# Why do people act like it is never enough in parenting? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 12, 2012, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-act-like-it-is-never-enough-in-parenting/643806 "2012-12-12T06:17:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2012, 11:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-act-like-it-is-never-enough-in-parenting/643806/41 "2012-12-13T11:41:35Z")
I hope you thanked her for her sage advice. She’s a mother. And an older one. She knows stuff she doesn’t even know anything about. ---
**Author:** ![puddleglum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puddleglum/32/137_2.png) [@puddleglum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puddleglum)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2012, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-act-like-it-is-never-enough-in-parenting/643806/42 "2012-12-13T15:58:54Z")
The one group of parents who constantly get unsolicited advice are white parents who adopt black children. [Dear Black Women Giving Me Hair Advice about My African Daughter: Please Stop | Nancy French](http://www.patheos.com/blogs/frenchrevolution/2012/09/26/a-white-moms-plea-to-black-women-giving-hair-advice-about-her-african-daughter/%5Bhttp://www.patheos.com/blogs/frenchrevolution/2012/09/26/a-white-moms-plea-to-black-women-giving-hair-advice-about-her-african-daughter/%5D(http://www.patheos.com/blogs/frenchrevolution/2012/09/26/a-white-moms-plea-to-black-women-giving-hair-advice-about-her-african-daughter/)) ---
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2012, 9:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-act-like-it-is-never-enough-in-parenting/643806/43 "2012-12-14T09:01:15Z")
> [@RickJay](#): > > I’m with Leaffan. This is total bullshit. > > I **never** see or hear people make the sort of comments the OP describes, and cannot help but notice the remarkable dearth of specific examples in this thread. This is for the most part an Internet bullshit story, much like the “precious snowflake” thing that I see demonstrated by no parents ever. I’ve only had two drive-by parenting comments that I remember - once when I mentioned something about a Cbeebies kids programme, I got a smug “Oh, I didn’t let my kids watch TV till they were over 2!” and a few times when I’ve been complaining about lack of sleep “Oh, mine’s slept through the night since 4 months!” I think I may have been the annoying, “Oh, bottles? My baby’s so well and never ill because she was breast fed till 12 months” mother though, so it probably balances out 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2012, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-act-like-it-is-never-enough-in-parenting/643806/44 "2012-12-14T14:08:51Z")
> [@Cinnamon\_Imp](#): > > I think I may have been the annoying, “Oh, bottles? My baby’s so well and never ill because she was breast fed till 12 months” mother though, so it probably balances out 🙂 The more I think about this, the more I think this was a shitty thing to post. I was lucky in my lifestyle and biological circumstances to be able to breastfeed, and I shouldn’t be even “jokingly” putting down bottle feeding mothers. Apologies to any of you who read this. ---
**Author:** ![Sattua](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sattua/32/11906_2.png) [@Sattua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sattua)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2012, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-act-like-it-is-never-enough-in-parenting/643806/45 "2012-12-14T14:29:29Z")
Yep, you were lucky, and that’s about all there was to it. Thanks for apologizing 😉 My daughter was never ill till we put her in daycare at 12 months. She was on formula from six weeks on, though. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-act-like-it-is-never-enough-in-parenting/643806.md?page=2)