I didn’t notice anybody make this point, forgive me if it has been mentioned–
I think it would be helpful if the OP defined hate. I think the gay activist version of hate isn’t exactly always “hate” in its traditional sense.
What I mean to say is gay activists will frequently throw the term hate around when the truth is more like “lack of 100% support.”
For an example, no matter how friendly you are to gays personally, no matter how much you support sex between two consenting adults being legal, no matter how much you say it is wrong for gays to face housing discrimination, or employment discrimination, etc, if you dare utter “I don’t think gay marriage is constructive” you’re called a hater.
I don’t have hateful reasons for not being in favor of gay marriage. I also decry a number of sociological trends that seem to be making marriage a rather meaningless concept. My attitude, whether mistaken or not, is not founded in hate.
it’s easy to mistake though–I suppose I can be somewhat snarky when I come across a gay activist who insists without exception that gay relationships are loving and committed while heterosexual breeders are dysfunctional–I have no sympathy for those who do a 180 with bigotry. Cry out the bigots hate you and I am not gonna ahve any sympathy if you turn around and engage in the same behavior.
Please, no-one try to twist this into some claim from me that ALL gays do the 180 bigot. I’ll be the first to admit that many gays are much more fair and really do want to get along with a straight majority. But you can’t get along with a straight majority when you insist that the straight majority is inherently inferior either.