# Why do middle-aged women find me cute? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 28, 2004, 6:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392 "2004-01-28T06:40:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Call\_me\_Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Call\_me\_Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Call_me_Frank)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 6:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/1 "2004-01-28T06:40:49Z")
A long time ago I was talking to a female friend of mine and she mentioned that her mother thought I was cute. And then about 2 weeks ago I was at another female friend’s house and I mentioned that this girl’s mother thought I was cute and she said “Oh, my mom thinks you’re cute too.” This is odd considering that a middle-aged woman at Arby’s told me that she thought I was cute and then _another_ middle-aged woman at a Sheetz (Gas station, like a 7-11, but the burgers are better) said she thought I was cute. This really perplexes me because women my own age don’t seem to find me all that attractive. I mean, I know I’m not a crime against humanity, but I’m not Brad Pitt either. So anyone have any ideas, or at least some good jokes? ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 12:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/2 "2004-01-28T12:59:07Z")
This middle-aged woman wants to see pix. ---
**Author:** ![maggy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@maggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maggy)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 1:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/3 "2004-01-28T13:14:00Z")
Us middle aged women love to look at pictures! Then we’ll tell you! 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![UselessGit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/74df32/32.png) [@UselessGit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UselessGit)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 1:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/4 "2004-01-28T13:28:55Z")
Maybe you’re just polite and have good manners? It’s the same here, most my friends’ moms and all my ex-girlfriends’ moms seem to love me, maybe we should change our target groups and switch to more mature women who appreciate us? IME younger women seem to want someone who might beat them up, and who’ll definately cheat on them. I tried to look tough for years with great success in the women department but eventually gave up and am back to my pleasant self. Try shaving your head if you’re getting desperate, it works a treat. ---
**Author:** ![Husker\_Dude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Husker\_Dude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Husker_Dude)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/5 "2004-01-28T14:10:17Z")
Middle-aged women love to corrupt younger men, especially if they are polite and innocent looking, thus making the corruption even sweeter. This is just speculations though. ---
**Author:** ![Adjustable\_Beavis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Adjustable\_Beavis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Adjustable_Beavis)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/6 "2004-01-28T14:42:39Z")
> [@Call me Frank](#): > > …This really perplexes me because women my own age don’t seem to find me all that attractive. I mean, I know I’m not a crime against humanity, but I’m not Brad Pitt either. > > So anyone have any ideas, or at least some good jokes? This happened to me in college. Most girls my age assured me, “You’re not _bad_ looking.” “You’re nice…” etc, etc… On the whole, all the things women say when they do like you well enough to be a friend but do not consider you relationship material. I also noticed that women older than me (30’s and early 40’s) seemed to find me attractive and interesting. As these ladies were often attractive, smart, funny, kind, and charming…I went out with some of them. Turns out, we had a wonderful time. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/7 "2004-01-28T14:47:53Z")
> [@Hüsker Düde](#): > > Middle-aged women love to corrupt younger men, especially if they are polite and innocent looking, thus making the corruption even sweeter… So, **Husker Dude** , does this mean that our plan to have a tryst as soon as we’re both on the same continent is _off_? ☹ ---
**Author:** ![SlowMindThinking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@SlowMindThinking](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SlowMindThinking)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/8 "2004-01-28T15:18:02Z")
> [@Adjustable\_Beavis](#): > > …I also noticed that women older than me (30’s and early 40’s) seemed to find me attractive and interesting. As these ladies were often attractive, smart, funny, kind, and charming…I went out with some of them. Turns out, we had a wonderful time. I too “suffered” from this affliction in junior high and high school. It seemed like the moms of the girls I wanted to date liked me more than their daughters. (“He is soo cute…” ) I eventually decided that mom’s were encouraging their daughters to go out with me, probably because I looked so unlikely to treat their little girls badly and pressure them for nasty acts. To be honest, this wasn’t exactly true, but my heart was in the right place and I think it showed. The girls, meanwhile, wanted someone coarser. Oddly enough, a fair number of “greaser” girls were pretty forward. “Greaser” girls were girls that hung out with the boys who were always tinkering with their cars, went to vo-tech, and generally didn’t look clean cut. (One such girl actually hit on me while I was on my first date.) I never really did figure that one out. My guess is that I was different from their usual choices, was approachable, and clearly not out of their league. Frankly, they were all both nice and pretty, and now I wish I hadn’t been so damn shy. All I can say is that it all worked out eventually. My senior year in college I fell in love with a woman seven years older than me, who stills looks younger than me over 20 years later. So, I got the best of both worlds - an older woman who wanted what I was, and a hot chick. ---
