# Who here loves me / How do I become a better poster **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 2, 2004, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309 "2004-01-02T16:42:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Kurdt\_Kobain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/258eb7/32.png) [@Kurdt\_Kobain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kurdt_Kobain)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/1 "2004-01-02T16:42:03Z")
Seems a lot of people don’t like me. If you like me, pipe up! Otherwise, advise me on being a better poster, as a lot of people do not seem to like me. ---
**Author:** ![Casey1505](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Casey1505](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Casey1505)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/2 "2004-01-02T17:41:28Z")
Not starting threads like this would be a good first step. ---
**Author:** ![Kanelda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Kanelda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kanelda)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/3 "2004-01-02T17:45:47Z")
Um, yeah. I don’t even know you and you’re making a bad impression. Threads like this are generally a bad idea. Not only do they invite flames and drama, but they make you look like an attention whore. Plus that name… I happen to be a Nirvana fan, so your name here is just… wtf? If you’re going to steal the name of a dead famous person, at least have enough respect to spell it right. ---
**Author:** ![Master\_Wang-Ka](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/master_wang-ka/32/3325_2.png) [@Master\_Wang-Ka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Master_Wang-Ka)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/4 "2004-01-02T17:51:06Z")
Being a jackass in Scylla’s heart attack thread wasn’t the best move you could make, particularly since he’s a well-liked fixture around here, whereas you are a relative newbie. On occasion, when I have expressed my opinion, people take exception to it. Rather than hang around and try to have the last word, I move on, having expressed myself. You’ll notice I wasn’t wild about Scylla’s serial methodology, but having SAID so, I SHUT UP! Needing to have the last word smacks of immaturity… a trait that doesn’t seem to go over well in these parts, I notice. I also made a point of remarking how “I like the story. I sympathize with your situation. Just didn’t like this one thing,” as opposed to “this sucks.” Specifying what your problem is can be useful. Lastly, if I have nothing to say… I say nothing. ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/5 "2004-01-02T17:51:26Z")
Diversify. I heartily disagree with various posters on, say, religion, smoking, animal rights . . . But have a grand time chatting with the same people on movies, clothes, cats . . . Let them get to know all sides of you. ---
**Author:** ![Kurdt\_Kobain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/258eb7/32.png) [@Kurdt\_Kobain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kurdt_Kobain)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/6 "2004-01-02T17:51:27Z")
Kanelda, Kurt often used ‘Kurdt Kobain’ as a pseudonym/mispelling for his name, for reasons unknown to me. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/7 "2004-01-02T17:54:31Z")
Do not post again for about one week. Spend that week reading the Board and figuring out how things tend to work here. Reflect on whether or not you can fit in and be productive. My experience in seeing people come and go over nearly three years tells me that you are hanging by a thread. I have seen plenty of people turn it around and become great posters. You can do that too. Again, quit posting for a little bit and read for a while. You are free to email me if you are sincere and we can chat a bit. Of course, I am not a Moderator and I have no powers here. I can give you my considered opinion though and that might be worth something. Do not bother me if you are not sincere though. Haj ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/8 "2004-01-02T18:05:58Z")
Ignore the fools. they don’t know what they are talking about. I really like you Ken, I have admired many of your posts. Sure those with small minds will try to disuade you Karl, they don’t want you to post, Don’t listen to them Kyle, they are probably members of the cabal and will only poison your mind. So I say best of luck Kevin you’re on my bubby list. ---
**Author:** ![Gadfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/aeb1de/32.png) [@Gadfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gadfly)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/9 "2004-01-02T18:07:45Z")
Don’t post like me. ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/10 "2004-01-02T18:39:34Z")
“I didn’t come to Korea to be liked.” “You came to the right place.” ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/11 "2004-01-02T19:23:45Z")
I don’t know, I thought your Pit thread where you posted really bad angsty teen poetry was hilarious. Of course, the humor came from people ripping you to shreds and watching you get increasingly pissed off, but hey. You’ve got to take what you can get. ---
**Author:** ![SJSB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@SJSB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SJSB)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2004, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/12 "2004-01-02T20:03:50Z")
Well, I’ll agree that in **Scylla** ’s thread, you were way too harsh. It wasn’t so much that you made your initial remark, but you then ended up making three consecutive posts. It annoys me when people do this - if you have a point to make, do it in the same post. Don’t annoy the hamsters. I’m still a relative newbie myself, but I’ve scraped through thus far by trying to be constructive, vaguely helpful and not dismissing people. And I’d agree with **Kanelda** ; after the whole poetry thing, the words “attention whore” sprung to my mind straight away. This doesn’t seem to be the place for poetry - if you are serious about progressiing in that field, then there must surely be seperate boards for that. ---
