---
**Author:** ![evilbeth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/evilbeth/32/2268_2.png) [@evilbeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/evilbeth)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2000, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/54 "2000-04-17T05:27:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by Babar714: > \*\*Evilbeth, do you have a story you’d like to share with the rest of us? \*\* No, not really. I just never thought about classifying myself as bisexual just because I had “experienced physical love” with females (and enjoyed it and would do again if I weren’t married.) But if that qualifies, then I guess I have to check different boxes on my surveys now! I don’t know why I never thought of it that way, I guess I just figured that since I married (a male, of course–I don’t live in Vermont) that pretty much made me straight. However, thinking about it now, if anyone who is bisexual wants to settle down in a monogamous relationship, he/she would have to decide whether his/her partner was male or female. But that doesn’t automatically make them either gay or lesbian, does it? Hey, I have reached a new understanding and I owe it all to you guys! Sorry, Babar, were you expecting a sorority sisters giggling in the shower-type response? 😉 * * * Those who are dancing look insane to those who cannot hear the music. * * * One-of-a-kind, custom-designed Wally sig available on request. ---
**Author:** ![CalifBoomer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f1d935/32.png) [@CalifBoomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalifBoomer)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2000, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/55 "2000-04-17T05:30:00Z")
Male lesbian here. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![psycat90](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@psycat90](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psycat90)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2000, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/56 "2000-04-17T14:22:00Z")
Bi-sexual checking in. Although, I have recently become monogomous with a member of the opposite sex. So I guess that makes me a non-practicing bi-sexual. * * * Alcohol and calculus don’t mix. Never drink and derive. ---
**Author:** ![Kepi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kepi/32/7251_2.png) [@Kepi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kepi)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2000, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/57 "2000-04-17T14:58:00Z")
Gay male checking in here. ---
**Author:** ![Elthia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e274bd/32.png) [@Elthia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elthia)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2000, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/58 "2000-04-17T15:20:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by evilbeth: > \*\* No, not really. I just never thought about classifying myself as bisexual just because I had “experienced physical love” with females (and enjoyed it and would do again if I weren’t married.) But if that qualifies, then I guess I have to check different boxes on my surveys now! > > I don’t know why I never thought of it that way, I guess I just figured that since I married (a male, of course–I don’t live in Vermont) that pretty much made me straight. However, thinking about it now, if anyone who is bisexual wants to settle down in a monogamous relationship, he/she would have to decide whether his/her partner was male or female. But that doesn’t automatically make them either gay or lesbian, does it? > \*\* To come to the same conclusion another way: If a bisexual person settles into a monogamous relationship, did they choose the _gender_ of the person they settled with, or did they choose the _person_? I think the latter - gender didn’t alter in any way the fact that the person was someone with whom you wanted to live the rest of your life. Just a thought. -Elthia ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_griffin-kentzel/32/14787_2.png) [@Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Griffin-Kentzel)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2000, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/59 "2000-04-17T16:00:00Z")
…just want to be counted… [http://members.aol.com/ljgrafix/rainbow.gif](http://members.aol.com/ljgrafix/rainbow.gif) * * * [image][http://members.aol.com/ljgrafix/rainbow.gif[/image]](http://members.aol.com/ljgrafix/rainbow.gif%5B/image%5D) “I don’t want realism. I want magic!” - Blanche DuBois ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_griffin-kentzel/32/14787_2.png) [@Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Griffin-Kentzel)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2000, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217/60 "2000-04-17T16:16:00Z")
…oops!.. [http://members.aol.com/ljgrafix/rainbow.gif](http://members.aol.com/ljgrafix/rainbow.gif) * * * “I don’t want realism. I want magic!” - Blanche DuBois [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-queer/16217.md?page=4)