# Who's feeling sorry for themselves tonight? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 25, 2006, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046 "2006-06-25T03:15:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Tenar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@Tenar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tenar)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/1 "2006-06-25T03:15:28Z")
I am. Let’s see, I’m 44 (almost 45), mildly intoxicated, in heart failure, widowed, lonely, in the throes of a crush with a person who is not only in a committed relationship but is bone crazy as well, and, well, a just bit down, truth be told. That’s not the whole of it, but it’ll do, for now. Plus, there’s a dead cat in my backyard that I have to bury in the a.m. (Not my cat, thank god, but still. I presume the neighbor’s dog killed the poor thing.) How down am I? Suffice to say I’m listening to Annie Lennox. Just sayin’, is all. ---
**Author:** ![SnakesCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4af34b/32.png) [@SnakesCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnakesCatLady)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/2 "2006-06-25T03:22:23Z")
Hopefully, things will begin to look brighter after the funeral. Maybe you could bury the crush while you’re at it? ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/3 "2006-06-25T03:25:38Z")
I hear ya. I’m lonely, not even mildly intoxicated, and the world is too beautiful a place to be lonely in. ---
**Author:** ![Tenar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@Tenar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tenar)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/4 "2006-06-25T03:36:56Z")
> [@SnakesCatLady](#): > > Hopefully, things will begin to look brighter after the funeral. Maybe you could bury the crush while you’re at it? Sage advice, **SnakesCatLady**. I certainly don’t need any additional craziness (beyond my own, which, despite medication, is plentiful.) ---
**Author:** ![Tenar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@Tenar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tenar)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/5 "2006-06-25T03:38:34Z")
> [@Priceguy](#): > > I hear ya. I’m lonely, not even mildly intoxicated, and the world is too beautiful a place to be lonely in. Indeed. I am sick of being alone. Good luck to you in your own quest for conneciton, **Priceguy**. ---
**Author:** ![if6was9](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e47c2d/32.png) [@if6was9](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/if6was9)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/6 "2006-06-25T03:52:45Z")
> [@Tenar](#): > > Indeed. I am sick of being alone. Good luck to you in your own quest for conneciton, **Priceguy**. Found my connection here on the Dope. It _can_ get better! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![MaxTheVool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@MaxTheVool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaxTheVool)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/7 "2006-06-25T04:20:18Z")
I continue to be single. But aside from that, my life is reasonably good. I played with two toddlers today who adore me. And I’ve won $700 playing poker in the last week. And I have an HDTV on which to watch the World Cup. Still, I feel like I’ve completely given up ever having female companionship. Sigh. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/8 "2006-06-25T04:31:29Z")
It’s a little lonely here too. Mostly I just feel that I’m looking for something I can’t find, maybe because I’ve been looking for the wrong thing all this time. I also feel that I’m too young to feel like this. ---
**Author:** ![Sefton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@Sefton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sefton)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 6:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/9 "2006-06-25T06:08:51Z")
I feel for you and empathize. Been a long, long time since I’ve been out on a date. But if I can’t have warmth and companionship, at least I can be _[trendy!](http://www.cnn.com/2006/HEALTH/06/23/friends.health.reut/index.html)_ 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/10 "2006-06-25T06:18:14Z")
**Tenar** we have a lot in common. Stay strong man. If you’re in DC I’ll buy you a beer. ---
**Author:** ![JCorre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/3da27b/32.png) [@JCorre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JCorre)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 7:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/11 "2006-06-25T07:53:02Z")
Lonliness sucks. I’m lifting a glass of wine to you right now Tenar. We’ll find someone eventually right? ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/12 "2006-06-25T08:23:10Z")
I am. See [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=372876). Used to be she was kind of chubby and I was a fit basketball player, and she was kinda crushin and I was cooler than the Fonz. Now I’m overweight, not the kind of overweight where people groan when you take an airplane seat next to them but the kind of overweight where your doctor and his assistant and the nurse and her assistant and everybody else on earth except the assistant coach of the national soccer team of Togo and the King of Spain but he sent his sister, and they’re all making suggestions like I should reevaluate my eating habits and get some exercise and get some exercise and get some exercise and oh yeah I should get some exercise too, and Her Royal Highness says I should really be practicing my Spanish more too, and doing some exercising while I’m at it. Anyway, so now I have all these