# Why do people hate me? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 16, 2005, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-hate-me/290304 "2005-02-16T02:42:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2005, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-hate-me/290304/21 "2005-02-16T04:59:29Z")
Could be like me when I was at school, everyone hated me because I was so popular. ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2005, 5:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-hate-me/290304/22 "2005-02-16T05:02:20Z")
> [@Tha1D0g](#): > > Forgive me, but I have no idea what you are insinuating… I don’t even know what that group is about > 😕 That is not saying anything about you. It is a joke. There has been a huge scandal in the Catholic Church in the last few years centering in the Boston area but spreading all over the world. Priests molested hundreds of boys over several decades (in Boston alone) and it has cost the Catholic church unheard of sums of money in payouts to victims and lawsuits. They will go on few years, Many churches have already been closed down. The joke is a reference to the fact that the Catholic Church knew that many of these priests were committing these crimes and just secretly moved them around so that it would remain quiet. ---
**Author:** ![Tha1D0g](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tha1d0g/32/7274_2.png) [@Tha1D0g](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tha1D0g)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2005, 5:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-hate-me/290304/23 "2005-02-16T05:25:46Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > That is not saying anything about you. It is a joke. There has been a huge scandal in the Catholic Church in the last few years centering in the Boston area but spreading all over the world. Priests molested hundreds of boys over several decades (in Boston alone) and it has cost the Catholic church unheard of sums of money in payouts to victims and lawsuits. They will go on few years, Many churches have already been closed down. > > The joke is a reference to the fact that the Catholic Church knew that many of these priests were committing these crimes and just secretly moved them around so that it would remain quiet. Oh… I figured it was not about me… but I still had no idea what you were talking about (I’m Protestant) I do know what you’re talking about regaurding the Catholic Church now though. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2005, 5:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-hate-me/290304/24 "2005-02-16T05:34:28Z")
> [@Tha1D0g](#): > > Oh… I figured it was not about me… but I still had no idea what you were talking about (I’m Protestant) > > I do know what you’re talking about regaurding the Catholic Church now though. So now you see how your comment about keeping your true identity hidden and relocating is funny. Yes? **Tha1D0g** , explaining jokes is a lot like disecting frogs. It interests no-one and the frog dies of it. ---
**Author:** ![Tha1D0g](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tha1d0g/32/7274_2.png) [@Tha1D0g](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tha1D0g)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2005, 5:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-hate-me/290304/25 "2005-02-16T05:54:47Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#): > > So now you see how your comment about keeping your true identity hidden and relocating is funny. Yes? > > **Tha1D0g** , explaining jokes is a lot like disecting frogs. It interests no-one and the frog dies of it. Right… but I did not even detect any humor. So never mind, I thought it somehow was relevant to the thread starter’s original situation. Dry humor, although the most witty, is always the hardest to interpret. My bad. ---
**Author:** ![Zoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a4c791/32.png) [@Zoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zoe)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2005, 7:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-hate-me/290304/26 "2005-02-16T07:02:17Z")
The people who don’t know you but “hate you” because of your bisexuality or religion or ethnic background aren’t really giving you any personal feedback about yourself. They hate an idea – a concept. Since they don’t **know** you, they can’t **hate** you. If I went up to infamous bigot Honoria Thwartmore-Witherstare and asked her what she has against **gfloyd** in Massachusetts, she would say that I was mistaken and that she had no idea what I was talking about. But she would go right on hating labels – and some of them might be labels that you might use to describe yourself. So it’s nothing personal against you. It’s personal against _her_. She’s the one with the problem. You can’t control the poor emotional intelligence of “everyone” who hates “you.” You can’t even name most of them. So they can’t name you and you can’t name them. What does that tell you? The “whys” are different for every person anyway. It would take up too much of your valuable, precious life to tell you “why” even if we knew. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to make up for all of that hate by genuinely loving as many people as possible during your lifetime. Get off the tour bus. Come to the cabaret. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2005, 9:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-hate-me/290304/27 "2005-02-16T09:44:46Z")
So you’re bisexual, feminist and pro-choice? I like you already. Tell me more. ---
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2005, 1:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-hate-me/290304/28 "2005-02-16T13:15:40Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > The main problem with relocating and starting over is that you always have a tagalong. The tagalong is you and all your traits. The tend to be very consistent from place to place and elicit roughly the same reaction wherever you go. Woo-HOO! Don’t I know it. You can run, but you can’t hide. Wherever you go, there you are. ---
**Author:** ![Tha1D0g](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tha1d0g/32/7274_2.png) [@Tha1D0g](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tha1D0g)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2005, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-hate-me/290304/29 "2005-02-16T21:56:43Z")
I guess the question you need to ask yourself is do you really hate the way you get treated enough to actually change the way you are? You do have view that bring on a lot of attention. More than likely that’s why you get that hated feeling. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-hate-me/290304.md?page=1)