# Why does my girlfriend spend so much time here **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 22, 2010, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104 "2010-08-22T22:46:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/41 "2010-08-23T01:36:06Z")
Try sexting with her via the SDMB forums. ---
**Author:** ![Declan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecae2f/32.png) [@Declan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Declan)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/42 "2010-08-23T01:36:29Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > No one else wants to know who “she” is??? Im sure she will weigh in shortly Declan ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/43 "2010-08-23T01:36:39Z")
> [@beowulff](#): > > > [@PSXer](#): > > > > my friend says I spend too much time here too > > Well, it _is_ where the cool kids hang out… No it isn’t. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/44 "2010-08-23T01:43:02Z")
> [@Muffin](#): > > Try sexting with her via the SDMB forums. Would that be in The Game Room, MPSIMS, or the Pit? ---
**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/45 "2010-08-23T01:49:00Z")
> [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > Also, I understand how you can assure us someone is a sock puppet, but how can you assure us that someone’s not? I don’t get that. Couldn’t he be an especially skillful sock puppet? Not in this case. Ve have our Vays. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/46 "2010-08-23T01:59:04Z")
I just find it hard to believe you can still consider someone your girlfriend if you are never allowed to talk to her. Heck, if I couldn’t talk to a friend, we wouldn’t be friends. But word of Mod says this is is serious, so I’ll go ahead and state that this relationship seems far from healthy. The only way someone having this much control over your life would be healthy is if you are in a submissive/dominance relationship–which is something you both have to agree with. But your response here indicates that you are not happy with that type of relationship. If she refuses to let you talk to her, then you really aren’t in a relationship at all, and might as well move on. I’m sorry if that hurts. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/47 "2010-08-23T02:02:43Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > > [@leedolee](#): > > > > are you crazy? once she finds out about this thread i’m in deep trouble. i would hate to imagine what would happen if i started two. > > I’m voting it’s **Shot From Guns**. Nah. The OP would be titled “Why does my girlfriend spend so much time on World of Warcraft?” ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/48 "2010-08-23T02:11:26Z")
> [@samclem](#): > > > [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > > > Also, I understand how you can assure us someone is a sock puppet, but how can you assure us that someone’s not? I don’t get that. Couldn’t he be an especially skillful sock puppet? > > Not in this case. Ve have our Vays. I could very easily sock puppet here without being detected. All I have to do is use a computer with a different IP (e.g from the library), set up a whole new account, and speak differently on purpose. Knowing that, the only way **samclem** ’s comment makes sense is if one of the moderators is in on it. And if there’s something to be in on, then there’s no reason to take this thread seriously. (I’m not accusing the guy of being a troll, but merely that the thread is a joke.) ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/49 "2010-08-23T02:12:49Z")
> [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > What’s a triagle? Its a formal instrument of [The International Silver String Submarine Band](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFnJa9Tlk0k)? ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/50 "2010-08-23T02:24:13Z")
I for one really want to know what **Dio** has to say about this. (half-serious… am kinda curious. **leedolee** , how long have you been dating? ---
**Author:** ![robardin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/43a26b/32.png) [@robardin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robardin)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/51 "2010-08-23T02:28:40Z")
> [@leedolee](#): > > > [@Reply](#): > > > > Then you should start an IMHO thread about whether it’s fair for girlfriends to keep their guys away from the Dope. > > are you crazy? once she finds out about this thread i’m in deep trouble. **i would hate to imagine what would happen if i started two**. OMG! She must be a MOD then! :eek: ---
**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/52 "2010-08-23T02:44:11Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > I could very easily sock puppet here without being detected. All I have to do is use a computer with a different IP (e.g from the library), set up a whole new account, and speak differently on purpose. . Correct. > [@BigT](#): > > Knowing that, the only way **samclem** ’s comment makes sense is if one of the moderators is in on it. And if there’s something to be in on, then there’s no reason to take this thread seriously. . Incorrect. Your speculation is so far off base, I don’t understand where you got it. > [@BigT](#): > > (I’m not accusing the guy of being a troll, but merely that the thread is a joke.) Sure you are. You gussied it up a bit, but you’re saying he’s trolling the board. **STOP** WITH THE ACCUSATIONS. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/53 "2010-08-23T02:52:58Z")
I take it a face value that there are two separate people, that she does not want him to post here where she posts, and that he is concerned about this enough to post here himself. That, I find to be a joke. ---
**Author:** ![Princhester](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Princhester](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Princhester)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/54 "2010-08-23T03:35:08Z")
> [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > What’s a triagle? Imagine a long solid with a triangular cross section. When the length of the solid is infinite, it is referred to as a triagle. It is an ‘n’-less triangle ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/55 "2010-08-23T03:37:42Z")
> [@robardin](#): > > OMG! She must be a MOD then! :eek: That would explain why she spends so much time on here. ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/56 "2010-08-23T04:04:23Z")
> [@leedolee](#): > > > [@Otara](#): > > > > Have you considered talking to her directly rather than via a message board? > > > > Otara > > she doesn’t like it when i talk to her directly. :dubious: Is it still against the rules to call another poster an asshole if I’m not even sure who it is? Because, seriously, if this is true (and you are not in some kind of D/s thing\*), what an asshole. I think you should drop your “girlfriend” yesterday and post here if you want to. \*Question: being wholly unfamiliar with that type of relationship dynamic, does the whole “You will not address me directly” thing really apply to everyday, non-sexual, “Hey, let’s talk about our relationship” and other such situations? Or is there like a scheduled time where the sub can do/say as s/he pleases? Or perhaps a suggestion box? ---
**Author:** ![dogbutler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dogbutler/32/428_2.png) [@dogbutler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dogbutler)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/57 "2010-08-23T04:08:02Z")
> [@Hades](#): > > > [@beowulff](#): > > > > Well, it _is_ where the cool kids hang out… > > No it isn’t. Yes it is. My sig is my cite.😃 ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/58 "2010-08-23T04:16:19Z")
> [@Silver\_Fire](#): > > > [@leedolee](#): > > > > she doesn’t like it when i talk to her directly. > > :dubious: > > Is it still against the rules to call another poster an asshole if I’m not even sure who it is? Because, seriously, if this is true (and you are not in some kind of D/s thing\*), what an asshole. I think you should drop your “girlfriend” yesterday and post here if you want to. > > \*Question: being wholly unfamiliar with that type of relationship dynamic, does the whole “You will not address me directly” thing really apply to everyday, non-sexual, “Hey, let’s talk about our relationship” and other such situations? Or is there like a scheduled time where the sub can do/say as s/he pleases? Or perhaps a suggestion box? We only have the OP’s version, and it’s very vague at that. There’s got to be more than he’s told us here. ---
**Author:** ![Moonlitherial](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4bbf92/32.png) [@Moonlitherial](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moonlitherial)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/59 "2010-08-23T04:51:04Z")
What are you hoping to gain by posting here? ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/60 "2010-08-23T05:01:11Z")
Do you want us to tell her to scale back her time here? 'Cause we totally will if you want us to. Tell us what she looks like and we’ll keep an eye out for her. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104.md?page=4)