# Who is crushing on you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 14, 2015, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610 "2015-04-14T02:49:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/21 "2015-04-14T12:48:17Z")
I like to think that all the women in my yoga class can’t get me out of their heads. So far as I know, this turns out not to be the case. The various times in my life that women have crushed on me, it has been awkward as hell. ---
**Author:** ![Dragwyr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dragwyr/32/2855_2.png) [@Dragwyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dragwyr)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/22 "2015-04-14T13:01:38Z")
**Shagnasty** , That’s not a crush. That’s an extremely unhealthy obsession. I don’t think it is unhealthy to have a crush on someone. To me, a crush is more like an infatuation that you can control as opposed to an obsession that causes you to be uncontrollable. I don’t know of anyone who has a crush on me currently, but I have had a few in my day, usually teen girls who were much younger than me. They were all innocent and I was flattered. ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 1:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/23 "2015-04-14T13:05:05Z")
My SO’s 4 year-old nephew has a crush on me. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/24 "2015-04-14T14:10:39Z")
I’ve usually never been able to tell, unless a woman says “Hey stupid, let’s do it!” At my present age, I’m pretty sure that there are none. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/25 "2015-04-14T14:24:17Z")
I shaved my head (as in, with a blade) for the first time last week and I can tell that some of my previously totally platonic female friends are sort of reappraising. I’m happily married, so I won’t be testing the limits of this new look anytime soon. ---
**Author:** ![Crotalus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crotalus/32/41_2.png) [@Crotalus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crotalus)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/26 "2015-04-14T14:50:58Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > I wasn’t paying attention > I wasn’t paying attention > I wasn’t paying attention Many years ago, a creative writing teacher told me to avoid using a phrase too many times in one short piece of fiction. ---
**Author:** ![stillownedbysetters](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/41988e/32.png) [@stillownedbysetters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stillownedbysetters)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/27 "2015-04-14T14:58:41Z")
It’s been at least a decade since anyone has had a crush on me. ☹ But the last one I know of was very sweet. My older son had a friend who had an older brother. He was 18, I think, a high school senior at the time. For whatever reason, he developed a crush on me. He’d come over, sit on the front porch and talk with me as long as I’d let him. Sometimes he’d bring me a flower or a pretty leaf or something along those lines. It was all very innocent and lasted through the summer until he left for college. My husband thought it was hilarious and teased me unmercifully about my admirer. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/28 "2015-04-14T15:08:04Z")
No one that I know of. But according to my email, people are trying background checks on me every day! ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/29 "2015-04-14T15:20:08Z")
I’m not very good a reading people - I tend to take things at face value, so it’s entirely possible that I’ve been the object of crushes and had no clue. Not likely, but possible. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/30 "2015-04-14T15:23:22Z")
> [@DrFidelius](#): > > I am naturally smooth, suave, charming and clueless… Me too, except without the smooth, suave, and charming parts. I am told by someone at church that one of the young ladies there has a crush on me. I know the girl, who is very nice and cute in a sort of gawky, seventeen-year-old way, but I am old enough to be her grandfather as well as happily married and desirous of staying out of prison. So I avoid being alone with her, make sure I don’t treat her differently from anyone else, and so on. (She serves on a committee of which I am a member.) > [@Groucho Marx](#): > > I would never join a club that would have someone like me as a member. It’s like that - if she is crushing on me, there has got to be something wrong with her. Hopefully her tastes will improve with age. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/31 "2015-04-14T15:27:22Z")
I’m pretty certain Goldie Hawn regrets that we never hooked up. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/32 "2015-04-14T15:44:12Z")
Every woman I meet. They think I can’t tell, because they’re so good at hiding it— but I _know_, you little minxen. > [@Crotalus](#): > > Many years ago, a creative writing teacher told me to avoid using a phrase too many times in one short piece of fiction. For this one, I’m crushing on you for the next five minutes. ---
**Author:** ![Crotalus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crotalus/32/41_2.png) [@Crotalus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crotalus)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/33 "2015-04-14T15:52:35Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Every woman I meet. They think I can’t tell, because they’re so good at hiding it— but I _know_, you little minxen. > > For this one, I’m crushing on you for the next five minutes. Aw, shucks. :o ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/34 "2015-04-14T15:52:52Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > For this one, I’m crushing on you for the next five minutes. Ah, the five-minutes crush. Big Brother really has gotten soft, hasn’t he? ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/35 "2015-04-14T15:54:29Z")
> [@Crotalus](#): > > Aw, shucks. :o Too late. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/36 "2015-04-14T17:15:39Z")
