# Why does my girlfriend spend so much time here **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 22, 2010, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104 "2010-08-22T22:46:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/61 "2010-08-23T05:04:26Z")
I think she should post here MORE! I think your relationship is cutting into her Doping time. ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/62 "2010-08-23T05:08:26Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > We only have the OP’s version, and it’s very vague at that. Yes, I know that, which is why I said “if this is true”. We always make judgments here and base opinions on one-sided stories. I see no reason to not continue the trend just because the other party is a member here. If everything the OP has said is accurate and she doesn’t “let” him post here but her board habit is ruining their relationship and she doesn’t allow him to talk about it, etc… she’s an asshole and he should leave her. If she wants to come in here and dispute anything that he has said, let her. Otherwise, hooray snap judgments! ---
**Author:** ![Trepa\_Mayfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/edb3f5/32.png) [@Trepa\_Mayfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trepa_Mayfield)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/63 "2010-08-23T05:09:36Z")
> [@Princhester](#): > > > [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > > > What’s a triagle? > > Imagine a long solid with a triangular cross section. When the length of the solid is infinite, it is referred to as a triagle. It is an ‘n’-less triangle YEEEEEAAAAAAAAHHHHHH! (Nice pun) ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/64 "2010-08-23T05:21:00Z")
> [@Princhester](#): > > > [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > > > What’s a triagle? > > Imagine a long solid with a triangular cross section. When the length of the solid is infinite, it is referred to as a triagle. It is an ‘n’-less triangle |Win. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 8:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/65 "2010-08-23T08:22:41Z")
> [@RandMcnally](#): > > > [@needscoffee](#): > > > > I’m voting it’s **Shot From Guns**. > > With absolutely no proof whatsoever, I say it’s **Diosa**. if it is, I’m packing up and moving to bakersfeild in hopes of finding her available soon 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 9:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/66 "2010-08-23T09:45:00Z")
> [@Silver\_Fire](#): > > \*Question: being wholly unfamiliar with that type of relationship dynamic, does the whole “You will not address me directly” thing really apply to everyday, non-sexual, “Hey, let’s talk about our relationship” and other such situations? Or is there like a scheduled time where the sub can do/say as s/he pleases? Or perhaps a suggestion box? I don’t know about that, but for non-D/s relationships it can simply apply to lousy timing. Why did my father spring problematic conversations on my mother just when they had switched off the lights to sleep (now that I think about it, it may be because it’s the only time she’d shut up, see next question)? Why does my mother have no time-based filter betwen her brain and her mouth, leading her to say whatever she wants to share the instant she thinks about it, whether we are cooking lunch, parking the car or trying to convince a 3yo to put the right shoe on the right foot? I don’t know, but maybe what needs work in the OP’s case is the timing. “Not now, honey” is fine so long as it doesn’t become “never, honey”. ---
**Author:** ![Perciful](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b38774/32.png) [@Perciful](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Perciful)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/67 "2010-08-23T13:54:59Z")
Insecure men are such a pant load. My advice is just keep doing what your doing and the problem will take care of itself. ---
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/68 "2010-08-23T14:40:29Z")
I, for one, think it’s a serious post, but nothing will come of this thread. That guy’s not checking in again. I’ll place a bet on… **Shot From Guns**. And a side bet on **Guinastasia** just to be different. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Excellent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@Mr.Excellent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Excellent)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/69 "2010-08-23T14:47:42Z")
> [@Chessic\_Sense](#): > > I, for one, think it’s a serious post, but nothing will come of this thread. That guy’s not checking in again. > > I’ll place a bet on… **Shot From Guns**. And a side bet on **Guinastasia** just to be different. 3.) It’s **Opal!** ---
**Author:** ![Knowed\_Out](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/knowed_out/32/7380_2.png) [@Knowed\_Out](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knowed_Out)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/70 "2010-08-23T15:36:25Z")
I also place my bet the gf is **Guinastasia**. Could be this is really a hoax, but may as well have fun with it. ---
**Author:** ![miss\_elizabeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@miss\_elizabeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/miss_elizabeth)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/71 "2010-08-23T15:47:03Z")
Am I the only one thinking “stalker”? I mean, he can’t talk to her, so he posts cryptic shit where she might see it and respond. Its passive-aggressive, sure, but why should we assume there’s a real relationship here? ---
**Author:** ![Desert\_Nomad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desert_nomad/32/177_2.png) [@Desert\_Nomad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Desert_Nomad)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/72 "2010-08-23T15:55:03Z")
> [@Chessic\_Sense](#): > > I, for one, think it’s a serious post, but nothing will come of this thread. That guy’s not checking in again. > > I’ll place a bet on… **Shot From Guns**. And a side bet on **Guinastasia** just to be different. Maybe he’s out buying a keyboard with the capital letters feature enabled. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![kushiel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbce88/32.png) [@kushiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kushiel)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/73 "2010-08-23T16:41:43Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I think she should post here MORE! I think your relationship is cutting into her Doping time. If the OP wasn’t talking about a girlfriend, I’d think it might be your husband! But he has an account already, doesn’t he? And I think you’d marry someone with better grammar. ---
**Author:** ![BubbaDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bubbadog/32/333_2.png) [@BubbaDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BubbaDog)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/74 "2010-08-23T17:09:10Z")
There’s no way we can help this person until we get some much needed information. So, how big are her boobs? ---
**Author:** ![MN\_Maenad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e95f7d/32.png) [@MN\_Maenad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MN_Maenad)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/75 "2010-08-23T17:15:47Z")
> [@Hades](#): > > > [@beowulff](#): > > > > Well, it _is_ where the cool kids hang out… > > No it isn’t. Great post/username combo ( **Hades** , not **beowulff** ). ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/76 "2010-08-23T18:14:11Z")
> [@drachillix](#): > > > [@RandMcnally](#): > > > > With absolutely no proof whatsoever, I say it’s **Diosa**. > > if it is, I’m packing up and moving to bakersfeild in hopes of finding her available soon 🙂 It is most certainly not me, but I am available. I spent so much time with **RandMcNally** over the years that I may as well just marry into the family anyway. So, come on down! ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/77 "2010-08-23T18:47:33Z")
> [@kushiel](#): > > > [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > > > I think she should post here MORE! I think your relationship is cutting into her Doping time. > > If the OP wasn’t talking about a girlfriend, I’d think it might be your husband! But he has an account already, doesn’t he? And I think you’d marry someone with better grammar. Hey! I resemble that remark! ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/78 "2010-08-23T21:33:36Z")
> [@leedolee](#): > > > [@Lobohan](#): > > > > Maybe \*you \*should spend more time here. That would show her! > > she doesn’t want me here. she says this is her “thing” and i should find my own. she also says that only nerds eat chili dogs. Sonic? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/79 "2010-08-23T21:53:48Z")
> [@leedolee](#): > > she is really addicted to this site. i think she needs to scale back a little. it is hurting our relationship. what should i do? Join ussssssssss…Get on with it and felch a goat already. Then all will be revealed. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104/80 "2010-08-23T22:14:48Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > > [@drachillix](#): > > > > if it is, I’m packing up and moving to bakersfeild in hopes of finding her available soon 🙂 > > It is most certainly not me, but I am available. I spent so much time with **RandMcNally** over the years that I may as well just marry into the family anyway. So, come on down! you have a pm [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-does-my-girlfriend-spend-so-much-time-here/551104.md?page=5)