# Who is hotter, you or your partner? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 28, 2009, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935 "2009-05-28T15:50:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/41 "2009-05-29T14:45:36Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > I’m going to generously award myself a 6.5 You forgot to say “With a margin of error of 3.5.” ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/42 "2009-05-29T14:52:48Z")
**tdn** , you are making it very difficult for me to ignore post #35! I can think of no appropriate responses. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/43 "2009-05-29T14:57:08Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > **tdn** , you are making it very difficult for me to ignore post #35! I can think of no appropriate responses. Oh, I can think of a few. Several involve fur-lined handcuffs. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/44 "2009-05-29T15:05:55Z")
1. Female 2. About a 5. I weigh far more, and make far less of a dolling-up effort, than is permissible for a female person to be considered hot, but I’m not so hideous that people run in fear from my appearance. 3. He’s a 6 to 7. He’s quite cute in a sort of teddy bear way. 4. We’re fairly well matched so there haven’t been any problems. In the past, I dated one guy who was far more attractive than I–the kind of person who honestly gets asked, “Why the hell are you with her?” It bothered me a lot; it might have bothered me less if he didn’t feel the need to keep telling me when people asked him this. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![EmAnJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@EmAnJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmAnJ)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/45 "2009-05-29T15:40:02Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > Female. > I’m going to generously award myself a 6.5. > Husband I’m not so sure about. When I first met him, I actually didn’t think he was attractive at all, but over time his looks have grown on me. I know a lot of other women find him attractive as well, but I’m not sure how much can be chalked up to intelligence or charisma. He’s got me way outranked in that department. > > Us dressed up: [http://www.flickr.com/photos/7428938@N08/1041314111/](http://www.flickr.com/photos/7428938@N08/1041314111/) > > Us not dressed up: [http://www.flickr.com/photos/7428938@N08/3025431934/](http://www.flickr.com/photos/7428938@N08/3025431934/) I would put you higher then a 6.5! 7.5 or so is more like it! (Straight female here, btw) ---
**Author:** ![An\_Arky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/87869e/32.png) [@An\_Arky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Arky)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/46 "2009-05-29T15:50:33Z")
Well, if we were competing on [Miss America](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miss_America#Judging)criteria, I’d probably win the Talent part , but she’d win the Swimsuit and Evening wear parts in a landslide. Personal Interview and Onstage Question would be a toss-up. But to answer the OP: 1. Male 2. Somewhere in the middle 3. I rate her 9, and so would the rest of the world, if they saw her naked 4. As long as it’s not an issue for her, I’m loving it! ---
**Author:** ![Heckity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a5b964/32.png) [@Heckity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heckity)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/47 "2009-05-29T16:00:41Z")
1.Female 2. In my younger days 9 (I modeled a lot - so I rely on other opinions) Aging isn’t for sissies. Today I’d probably be a 7 or 8 (for my age). 3. My husband is handsome to me but I think he’d say he’s a 3 or so. (Funny aside - on “Rate my Professor” his students gave him a 0 for hotness- he was crushed) His face is open and honest and he’s charming and funny and that shows. 4. I’ve only heard someone ask “How’d you get her?” once - otherwise we are who we are I guess. ---
**Author:** ![filling\_pages](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b9bd4f/32.png) [@filling\_pages](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/filling_pages)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/48 "2009-05-29T16:47:37Z")
[Her.](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v618/pbarmy/herhottie.jpg) [Me.](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v618/pbarmy/travels08/ohnofrog.jpg) [Her and me at our joint birthday party last year, a little tipsy.](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v618/pbarmy/cutekiss.jpg) How did I do it? I’m smart, I’m funny, I’m a bit of an artist. When I asked her out and she said she had to think about it (we’d been friends for a while), I didn’t press or stress her, and I meant it when I said it was quite okay if she wanted to just stay buddies. In other words: self-confidence goes a long way. ---
**Author:** ![Saintly\_Loser](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saintly_loser/32/4045_2.png) [@Saintly\_Loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saintly_Loser)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/49 "2009-05-29T17:03:15Z")
Male. I have no idea how to rate myself. A 5, at best, although there does seem to be a subset of women who find my ridiculously skinny, bony self attractive. My partner is definitely an 8 when she gets herself all dressed and made up. And a 9 when she doesn’t (yes, you read that right). No issues. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/50 "2009-05-29T17:11:03Z")
> [@Saintly\_Loser](#): > > My partner is definitely an 8 when she gets herself all dressed and made up. And a 9 when she doesn’t (yes, you read that right). Are you saying she looks even better when she’s not dressed at all? ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/51 "2009-05-29T17:14:48Z")
> [@EmAnJ](#): > > I would put you higher then a 6.5! 7.5 or so is more like it! > > (Straight female here, btw) :o Thank you! ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/52 "2009-05-29T17:15:26Z")
She is, objectively: nobody’s ever offered me a modeling contract. Okay, to be fair to myself, I never went out for one. But I think the result would be the same. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again- guys can land out-of-their-attractiveness-league women if they are funny. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/53 "2009-05-29T17:26:05Z")
So how’d you pick up yours? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/54 "2009-05-29T17:34:06Z")
Carefully orchestrated scheme of lies. It was either that or a romantic misunderstanding, and I didn’t think I could pull that off. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/55 "2009-05-29T17:57:23Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > So how’d you pick up yours? 😕 A solid year of being a really good friend and giving her a chance to find that my personality had a lot more to offer than my looks. ---
**Author:** ![Sam\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Sam\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sam_Stone)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/56 "2009-05-29T18:29:58Z")
Definitely my partner. And she is some sort of freak of nature, because she’s become even better looking over the years. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/57 "2009-05-29T18:54:50Z")
> [@Sam\_Stone](#): > > Definitely my partner. And she is some sort of freak of nature, because she’s become even better looking over the years. I know someone like that. At the age of 44 she is probably one of the most beautiful women I have ever met. I saw a picture of her when she was in her early 20s and she was kind of meh. To make this a data point, her husband is also quite good looking. Naturally, their baby is adorable. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2009, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/58 "2009-05-29T22:01:26Z")
1. what is your gender? **Male** 2. how do you rate your own physical attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being hottest) **At my best, 5. Typically 4.** 3. how do you rate your partner? **At her best? 8. Typically 8 but with different scores in different areas. It’s like having two awesome wives sometimes.** 4. if there is a large difference, has this ever been an issue with either of you? **No. She thinks I’m better than a 4-5, makes me feel like a 9. But she wears contacts. Except when I’m around. She thinks I don’t notice.** ---
**Author:** ![Saintly\_Loser](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saintly_loser/32/4045_2.png) [@Saintly\_Loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saintly_Loser)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/59 "2009-05-30T01:52:18Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > Are you saying she looks even better when she’s not dressed at all? Heh, heh. Well, maybe. But what I meant was that she looks especially great with no makeup, in a pair of jeans and a t-shirt. Way better than she looks when she has to get dress and put on makeup for some sort of event with a dress code. I think that’s true of a lot of women, though. Maybe even most. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/60 "2009-05-30T02:51:58Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > A solid year of being a really good friend and giving her a chance to find that my personality had a lot more to offer than my looks. And that’s the technique they say never works… ‘consigned to the friend zone’ and all that… 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935.md?page=4)