# Who is hotter, you or your partner? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 28, 2009, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935 "2009-05-28T15:50:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 8:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/61 "2009-05-30T08:27:31Z")
1. Male. 2. 1. 3. 10 (and not just in my opinion). 4. It’s sometimes an issue for me, when people (of both genders) come on to him right in front of me. He just laughs it off, but I think it’s incredibly rude. He’s also 20 years younger than I am, and people tend to think I’m his uncle. But when we’re among people who know us, there’s no problem. ---
**Author:** ![Moirai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/96bed5/32.png) [@Moirai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moirai)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/62 "2009-05-30T13:20:40Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > And that’s the technique they say never works… ‘consigned to the friend zone’ and all that… 🙂 I was best friends (no benefits whatsoever) with EJ for about a year before I truly realized that he was THE GUY. We’ve been together for 17 years. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/63 "2009-05-30T14:39:17Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > And that’s the technique they say never works… ‘consigned to the friend zone’ and all that… 🙂 I’d love to take credit and say that it was all part of the Master Plan, but I really never thought that SHE would want to be more than friends. We all get lucky sometimes. 🙂 And we just had our 10th anniversary, so I’ve been getting lucky for quite a while now! _cough_ ---
**Author:** ![JFLuvly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ac91a4/32.png) [@JFLuvly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JFLuvly)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/64 "2009-05-30T14:54:54Z")
I would say we are pretty equal [http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=652432006&v=photos&so=30#/photo.php?pid=217410&op=3&o=global&view=global&subj=652432006&id=652432006](http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=652432006&v=photos&so=30#/photo.php?pid=217410&op=3&o=global&view=global&subj=652432006&id=652432006) > **[Log in or sign up to view](https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=83229&op=4&o=global&view=global&subj=652432006&id=652432006)** > > See posts, photos and more on Facebook. ---
**Author:** ![Gorgonzola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e480ec/32.png) [@Gorgonzola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgonzola)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/65 "2009-05-30T15:35:16Z")
> [@Sam\_Stone](#): > > Definitely my partner. And she is some sort of freak of nature, because she’s become even better looking over the years. I could interject all sorts of stuff here, but I will just limit myself to pointing out that delusions and all, **Sam** is the best husband ever. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Student\_Driver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3da27b/32.png) [@Student\_Driver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Student_Driver)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/66 "2009-05-30T15:36:18Z")
Don’t have any pictures, and don’t have any current SO, so my participation in this thread is a bit pointless, but hey. 1. My gender: male. 2. My physical attractiveness: IMO a 7, if a quirky 7. Relatively fit without being overly muscular, though overall I’m slightly built, and I prefer to wear clothes that actually fit, which goes a long way in everyday attractiveness. If I have time to primp and properly dress, I think I can pull off an 8; if I’m in cleaning/work clothes, 6. These numbers scale up or down based on one’s taste in guys. I’m friends with two women who have told me I’m their physical ideal (long stories about why they’re just friends when I’m single and looking), and one even called me her “10.” I generally tend to attract the artier or punky types of women (who tend to rate me higher), but when dressed up I can turn the heads of professional women as well. OTOH, I know that I’m unattractive to vast numbers of other women, usually for not being manly enough, so hey. Usually it’s the best friends or relatives of the women who like me who look :dubious: and rate me a 3 or whatever. 3. My ex-wife was a IMO 9, and she did runway/print modeling to boot. Again, the number would go up or down based on one’s preferences-- she had short hair and was petite, which isn’t everyone’s thing. My last g/f was a 7, and I really felt “even” with her looks-wise, though she tended to dress better than me. She, on the other hand, felt that I was above her in attractiveness. 1. It has been a problem, yes. My ex-wife was constantly hit on by guys who knew she was married and monogamous-- often right in front of me-- who would ask her what someone like her was doing with someone like me. With the last g/f, on the other hand, she was very insecure about the fact that she thought I was more attractive than her, especially since I was in school and around a bunch of single women who would presumably hit on me. When work pressures became such that we were seeing each other less frequently, she ended up breaking down in tears a couple of times over the issue. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/67 "2009-05-30T18:16:12Z")
> [@Student\_Driver](#): > > My ex-wife was constantly hit on by guys who knew she was married and monogamous-- often right in front of me-- who would ask her what someone like her was doing with someone like me. Yes, we’ve experienced that. And as a gay couple, we’ve had women hitting on him and telling him they can “straighten him out.” And \*\*\*everyone \*\*\*looks at his ass when he leaves. ---
