# Why do people insist on being "nice" despite being told not to?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-insist-on-being-nice-despite-being-told-not-to/1011619>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [December 13, 2024, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-insist-on-being-nice-despite-being-told-not-to/1011619 "2024-12-13T21:14:27Z")\
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**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\
**Post date:** [December 16, 2024, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-insist-on-being-nice-despite-being-told-not-to/1011619/41 "2024-12-16T14:01:55Z")

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> [@ftg](#):
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> We keep trying to let her know that she doesn’t have to worry about us. We can get food or whatever when we feel like it.

Oh man, those kind of people! 🫤 I feel your pain.  
I don’t generally eat at work, for various reasons, but it never fails that no matter how many times I say, “No thank you”, someone will show up at my desk and chirp, “I fixed you a plate!” I accept it with thanks, then pick at it until they look away and I can toss it in the trash.

@Shalmanese, great post.

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**Author:** ![TRC4941](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trc4941/32/6792_2.png) [@TRC4941](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TRC4941)\
**Post date:** [December 16, 2024, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-insist-on-being-nice-despite-being-told-not-to/1011619/42 "2024-12-16T15:57:55Z")

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> [@Duckster](#):
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> smile, accept it, and say thank you. And mean it.

Perfectly said!

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**Author:** ![Eric1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/3bc359/32.png) [@Eric1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eric1)\
**Post date:** [December 16, 2024, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-people-insist-on-being-nice-despite-being-told-not-to/1011619/43 "2024-12-16T21:10:18Z")

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A whole ham is a pain to store as it takes up an entire fridge/freezer; I totally get it Chefguy. What if the person already has enough food that they already plan to eat up - I see the inadvertent part of the imposition for sure. ‘The whoops I didn’t know’ part.

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