fond memories of amazing moments I took for granted before, like when my parents were out of town and she snuck out of her house and slept in my arms and we had amazing sex all night and all morning and a few times in between when we woke each other up, and she told me she felt safe in my arms and I felt fantastic and I had no idea how hard those moment would be to come by two years later, when I went to college and lived in a dorm and gained weight and came back and kept all the weight no matter what I did, and I thought another girl was really into me and we went out for a chunk of a year and I found out she was using me to get a green card and there were lies, lies, lies, and I found out I was just a 20-year-old guy living a 50-year-old divorcee’s life. I went shopping for clothes the other day and I had a really nice conversation with a girl at the clothing store and then I walked over to the bookstore where I knew the girl who was working there and we had a really nice conversation and we even made plans to travel to Canada later this summer, and when I went home I had all kinds of wild fantasies about what we’d do in Vancouver and now I wonder if I’m just a travel buddy who she’s known me for a short enough time that she can send me signs that she’s interested when she’s really not because I’m that kind of overweight where the Spanish royal family is not really mad, just disappointed, and let me tell you, that’s just as bad because my understanding of Spanish really breaks down when I get emotional. Plus the whole “no companionship of any kind except my cat and my parents who are shutting me off from all my friends”. And pretty girls who work in stores who are maybe just being nice because I’m a good customer and I’m helping them stay awake during a long night shift and I’m a convenient travel buddy too. Sigh. > [@Priceguy](#): > > I hear ya. I’m lonely, not even mildly intoxicated, and the world is too beautiful a place to be lonely in. Me too. I have no means to get intoxicated, is the worst part. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 9:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/13 "2006-06-25T09:01:23Z")
My son would have turned 15 next month and i can’t stop thinking about him. God, I miss him so much. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/14 "2006-06-25T15:20:44Z")
Me–but it’s not night, it’s Sunday morning and I’m married and never felt more alone. Never mind-it’s a long sad nasty story which would be painful to relate and useless to review. Suffice it to say that you don’t have to be alone to be lonely. **fetus** that was wonderful-funny and sad and snarky. My favorite combo right now. I find I can’t handle really happy people at present. Guess I like the emotionally maimed. **skald** --I am so sorry for your loss. We joke around alot here, but some things are just too terrible to comment on. I wish there was something I could say, but all I have is I’m sorry. It is a beautiful world-but that makes me sadder somehow. Sure would be nice to have someone share a smile with me. ---
**Author:** ![Beware\_of\_Doug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/278dde/32.png) [@Beware\_of\_Doug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beware_of_Doug)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/15 "2006-06-25T15:26:31Z")
Not me, for once. :dubious: Just kinda meh, which for me is good. ---
**Author:** ![Black\_Train\_Song](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4da419/32.png) [@Black\_Train\_Song](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Black_Train_Song)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/16 "2006-06-25T17:06:48Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > Me–but it’s not night, it’s Sunday morning and I’m married and never felt more alone. Never mind-it’s a long sad nasty story which would be painful to relate and useless to review. Suffice it to say that you don’t have to be alone to be lonely. Ditto. I wonder if my long sad nasty story is similar to yours. Probably not. ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/17 "2006-06-25T17:14:30Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > fetus that was wonderful-funny and sad and snarky. My favorite combo right now. I find I can’t handle really happy people at present. Guess I like the emotionally maimed. Thanks! That means a lot to me, because I aim for that a fair bit here and I’m never quite sure that I’ve hit the mark, but I appreciate it even more because I know we’ve clashed in some of the relatively few debates I’ve participated in here, and it’s big of you to say that. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/18 "2006-06-25T17:22:34Z")
> [@fetus](#): > > Thanks! That means a lot to me, because I aim for that a fair bit here and I’m never quite sure that I’ve hit the mark, but I appreciate it even more because I know we’ve clashed in some of the relatively few debates I’ve participated in here, and it’s big of you to say that. We have? \ I fear I cannot recall any at present…it’s good to get old; you tend to forget most things! **black train song** -sad nasties are just that–they share enough common elements to be archetypal, IMO. ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/19 "2006-06-25T17:45:25Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > \ I fear I cannot recall any at present…it’s good to get old; you tend to forget most things! We’ve had a couple of clashes about illegal drugs and illegal immigration. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046/20 "2006-06-25T18:02:08Z")
oh. Well, illegals should not be here and pot should be legal. Suddenly, I’m not so lonely… 😃 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-feeling-sorry-for-themselves-tonight/362046.md?page=2)