**Author:** ![wendyrules](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/85e7bf/32.png) [@wendyrules](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wendyrules)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2004, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/13 "2004-01-03T02:40:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by don’t ask \* > \*\*Ignore the fools. they don’t know what they are talking about. I really like you Ken, I have admired many of your posts. > > Sure those with small minds will try to disuade you Karl, they don’t want you to post, > > Don’t listen to them Kyle, they are probably members of the cabal and will only poison your mind. > > So I say best of luck Kevin you’re on my bubby list. \*\* 😃 Thanks, **don’t ask** , you’ve made me giggle! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![KidCharlemagne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed8c4c/32.png) [@KidCharlemagne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KidCharlemagne)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2004, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/14 "2004-01-03T04:08:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Kurdt Kobain \* > \*\*Kanelda, Kurt often used ‘Kurdt Kobain’ as a pseudonym/mispelling for his name, for reasons unknown to me. \*\* Oh, and I thought it was a mispelling for a Nirvana fan living in the mountainous regions of Northern Iraq. You are actually using a brilliant strategy for being liked on the SDMB: 1. Make a flashy entrance by offending people and starting self-referencing threads. This will get you noticed and create a foil for the post-metamorphosis you. Try and get a pit thread started about you that has at least 45 replies. 2. Position yourself as an “young, impetuous but probably well-intentioned” poster to elicit the paternal/maternal instincts of board elders. This will set you up for the next step.(You’ve pretty much got these covered, just work on the pit thread and then you’ll be ready for “The Turn Around”) 3. Begin asking questions in already existing threads in Great Debates with the stated intention of learning. Be sure to reference board elders. Extra points for referencing someone who has yet to post in the thread. Many people do vanity searches and will love that little serendipity. Tell 4 people how much you’ve learned from them. 4. Don’t use “it’s” to indicate the possessive. With that you’ll be well on your way to board popularity! ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2004, 8:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/15 "2004-01-03T08:21:14Z")
_MY_ take on this is: _as long as I’m being real whoever don’t like me can KISS MY ASS!!_ But thats just me. ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2004, 9:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/16 "2004-01-03T09:02:13Z")
I was pretty neutral on you before, having never seen your posts. But now I think: Wow, what an attention whore. I guess I see where he’s coming from. But damn. What an attention whore. I have to repeat what was said earlier: stop making threads like this. You’ve gotten some good advice, particularly from **Master Wang-Ka** , but from others as well, in this thread. Heed it, learn from it, become a better Doper. Actually, I’ll throw in my two cents as well: one thing that helped me raise others’ opinions of me IRL was to think about how others would react to something I was thinking of saying. For example, instead of cracking a joke, I would think: “What will people think?” I would put myself in other peoples’ shoes, and try to think of how they’d react to my joke. If I thought the people around me wouldn’t appreciate the joke and would just think worse of me for it, I didn’t say it. If I thought they would laugh, I said it. People like me now (again, IRL–I’m too much of a newbie here to really have established myself either way, I would think), and people also (to run with the example I gave) laugh at my jokes much more often now. I used to be a lamer. Now I’m funny (according to my friends–they’ve told me this, as in, “fetus, you’re a funny guy”) and people seem to either like me or not care either way about me (which is fine). BTW, you would be wise to listen to **Master Wang-Ka** and **Eve** in particular. I have a lot of respect for them, and I look forward to reading their every post. I think a lot of Dopers feel the same way. ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2004, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/17 "2004-01-03T14:03:25Z")
I see two futures for you here: 1. You take the excellent advice posted here, and gradually climb out of the deep pit of derision you’ve dug for yourself so far; or 2. You go on as you have been, get smacked down whenever you act like a jerk, and wind up banned. Unfortunately, my money’s on number two right now. ---
**Author:** ![Finagle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b19c9b/32.png) [@Finagle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Finagle)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2004, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/18 "2004-01-03T15:31:13Z")
At this point, I think the only way you can become a good poster is to get run over by a steam roller and then be hung on a wall with tape. ---
**Author:** ![gluteus\_maximus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f17d59/32.png) [@gluteus\_maximus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gluteus_maximus)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2004, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/19 "2004-01-03T16:00:50Z")
Register and become a member and start posting [over here](http://www.dreamingforums.com/index.php?showuser=172)… or [here](http://www.mindcontrolforums.com/index.htm) … … oh, wait… sorry, no, that second link is for **Question**. ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2004, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309/20 "2004-01-03T16:40:52Z")
> [@](#): > > At this point, I think the only way you can become a good poster is to get run over by a steam roller and then be hung on a wall with tape. Thank you, **Finagle** , for my Guffaw Of The Day. 😃 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-here-loves-me-how-do-i-become-a-better-poster/222309.md?page=2)