I’m a high school teacher and have a lot of personality (though not really physically attractive). At any given time, there are kids who are some degree of fascinated with me. They are usually kind of “mom” crushes, not romantic at all. I think this is pretty normal for teachers. I think of them as adorable and harmless. I’ve never worried anyone would actually make a pass or something. I HAVE worried about someone being crushingly disappointed when I do something that reveals I am an ordinary person. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/37 "2015-04-14T17:22:57Z")
A cleaning lady who takes the bus in each morning to clen and babysit for a neighbor. Whenever she sees me in the yard working she always comes over to say high and if she is early I have coffee with her. I notice latey she is early more and more often. She has been getting a bit more touchy feely lately, nothing what I would call making a sexual advancement but pinching my cheeks, giving me a hug when she leaves things like that. I can feel some sexual tension going on and I really am not available but have to admit I am enjoying it a bit. ---
**Author:** ![VunderBob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/839c29/32.png) [@VunderBob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VunderBob)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/38 "2015-04-14T17:27:30Z")
Beats the hell out of me… ☹ ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/39 "2015-04-14T18:10:12Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > Nicole - I know the name doesn’t mean that much to you and I really didn’t appreciate the implications of it until recently but she has been very admittedly obsessed with me since I was high school well over two decades ago. Nicole isn’t really a normal person. She was a special needs student that literally lived down by the river in a trailer park with the worst family in town (her stepfather even goes by my user name in real life). I am not sure why she latched onto me. It may have been because I was always polite to her at least at first but it quickly spiraled into a special ed version of Fatal Attraction. > > She started stalking me at school and sneaking up behind me to punch me hard when she thought I wasn’t paying attention to her. She wasn’t a small or weak girl either. She could have taken me down in a fair fight most days if she got worked up enough. Then, the sexually explicit notes started showing up tucked in the recesses of my locker. She couldn’t spell for shit but I did learn that she wanted to have ‘wilde six’ with me and was going to make it happen. I didn’t freak out just yet because she wasn’t a true threat. However, one day, I drove down by the river to try some fishing and she showed up when I wasn’t paying attention. I tried to walk away but she accosted me and I made a run for my truck just making it in time for me to lock the doors but she still managed to jump in the back of the truck. > > I have no idea what the expert advice is in such a situation but I know what I chose. I fired the truck up and started doing donuts as fast as I could to get her dizzy and then drove onto a rutted dirt road to try to shake her. It didn’t work on the first or even fifth try but I eventually got her to agree to get out and let me leave after she was disoriented and shaken up enough. The next Monday, I went to the principal’s office and had them put in the school version of a restraining order on her and that seemed to be a satisfactory conclusion. > > I went to college, moved far away and started a new life. That is, it was until a few months ago. I wasn’t paying attention when I got a friend request on Facebook and accepted someone named Nicole with an unfamiliar last name. After I accepted it, started all over again. It was THE Nicole. I have no idea how she even learned to use a computer let alone afford one but she was back and stronger than ever. Every time I logged in, she would start a demanding and threatening chat explaining how things were going to work with unnecessary explicit details. It spread from there as well. She found me on Linkedin and every other site I was on. If you wonder why I didn’t just block her immediately, that is a legitimate question but the situation was so bizarre I just couldn’t let it go right away plus I was too far away to be in any real danger. > > I did block her from everything after a few days but I felt bad in cutting off the one person that seems to love me unconditionally after all these years. I have a friend who works as a life assistant to adult special needs people. She helps them with bills, check books, insurance things like that. Several of them have developed obsessions with her that have really gotten out of hand and even physical on more than one occassion. She ended up quitting her job it got so bad. ---
**Author:** ![Hypno-Toad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b2d939/32.png) [@Hypno-Toad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hypno-Toad)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2015, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610/40 "2015-04-14T18:30:58Z")
Well, my first HS girlfriend probably does. She dumped me just after I graduated and was preparing to head out of state to college. She is a year younger than me. 20 years later we encountered each other on FB and met up when I was back home to visit my sister. It turns out that I was NOT supposed to just accept being dumped. Have I mentioned that in addition to being a really sweet lady, she’s a bag of crazy? So, apparently, I was the one that got away. And you know how time makes the one that got away look like the biggest loss. She told me how she befriended a complete stranger in HS just because that girl had a locker next to mine. And how she would sprint across school in every morning just to “happen by” my locker. But none of that is really that weird. Just normal HS level infatuation. It was after graduation, that the crazy started to show. She would go miles out of her way to drive past my house even though it meant going into a cul-de sac. And, of course, I was away at college in another state. This is all stuff she confessed 20 years after the fact. Any time I’ve texted or FB messaged with her since we re-encountered each other, it’s been pretty obvious that she would be happy to start a long term relationship. So it’s weird to think that to somebody, I’m that desirable. Especially since I’ve spent my life being ignored by those that I would like to hang with. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-crushing-on-you/717610.md?page=3)