**Author:** ![HellsAngel21](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/9de053/32.png) [@HellsAngel21](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HellsAngel21)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/68 "2009-05-30T20:31:10Z")
I think I’m way hotter, reason is this: I’m sexy-smart, I don’t spend my precious studying time on websites like my guy does… ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/69 "2009-05-30T21:20:32Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > And that’s the technique they say never works… ‘consigned to the friend zone’ and all that… 🙂 It actually often does work if the couple really is friends and the guy isn’t just being “friends” with her in hopes that one day he’ll get in her pants. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/70 "2009-05-30T21:49:20Z")
I’d say we’re about equal on a scale of 1-10, but we still don’t look right together, to the point where we get strange looks and stares. I think we’re both about 8ish though I guess? I’m a size 3 and have big (fake) boobs and pretty, long dark hair but I’m super pale with dark circles under my eyes, which I hate. I think I look a lot better with make up on than without, for that reason. I look VERY young for my age though, and innocent and sweet, I’m always told. He calls me a sexy librarian. He’s 5 years older than me to begin with and looks his age, and for lack of a better term, he basically looks like a thug. I think he’s very sexy but not in a classic way because he looks too rough for that, like he doesn’t have smooth skin (and I don’t mean acne either; that’s not it). He has beautiful eyes though, with a slim-yet-muscular build and he’s about 6 feet tall, which is about 9 inches taller than me. He’s very dark-complexioned, another extreme contrast with me. We get along no better than we look like we would. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2009, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/71 "2009-05-30T23:06:39Z")
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**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/72 "2009-05-31T02:17:17Z")
> [@Telperien](#): > > It actually often does work if the couple really is friends and the guy isn’t just being “friends” with her in hopes that one day he’ll get in her pants. So, is womanhood just about \*being \*a mindfuck? ---
**Author:** ![Moirai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/96bed5/32.png) [@Moirai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moirai)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/73 "2009-05-31T02:56:29Z")
Yeah, pretty much… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![congodwarf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e36b37/32.png) [@congodwarf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/congodwarf)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/74 "2009-05-31T21:05:42Z")
Female I’d give myself an 8 - simply because no one seems too look beyond the hair. If people actually looked lower, I’d say I’m a 4 or a 5. The last guy I was with was a 9-10 depending on the day. He actually looked beyond the hair and for some reason still thought I was a 10. The guy before that was a 4 or a 5. It’s only ever an issue for me in that I constantly wonder why people are even interested in me. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/75 "2009-05-31T21:58:17Z")
> [@bup](#): > > So, is womanhood just about \*being \*a mindfuck? So, is manhood just about being a dumbfuck? ---
**Author:** ![dalej42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@dalej42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dalej42)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/76 "2009-05-31T22:24:20Z")
I will give myself a seven. [Pic](http://www.flickr.com/photos/34541324@N06/3583339754/) Male I’ll give partner a 5. Not too much of a distraction, but, it is time for him to lose some weight. I bust my ass at the gym or the pool every day. ---
**Author:** ![conurepete](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e57/32.png) [@conurepete](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/conurepete)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2009, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/77 "2009-05-31T23:44:08Z")
1, gender = female 2. my hotness =7.5, unless you dig geeky artsy chicks, then 8.79 3. my partner= 8 to 9.5 This has created significant issues because of his low self esteem. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2009, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/78 "2009-06-01T00:12:59Z")
> [@Telperien](#): > > So, is manhood just about being a dumbfuck? That, and beer and porn. [Here’s a picture](http://www.goodreads.com/photo/user/504424-bup?photo=11020-family) from a few years ago that has both my partner and I. I think we’re pretty even. ---
**Author:** ![mr.jp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/48db29/32.png) [@mr.jp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mr.jp)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2009, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/79 "2009-06-01T00:15:58Z")
I’m a guy. I dunno how many points to give myself out of 10. My gf is a little hotter than me. [![](https://img.photobucket.com/albums/v304/John130/n1093411882_30371901_4840059.jpg) ](https://img.photobucket.com/albums/v304/John130/n1093411882_30371901_4840059.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [June 1, 2009, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/who-is-hotter-you-or-your-partner/497935/80 "2009-06-01T00:27:03Z")
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