# why do straight guys find girl-on-girl action hot, almost universally? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 2, 2010, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046 "2010-05-02T17:35:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Cyningablod](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9fc29f/32.png) [@Cyningablod](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyningablod)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/1 "2010-05-02T17:35:07Z")
So last night I watched David Lynch’s _Mulholland Drive_ (one of the very few in his ouevre that I hadn’t seen yet). There’s a pretty steamy scene between [Naomi Watts and Laura Elena Harring](http://mycocaine.files.wordpress.com/2009/08/mulholland_drive_0.jpg) (granted, Lynch being seated between them in this pic is not the sexiest thing in the world :smack:). I have long wondered: Why are straight guys almost universally rendered instantly horny–mere babbling, salivating primates, ruled only by their erections–by the idea or image of two hot (read: feminine) women going at it with each other? Is there any research on this? Did Kinsey or Masters & Johnson address the question? I don’t think evolutionary psychology suffices to explain this phenomenon. (I’m sure Desmond Morris has his hypotheses, but I’m uninterested in them, as his ideas strike me as pretty speculative.) What about traditional psychology or sociology? Here’s my amateur, unsupported hypothesis: To men, women are sex objects (they’re not “just” _objects_, of course, but stick with me here for a minute). So when a woman is “sexual” enough, when she’s either aroused enough, curious enough, or sufficiently libertine to make out with and/or have sex with another woman, her sexuality is enhanced in the eyes of the male beholder, exponentially. And because there is not one but two women involved in the act, it’s doubly exciting. Not just doubly/linearly, but maybe even exponentially. So I think it all reduces to a simple enhancement of perceived sexuality…lesbian acts (again, we’re talking _Hollywood_ lesbians, not the stereotypical flannel-wearing, Indigo-Girls-Lilith-Fair, buzzcut dyke, garden-variety lesbians, here) are seen by men as consummately sexual, and send the message to a male viewer that the woman/women is/are HIGHLY-CHARGED sexual being(s), even if their availability for heterosexual coupling is questionable at best. What do y’all think? ---
**Author:** ![Cyningablod](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9fc29f/32.png) [@Cyningablod](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyningablod)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/2 "2010-05-02T17:36:59Z")
I have one other idea: Maybe it’s learned context. Maybe a lot of guys’ fist exposure to lipstick lesbian scenarios is in pornography, so the excitement at the stimulus is a learned behavior (being associated with the arousal brought on by pornography)? ? ---
**Author:** ![Rex\_Goliath](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bcef8e/32.png) [@Rex\_Goliath](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rex_Goliath)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/3 "2010-05-02T17:43:30Z")
> [@Cyningablod](#): > > To men, women are sex objects (they’re not “just” _objects_, of course, but stick with me here for a minute). So when a woman is “sexual” enough, when she’s either aroused enough, curious enough, or sufficiently libertine to make out with and/or have sex with another woman, her sexuality is enhanced in the eyes of the male beholder, exponentially. And because there is not one but two women involved in the act, it’s doubly exciting. Not just doubly/linearly, but maybe even exponentially. For me, yes, this is it. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/4 "2010-05-02T17:45:15Z")
I like drinking beer. You know what is better than one beer? Two beers. It’s pretty much that simple. ---
**Author:** ![ivan\_astikov](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@ivan\_astikov](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivan_astikov)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/5 "2010-05-02T17:53:03Z")
Like the poster above, I’m a little surprised this question even needs to be asked. ---
**Author:** ![Lightnin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lightnin/32/180_2.png) [@Lightnin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lightnin)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/6 "2010-05-02T18:04:09Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I like drinking beer. You know what is better than one beer? Two beers. It’s pretty much that simple. And two beers giving each other head is even hotter. ---
**Author:** ![friedo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8edcca/32.png) [@friedo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/friedo)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/7 "2010-05-02T18:07:39Z")
Because there’s twice as much to look at. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/8 "2010-05-02T18:10:29Z")
I’ve asked this questions on here before and the basic answer seems to be, because there’s two of them. ---
**Author:** ![Cyningablod](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9fc29f/32.png) [@Cyningablod](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyningablod)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/9 "2010-05-02T18:13:46Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I like drinking beer. You know what is better than one beer? Two beers. It’s pretty much that simple. You have reduced my academic inquiry to foolishness. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Knig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/cdc98d/32.png) [@Typo\_Knig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Knig)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/10 "2010-05-02T18:14:04Z")
My theory is there’s all that female nudity on display without the distraction/potential rivalry of another guy. It’s easy for me to mentally impose myself into the scenario. But how universal is this? You can address this while I’m in my bunk. ---
**Author:** ![BrotherCadfael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@BrotherCadfael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrotherCadfael)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/11 "2010-05-02T18:16:48Z")
You’ve got twice as much of the stuff you want to look at, and none of the stuff you don’t. Pretty simple. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/12 "2010-05-02T18:21:43Z")
