# Who here is single and hating it? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 26, 2001, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359 "2001-11-26T20:58:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/21 "2001-11-27T00:33:55Z")
Very sorry, 'dude, I’ve been _sans_ girlfriend for, oh, can we say EXACTLY two years? It doesn’t suck once the shock of losing wears off, and I have had a good life the last 18 months (after the six months of mourning). You’ll do fine, man. You’re super! ---
**Author:** ![Cyndar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Cyndar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyndar)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/22 "2001-11-27T00:38:12Z")
Female, 32, single, never been in a relationship. Hate every second of it, but I am so jaded, cynical, screwed up, that I probably wouldn’t know how to deal with a relationship now if one came along. I’ve come to grips with the fact that I’ll most likely be single the rest of my life. ---
**Author:** ![Zappo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/b3f665/32.png) [@Zappo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zappo)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/23 "2001-11-27T00:46:30Z")
Hey **Guin** : _smooch_ SLAP! Sheesh, just trying to be friendly. . . :o Seriously **Superdude** , that stinks. But **Geobabe** is right. The next person you find will be somebody who you can have as yours alone. And you deserve that, as you are a cool guy and you won’t be alone for long. That being said, I’m currently single (not by choice) and not liking it either. It’ll get better, man. I know it will. Zap! ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Cynical](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@Mr.Cynical](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Cynical)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/24 "2001-11-27T01:14:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by LiquidLobotomy \* > \*\*Sorry to hear that bud. Nope, I actually just got married. I guess I shouldn’t have opened this thread then huh? \*\* Not necessarily. But, you shouldn’t have _posted_ to it. That’s kind of jerky. ---
**Author:** ![Genseric](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Genseric](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Genseric)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/25 "2001-11-27T01:27:03Z")
Even worse than hating it, I think I’m starting to get accustomed to it. That scares me more than anything else. ---
**Author:** ![Dale\_The\_Bold](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/41988e/32.png) [@Dale\_The\_Bold](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dale_The_Bold)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/26 "2001-11-27T01:38:33Z")
My girlfriend was deceived into thinking I was cheating and then ended up falling for another to whom she is now married. I moved across the state and found that they now live in town (we almost coincidentally ended up in the same apartment building!). So what do I do? I am making the ultimate entertainment center and restoring a classic car–both things I could never have done (at least this quickly) if I were dating/married. Sometimes late at night I feel like dying of lonliness, but then I just get back to fixing brakes or wiring up the computer to the TV. Luckily, I believe in God, so I’m waiting for that which went around to come around again. ---
**Author:** ![amarinth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3be4f8/32.png) [@amarinth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amarinth)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/27 "2001-11-27T01:49:33Z")
Not every second. There are moments here and there when I realize that I probably wouldn’t have as much freedom if I were in a relationship and/or that a bad relationship would be worse. But for the most part, being single sucks. Worst part, is having never not been single, I’m pretty sure that I’d destroy any relationship that might happen (I am accustomed to it and I’ve been alone way too long) - so I’m probably stuck here until death. Which sucks even more. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/28 "2001-11-27T02:00:14Z")
Sorry to hear about the breakup SD. It’s always hard when these things happen - take care. For me, I am single, and have been for quite some time. Apparently, I like it, because when I actually go on a date, [this](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=100893) is what happens. \ Al. ---
**Author:** ![Dale\_The\_Bold](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/41988e/32.png) [@Dale\_The\_Bold](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dale_The_Bold)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/29 "2001-11-27T02:17:55Z")
My girlfriend was deceived into thinking I was cheating and then ended up falling for another to whom she is now married. I moved across the state and found that they now live in town (we almost coincidentally ended up in the same apartment building!). So what do I do? I am making the ultimate entertainment center and restoring a classic car–both things I could never have done (at least this quickly) if I were dating/married. Sometimes late at night I feel like dying of lonliness, but then I just get back to fixing brakes or wiring up the computer to the TV. Luckily, I believe in God, so I’m waiting for that which went around to come around again. ---
**Author:** ![Playdeaux](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e99b99/32.png) [@Playdeaux](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Playdeaux)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/30 "2001-11-27T02:23:20Z")
Single sucks. I’ve been single for two years, and it’s just now getting to where I’m not miserable most of the time. I’ve done some things by myself that I enjoyed tremendously, but I can pretty much count those on one hand. All I can say is I’m sorry you’re unhappy, and it really does get better. It also helps if you take the time of being single to work on your friendships. Friends will get you through more hard times than anything else. ---
