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But see then, if someone were to ask your stance, you have already arrived at your personal resolution, and have one handy. It may not be relevant to your life, but it is relevant to the question and labeling, and this whole thread. You can’t pretend that you don’t have a belief on this issue, everyone does.
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I’m not sure I understand the distinction you are trying to make, nor do I believe I have much more to offer this discussion.
You are correct - I have personally decided that I believe there is no God/gods. So the term atheist does accurately apply to me. However, I tend to avoid assuming the “label” of atheism for a couple of reasons.
As I tried to explain above, I feel it inaccurately focuses too much on one particular thing I reject. Instead, I believe it says much more about me to describe the reasons I arrived at that decision - as a rational humanist. To me the idea of religion is somewhat curious in terms of history, sociology, and such. I consider it curious that so many people have chosen variations on this one irrational theme to believe in, while growing out of or rejecting other irrational beliefs that impress me as equally (in)valid.
I am very aware that atheism cannot be proven. I have no desire to slip into the convenient “your atheism has no firmer basis than my belief” argument. Instead, by referring to the rational humanism underlying my personal philosophy, I emphasize the considerable distinctions between how we arrived at our divergent conclusions. My rational humanism has a very different basis from a believer’s faith.
Through experience, I know that identifying myself as an atheist has a good chance of being greeted unfavorably. So many people strike me as being so judgmental that I am not overly eager to give them an easy reason to pigeonhole, disapprove of, and discriminate against me and my family.
As this very thread shows, there is considerable confusion over what is meant by the term atheist. There are discussions of hard vs soft atheism, and the distinctions between atheism and agnosticism. IME, many believers are relatively ignorant of the specifics concerning their own professed faith - I certainly cannot expect greater intellectual rigor for them concerning the terms describing my lack of faith.
I have researched such issues considerably in the past, along with a fair number of christian faiths and non-christian belief systems. But I do not retain the arguments pro and con at the tip of my tongue because - as I have said - they simply have next to no relevance to my day-to-day life. Nor do I derive much interest or pleasure from repeating variations on the same discussions. Nor do I have any desire to “convert” anyone from their beliefs to mine.
For practical reasons, when asked I tend to say my family attends a UU church. Do not underestimate the societal benefit in the parts of America where I have lived from belonging to a church - any church is better than being unchurched. I cannot count the times this was met with the response, “Oh well, we all believe in the same God.” And for purposes of social intercourse, I am generally comfortable allowing them to continue in their misperception.