I find faux-lesbian action intensely boring. I’m not entirely sure why. It may have something to do with a few dull-three ways in my youth; it may be that I know a lot of lesbians and am pretty de-sensitized to the eroticism of their kissing, even if they’re hot. ---
**Author:** ![Todderbob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e47774/32.png) [@Todderbob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Todderbob)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/13 "2010-05-02T18:24:26Z")
Dude, there’s **TWO**. What’s so complicated about that? ---
**Author:** ![Cyningablod](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9fc29f/32.png) [@Cyningablod](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyningablod)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/14 "2010-05-02T18:24:30Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > I’ve asked this questions on here before and the basic answer seems to be, because there’s two of them. I dunno, I don’t think it’s that simple. I think there’s something about the _female homosexuality_ itself that is alluring. Consider, for example, a scenario–examples from the corpus of pornography abound [please pardon the unintentional pun triggered by the word _corpus_]–in which two women are involved in the same sexual scenario, _but not with each other_. I don’t know about other guys, but that wouldn’t have nearly the same titillating effect on me. In other words, two women merely being in the same “eyeful” is not at all to me erotically equivalent to two women lavishing erotic affection _on each other_. Here’s my point, expressed semi-mathematically: 1 woman in an erotic act + 1 woman in a different erotic act = 2 sexy women 1 woman in an erotic act **WITH** another woman in the same act, giving _each other_ affection = :D:eek::D:eek:😛 Others? ---
**Author:** ![GESancMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gesancman/32/2923_2.png) [@GESancMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GESancMan)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/15 "2010-05-02T18:24:43Z")
> [@Cyningablod](#): > > To men, women are sex objects (they’re not “just” _objects_, of course, but stick with me here for a minute). So when a woman is “sexual” enough, when she’s either aroused enough, curious enough, or sufficiently libertine to make out with and/or have sex with another woman, her sexuality is enhanced in the eyes of the male beholder, exponentially. And because there is not one but two women involved in the act, it’s doubly exciting. Not just doubly/linearly, but maybe even exponentially. Like most of the others, this pretty much sums it up. I just want to add that when it comes to porn, the big turn-on for me is seeing a woman get off. I have no interest in seeing some dude or his junk getting in the way. Thus, I only watch solo scenes and lesbian porn. And with the latter, it’s two-for-the-price-of-one, a win-win situation, and all that. ---
**Author:** ![Creole\_Tomato](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a4c791/32.png) [@Creole\_Tomato](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Creole_Tomato)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/16 "2010-05-02T18:47:02Z")
> [@Cyningablod](#): > > I have one other idea: > > Maybe it’s learned context. Maybe a lot of guys’ **fist** exposure to lipstick lesbian scenarios is in pornography, so the excitement at the stimulus is a learned behavior (being associated with the arousal brought on by pornography)? > > ? Nice Freudian typo. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Snowboarder\_Bo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowboarder_bo/32/229_2.png) [@Snowboarder\_Bo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snowboarder_Bo)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/17 "2010-05-02T19:05:30Z")
> [@Cyningablod](#): > > To men, women are sex objects (they’re not “just” _objects_, of course, but stick with me here for a minute). So when a woman is “sexual” enough, when she’s either aroused enough, curious enough, or sufficiently libertine to make out with and/or have sex with another woman, her sexuality is enhanced in the eyes of the male beholder, exponentially. And because there is not one but two women involved in the act, it’s doubly exciting. Not just doubly/linearly, but maybe even exponentially. > > So I think it all reduces to a simple enhancement of perceived sexuality…lesbian acts (again, we’re talking _Hollywood_ lesbians, not the stereotypical flannel-wearing, Indigo-Girls-Lilith-Fair, buzzcut dyke, garden-variety lesbians, here) are seen by men as consummately sexual, and send the message to a male viewer that the woman/women is/are HIGHLY-CHARGED sexual being(s), even if their availability for heterosexual coupling is questionable at best. > > What do y’all think? I think this is most of it. I think part of what makes it so awesome to guys is that we get to see 2 women who also see women as sex objects. The confirmation of our own desires and the realization that somehow there might be women who see this important aspect of life (sexuality) the same way we guys do and who will act in the same we guys want to, is just beyond cool and throws our poor primitive brains into **YES ME WANT!!!** mode, complete with chest thumping and bare-teeth growling if necessary (or requested). ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/18 "2010-05-02T19:49:10Z")
Because there are two. Note this only applies to women integers. One and a half women is not sexy, nor is that chick with three boobs from Total Recall. ---
**Author:** ![Napier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ce73a5/32.png) [@Napier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Napier)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/19 "2010-05-02T19:50:41Z")
Beats me. This male finds two frisky and scantily clad young ladies a pleasant sight, sure, but the idea that they are really only interested in each other more spoils it than enhances it. ---
**Author:** ![mo50](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8797f3/32.png) [@mo50](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mo50)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2010, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046/20 "2010-05-02T19:53:15Z")
Never got the attraction to Lesbian sex. Just doesn’t do anything for me. OK, someone revoke my Man Card! 😃 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-straight-guys-find-girl-on-girl-action-hot-almost-universally/538046.md?page=2)