**Author:** ![GraceTX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c4cdca/32.png) [@GraceTX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GraceTX)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/31 "2001-11-27T02:24:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Dale The Bold \* > \*\*My girlfriend was deceived into thinking I was cheating and then ended up falling for another to whom she is now married. I moved across the state and found that they now live in town (we almost coincidentally ended up in the same apartment building!). So what do I do? I am making the ultimate entertainment center and restoring a classic car–both things I could never have done (at least this quickly) if I were dating/married. Sometimes late at night I feel like dying of lonliness, but then I just get back to fixing brakes or wiring up the computer to the TV. Luckily, I believe in God, so I’m waiting for that which went around to come around again. \*\* You mean like this post? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Daowajan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3bc359/32.png) [@Daowajan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daowajan)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/32 "2001-11-27T02:42:25Z")
18 and always been single. I like my autonomy, but sometimes I wish I had a girlfriend. Then I take a look at the sorry lot I _could_ be dating. :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: Substance abuse and mental problems abound unchecked. In conclusion, I’d rather be a dateless wonder than have to deal with a psycho who may steal all my clothes, set them on fire in the middle of the campus, and dance around the flames, naked and laughing maniacally. And screaming something about the patriarchy. For starters. **Guin** , if you want to make yourself feel better, go to the state fair on a Saturday, and look at some of the dirtbags that random women have attached themselves to. You’ll go home and buy yourself a dog, and I am not kidding. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/33 "2001-11-27T02:51:40Z")
I was married for 10 years and divorced for 12. I’ve been in some fairly serious relationships (engaged, living together) and played the single lifestyle wildly to the hilt (sometimes too wildly). I sometimes casually date different men or I’ll date someone exclusively for an extended period of time. I don’t know if it is the fact that I will be 40 years old next February, but honestly? I am getting a little tired and exhausted of the whole single thing. I am now to the point where I would like to bag the dating thing and just settle down into a quiet life with someone. Problem is finding someone to do this with. There is a fine balance between being over-picky and settling for just anyone. I just haven’t found it yet. So yeah, at this time in my life, being single sucks! ---
**Author:** ![cantatrice](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/45deac/32.png) [@cantatrice](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cantatrice)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/34 "2001-11-27T02:55:45Z")
Married my entire adult life and newly single (44, married 21 years). I wouldn’t say I hate it but it sure does take some getting used to. It is a much bigger culture shock than I ever imagined. ---
**Author:** ![Dale\_The\_Bold](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/41988e/32.png) [@Dale\_The\_Bold](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dale_The_Bold)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/35 "2001-11-27T02:57:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Grace \* > \*\*You mean like this post? 😃 \*\* Oh, fer cryin’ out loud. I really don’t know how that could have happened. I steer clear of the back button as much as possible. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/36 "2001-11-27T02:58:52Z")
I’m single and mostly indifferent about it. I’m not _against_ the idea of a relationship, but…I don’t work with men (any at all), I don’t drink, and very few of my girl friends have single older brothers . It doesn’t often bother me to be single, but it bothers me that it bothers my mother and brother. I’m only 24 for god’s sake, why are they so sure I’m going to end up alone if I don’t find someone soon? At least Dad keeps his thoughts, if any, on the subject to himself. Maybe I’ll meet someone at my summer job, who knows? ---
**Author:** ![Atreyu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5e9695/32.png) [@Atreyu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atreyu)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/37 "2001-11-27T03:21:17Z")
Single. It sucks. 'Nuff said. ---
**Author:** ![Maple\_Syrup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/839c29/32.png) [@Maple\_Syrup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maple_Syrup)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/38 "2001-11-27T03:41:06Z")
I’m single and each new day feels like a punch in the dick. ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Creant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b487fb/32.png) [@Miss\_Creant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Creant)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/39 "2001-11-27T03:44:36Z")
I’m tired of being single. For 5 fucking years. I’ve had the some 3-4 month guys, but nothing serious for at least 5 years and I’ve been divorced for 11. Here’s part of the problem. The guys I tend to be attracted to are STOOOPID. Or they get stupid the instant they meet me. Example, this evening. The guy I was supposed to go out with tonightcanceled because his ex called and she wanted to have a ‘long talk’ Long talk, asshole? Long talk means you are NOT SINGLE! Don’t bug me to go out with until your SINGLE! Do you not understand how this works!! ---
**Author:** ![Snooooopy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee7513/32.png) [@Snooooopy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snooooopy)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2001, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359/40 "2001-11-27T04:04:43Z")
I’ve been single my whole life except for a five-month interlude. Sometimes I think I want to find a girlfriend, but sometimes I think I’m just caught up in the “everybody ELSE is dating, so I should, too” nonsense. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-is-single-and-hating-it/95359.md?page=3)