# Why can't we Pit mods? **URL:** \ **Category:** About This Message Board\ **Created:** [January 14, 2013, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-cant-we-pit-mods/647229 "2013-01-14T23:30:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 12
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-cant-we-pit-mods/647229/12 "2013-01-15T00:31:37Z")
Do you see no difference between these comments, **magellan01**? > [@Marley: Gun Grabber is not restricted to the Pit.](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marley-gun-grabber-is-not-restricted-to-the-pit/647086/26): > > Whoa, that’s a mighty high horse you’re riding on there, chum. Should we send you up some oxygen? > > Lighten up, would? > [@Marley: Gun Grabber is not restricted to the Pit.](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marley-gun-grabber-is-not-restricted-to-the-pit/647086/34): > > I […] let **LHOD** know that I thought he was being to priggish in the tone he was calling for. > [@Marley: Gun Grabber is not restricted to the Pit.](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marley-gun-grabber-is-not-restricted-to-the-pit/647086/40): > > He wants this to be a super-duper-polite debate board, which is valid. I think that dehumanizes things and that people need to be able to demonstrate emotion, personality. Both positions are valid. The first two are rude and insulting. The third doesn’t insult anyone and acknowledges the other person has a point. You made insulting comments elsewhere in that post, of course, but this part is fine and nobody would complain about this part and nobody would moderate it. There was nothing stopping you from making that kind of comment in the first place. You just didn’t do it. Saying ‘gee, you’re up on your high horse!’ and ‘you’re being priggish (whatever that means)!’ and ‘sheez, lighten up!’ are insulting, snide, and don’t convince anyone to see things your way. Acknowledging that the other person has a valid point and that you’re having a difference of opinion can actually work. If you want to have more productive discussions in the future and avoid the mods to boot, try using that second tactic. --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-cant-we-pit-mods/647229)._