Phage, here’s the thing. Mathematics isn’t something handed down from heaven, it is something (IMHO) that humans have invented. Mathematics is about inventing rules and examining the consequences of those rules.
You are perfectly welcome to claim that 0.99999… is not equal to 1. What you have done is invent an mathematical axiom for what I’ll call Mathematics-P, for Phage. This is a perfectly fine mathematical axiom. Perfectly normal, perfectly healthy. Those other guys arguing with you have another axiom, that 0.99999…=1. And they are perfectly within their rights to claim that. Let’s call their branch of mathematics Mathematics-L, for Liebnitz. Newton gets all the credit for calculus, and I’m sick of it, let’s give Liebnitz some face time.
OK, we have two competing versions of mathematics here. But, which one is correct? In my opinion, neither is correct and neither is false. But we can look at the consequences of what happens with either axiom. It turns out that if we accept Mathematics-P, then we get some very interesting results. Under Mathematics-P, it makes a difference what number basis you use. If you use base-10 to do math, you get different results than if you use base-12. But why is that? It doesn’t make sense. If you use Math-P you quickly run into all sorts of contradictory statements. It turns out that Math-P is not internally consistent.
I’m sure that all the people who do a lot of math could list out all sorts of other consequences that show why Math-P is inconsistent. If we used Math-P to try to figure out things in the real world we’d be unable to do anything, not even add 1 and 1 to make 2.
Now, if we use Math-L, we do get consequences that are hard to understand. But Math-L is internally consistent. As long as we use the same definitions, we are able to do things like add 1 and 1, or convert from base-10 to base-12 or base-2, or figure out the volume under curves. The reason everyone is yelling at when you say that 0.9999…!=1 is that you are right then mathematics is internally inconsistent. They are just using shorthand when they say that internally inconsistent mathematics is false, when they really mean it is illogical.
Of course, if you claim that the rules of logic don’t apply to the real universe, then there is no way to logically convince you that logic MUST apply. Contrariwise, if logic doesn’t work then there is no way for you to convince the rest of us that it doesn’t work. Does that help? Maybe someone with better math skills than me could compile a list of things that prove that Math-P is internally inconsistent, maybe that would help.