**Author:** ![Husker\_Dude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Husker\_Dude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Husker_Dude)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/9 "2004-01-28T15:46:26Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > So, **Husker Dude** , does this mean that our plan to have a tryst as soon as we’re both on the same continent is _off_? ☹ Oh, don’t worry **twickster** , were still on. I wouldn’t mind being corrupted one bit. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/10 "2004-01-28T16:29:29Z")
> [@Hüsker Düde](#): > > Oh, don’t worry **twickster** , were still on. I wouldn’t mind being corrupted one bit. 😉 Phew! Because I like to think I’m just the woman to do it – which I gues pretty much proves your point, hmmmm? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Call\_me\_Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Call\_me\_Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Call_me_Frank)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/11 "2004-01-28T18:06:43Z")
My thanks to all the guys who responded w/ sympathetic answers. **SlowMindThinking & Adjustable\_Beavis** have basically hit the nail right on the head. And **UselessGit** , that’s what I was thinking too…once I’m 21 I might try and clean up in the singles bar circuit. If the picture is really important to you, send me an email and I’ll send you a pic. I just don’t want this to turn into a “Rate my pic” kinda thing… ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/12 "2004-01-28T18:17:38Z")
_Here’s to you, Mrs. Robinson._ ---
**Author:** ![maggy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@maggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maggy)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/13 "2004-01-28T18:44:53Z")
Also, call mefrank, remember that sometimes when women say you’re cute, what they really mean is they’d really like to get their hands on you because you’re damned sexy too. Innocence can be sexy as hell too. Of course, having not seen a picture, can’t really tell you…but, as an “older woman” (happily married now), friends and I have discussed this at length in the past…it’s a look you may just have. A tip: Don’t dismiss us 'cause we’re older - we make great teachers! It’s a win/win situation. (um, so I’ve heard). 😉 ---
**Author:** ![NurseCarmen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5daacb/32.png) [@NurseCarmen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NurseCarmen)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2004, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/14 "2004-01-28T22:06:32Z")
We can call you Frank, but we all know that you’re really _Michael J. Fox._ ---
**Author:** ![Call\_me\_Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Call\_me\_Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Call_me_Frank)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2004, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/15 "2004-01-29T04:57:51Z")
Hey now, **maggy** , I never said I was discounting anyone…! And some of you have asked for a pic…here’s a link: [http://www.angelfire.com/ky3/Grimey/Frank.html](http://www.angelfire.com/ky3/Grimey/Frank.html) The pic’s a tiny bit washed out 'cause of my scanner, but overall it’s fairly representative of my appearance. Just don’t laugh, is all I ask…well, you can laugh, just don’t tell _me_. ---
**Author:** ![Teelo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8491ac/32.png) [@Teelo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Teelo)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2004, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/16 "2004-01-29T05:57:05Z")
> [@Call me Frank](#): > > This really perplexes me because women my own age don’t seem to find me all that attractive. I mean, I know I’m not a crime against humanity, but I’m not Brad Pitt either. I have the same problem. 😕 My mother tells me often that when she catches up with her friends they always say i’m quite handsome, ‘striking’ even. … Maybe they just have lowered their standards. ---
**Author:** ![Helena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c68b51/32.png) [@Helena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2004, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/17 "2004-01-29T06:07:09Z")
Cute! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2004, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/18 "2004-01-29T14:27:08Z")
Very cute! You have a wonderful smile. ---
**Author:** ![Daftbugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9fc29f/32.png) [@Daftbugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daftbugger)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2004, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/19 "2004-01-29T16:52:15Z")
CallmeFrank, I have/had a similar problem, I always seem to get men hit on me who are old enough to be my father. One guy said that he was going to stop chatting me up now as I was the same age as his daughter! ---
**Author:** ![Call\_me\_Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Call\_me\_Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Call_me_Frank)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2004, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392/20 "2004-01-29T23:10:02Z")
> [@Teelo](#): > > I have the same problem. 😕 > My mother tells me often that when she catches up with her friends they always say i’m quite handsome, ‘striking’ even. > … > Maybe they just have lowered their standards. I suppose that means we look better than middle-aged men, eh? And I should have asked all who checked out my pic to leave their name, age, and telephone number, lol…c’est la vie… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-middle-aged-women-find-me-cute/226392.md?page=2)