# Why do we tell single people this? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 20, 2015, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-we-tell-single-people-this/740925 "2015-12-20T15:15:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![BeeGee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b5a626/32.png) [@BeeGee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BeeGee)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2015, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-we-tell-single-people-this/740925/21 "2015-12-22T16:16:04Z")
The worst thing I think people can say to a single person is “There’s someone for everyone.” No. No there is not. Some people will be alone. Learn to live alone without being lonely and half your battle is won. Do not believe for one single minute that there is some sort of kharmic bank whereby you are owed companionship. ---
**Author:** ![nicky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f0a364/32.png) [@nicky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nicky)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2015, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-we-tell-single-people-this/740925/22 "2015-12-22T18:03:07Z")
Because “you are going to die alone and your cats will eat your face” isnt nice? ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2015, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-we-tell-single-people-this/740925/23 "2015-12-22T18:30:30Z")
Some of my best days on earth have been when I’ve been single. Some other of my best days on earth have been when I’ve been in a relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2015, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-we-tell-single-people-this/740925/24 "2015-12-22T19:42:06Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > I’m still waiting for the OP to tell us what we should be saying. When my friend starts moaning about being single, I tell him “Learn to not be a prick”. That response may not work well with strangers, though. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2015, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-we-tell-single-people-this/740925/25 "2015-12-22T21:11:24Z")
> [@Brodi](#): > > Why is it whenever someone bemoans the fact that they are single, someone will come out and say something along the lines of they should “cherish/ be overjoyed/ be happy/etc being single”? Why do they make it seem like a bad thing for someone to WANT to be with someone? I’ve never gotten this (although I have heard a lot of stories), but I would assume it is because most relationships are dysfunctional. ---
**Author:** ![bump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@bump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bump)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2015, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-we-tell-single-people-this/740925/26 "2015-12-22T21:13:19Z")
> [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](#): > > Something about fences and the color of the grass. > mmm Really it’s “Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.” Every so often, there’s a thread on here bemoaning the fact that busybodies pester people about not being married, or not having boyfriends, and then now we have someone griping that people are suggesting they enjoy being single. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. I’d think the best course of action is just to not bring up relationships at all. ---
**Author:** ![jerry\_smissingfinger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e56c9b/32.png) [@jerry\_smissingfinger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jerry_smissingfinger)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2015, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-we-tell-single-people-this/740925/27 "2015-12-22T21:40:39Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > Where do you find these people? As near as I can tell, it never dawns on my friends that I might be looking for someone. I travel a lot and have 2 dogs that go with me practically everywhere. I have lived in a several states and am lucky to have some real good friends. I think it’s usually the wife of “these people” who have the opinion that a single person should have someone special in their life to grow old with, dunno? I’m in love with about 5 girls right now but have never thought of going under contract with one of them :lol Plus I think living with me would be too chaotic and spontaneous for someone ---
**Author:** ![Brodi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/cc9497/32.png) [@Brodi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brodi)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2015, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-we-tell-single-people-this/740925/28 "2015-12-22T21:49:38Z")
I was given that “advice” by several well meaning coworkers back when I was employed. I have several health issues, cannot drive and am waiting for the summer semester of a community college to start up. So between now and June I’m sort of in a limbo. I’ve tried Meetup, Facebook groups, volunteering and can’t seem to find someone (platonic or romantic) that doesn’t run for the hill when they eventually learn I have brain damage. They treat it like Ebola or something. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-do-we-tell-single-people-this/740925.md?page=1)