# Why does my girlfriend spend so much time here **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 22, 2010, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104 "2010-08-22T22:46:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/21 "2010-08-23T00:11:43Z")
> [@leedolee](#): > > she also says that only nerds eat chili dogs. Now, that is a damned lie. I once ate a foot long chili dog in the student union at 7:00 AM in hope that I would die and not have to take an Advanced Electronics final. I did not die, but I aced the test. Those things are good for you! šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/22 "2010-08-23T00:11:45Z")
No one else wants to know who ā€œsheā€ is??? ---
**Author:** ![kevishere](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/71c47a/32.png) [@kevishere](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kevishere)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/23 "2010-08-23T00:12:44Z")
Maybe the relationship is hurting for reasons completely unrelated to this website and she has come here for advice and support? It sounds to me as if you have some pretty serious communication and control issues! Lets also touch on the fact that she does not like you talking to her directly, and assume that is because you do not respect her or what she has to say (given your behavior on this website). Try listening more, speaking less, and choosing your words with great care and compassion, you may be surprised how far that will get you! ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/24 "2010-08-23T00:15:46Z")
Wienerschnitzel chili dogs rock. They rock harder than Jack In The Box tacos. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/25 "2010-08-23T00:17:28Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > my friend says I spend too much time here too Tell your friend to stop asking so many damn questions. šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/26 "2010-08-23T00:27:58Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > No one else wants to know who ā€œsheā€ is??? That crossed my mind, but it would probably be considered to be some stalking thing on the part of the curious. šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/27 "2010-08-23T00:37:51Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > No one else wants to know who ā€œsheā€ is??? Iā€™m thinking that _if_ the OP is genuine weā€™ll find out soon enough. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/28 "2010-08-23T00:40:39Z")
> [@leedolee](#): > > are you crazy? once she finds out about this thread iā€™m in deep trouble. i would hate to imagine what would happen if i started two. Iā€™m voting itā€™s **Shot From Guns**. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/29 "2010-08-23T00:41:35Z")
> [@Reply](#): > > > [@leedolee](#): > > > > she doesnā€™t like it when i talk to her directly. > > This is exactly the reason 3M released their Post-It Notes product. Many relationship failures are caused by unempathetic, overly-blunt communications where both parties talk and neither listens. > > Nothing can remedy that as well as Post-Its can. This is true. Just this weekend my mom stuck a post-it on the fyer that said ā€œclean meā€ and instead of arguing with Dad about him promising to do it and forgetting, he cleaned it _and_ the stove. Itā€™s a non-confrontational way to remind people about chores, thatā€™s for sure. Iā€™ll remember this when I get married. ---
**Author:** ![Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f475e1/32.png) [@Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jimmy_Chitwood)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/30 "2010-08-23T00:42:52Z")
That seems like a really good thing to speculate about. Also this thread is almost certainly going to fix this relationship. ---
**Author:** ![RandMcnally](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b782af/32.png) [@RandMcnally](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RandMcnally)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/31 "2010-08-23T00:45:22Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > > [@leedolee](#): > > > > are you crazy? once she finds out about this thread iā€™m in deep trouble. i would hate to imagine what would happen if i started two. > > Iā€™m voting itā€™s **Shot From Guns**. With absolutely no proof whatsoever, I say itā€™s **Diosa**. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/32 "2010-08-23T00:50:21Z")
With absolutely no proof whatsoever, myself, I thinkā€¦ > [@leedolee](#): > > she is really addicted to this site. i think she needs to scale back a little. it is hurting our relationship. what should i do? > [@PSXer](#): > > my friend says I spend too much time here too ā€¦you (both?) need to find a new writing style. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/33 "2010-08-23T00:59:04Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > > [@leedolee](#): > > > > are you crazy? once she finds out about this thread iā€™m in deep trouble. i would hate to imagine what would happen if i started two. > > Iā€™m voting itā€™s **Shot From Guns**. My vote, too, because the fireworks will be spectacular if it is. šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![Gagundathar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a183cd/32.png) [@Gagundathar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gagundathar)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/34 "2010-08-23T01:00:19Z")
This is when I think that there are actually only four or five people posting here. Am I the only person without multiple sock puppets?:dubious: ---
**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/35 "2010-08-23T01:20:49Z")
**MODERATOR STEPS IN**. The OP is for real. Heā€™s not a sock puppet. I _strongly_ suggest that posters refrain from openly suggesting that posters are trolls or sock puppets, at least in this forum. If you have a concern, email a mod or hit the red triagle to report a post. **samclem** , Moderator. ---
**Author:** ![Yllaria](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yllaria/32/3452_2.png) [@Yllaria](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yllaria)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/36 "2010-08-23T01:30:53Z")
> [@leedolee](#): > > > [@Otara](#): > > > > Have you considered talking to her directly rather than via a message board? > > > > Otara > > she doesnā€™t like it when i talk to her directly. Does she make you say ā€œyes, Mistressā€ when you do? ---
**Author:** ![pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pseudotriton_ruber_ruber)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/37 "2010-08-23T01:32:02Z")
> [@samclem](#): > > **MODERATOR STEPS IN**. > > The OP is for real. Heā€™s not a sock puppet. > > I _strongly_ suggest that posters refrain from openly suggesting that posters are trolls or sock puppets, at least in this forum. > > If you have a concern, email a mod or hit the red triagle to report a post. > > **samclem** , Moderator. Whatā€™s a triagle? ---
**Author:** ![not\_alice](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_alice/32/7283_2.png) [@not\_alice](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_alice)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/38 "2010-08-23T01:32:36Z")
> [@Johnny\_L.A](#): > > Wienerschnitzel chili dogs rock. > > They rock harder than Jack In The Box tacos. Peter Lemongello rocks harder that Jack In The Box Tacos ---
**Author:** ![pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pseudotriton_ruber_ruber)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/39 "2010-08-23T01:33:42Z")
Also, I understand how you can assure us someone is a sock puppet, but how can you assure us that someoneā€™s not? I donā€™t get that. Couldnā€™t he be an especially skillful sock puppet? ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/40 "2010-08-23T01:35:53Z")
> [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > \ > > Whatā€™s a triagle? Itā€™s like a triage, except with more corners. And fewer dying people. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104.md?page=3)