# Why doesn't your wife/husband/significant other post at the SDMB? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 29, 2008, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082 "2008-10-29T14:46:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/41 "2008-10-29T18:42:50Z")
He just isn’t interested. He knows I spend way too much time here, and knows my user name and generally enjoys the threads I send him links to. He’s even met a few Dopers with me. It’s not about the geekiness (he reads/posts on Slashdot!), but more about the randomness of it that doesn’t interest him. He likes more focused topics. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/42 "2008-10-29T18:43:25Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > The official reason is that she found the usual suspects in Great Debates intellectually and wants a time out to learn more. > > I suspect the actual reason is that she has her own message board where, I’m sure, she sometimes talks about me, and she doesn’t want to share that, and feared that if she kept posting here, she couldn’t justifiably complain about me lurking. I want her to have her own space, so I’m okay with it. Hamsters, doubtlessly employed by Terrifel, ate the word “intimidating” in the above post. Originally it was supposed to follow “intellectually.” ---
**Author:** ![miamouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ad7895/32.png) [@miamouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/miamouse)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/43 "2008-10-29T19:11:23Z")
Because to him the internet is soley for the purpose of looking up cheat codes and watching porn. Plus, it would include reading and/or thinking. ---
**Author:** ![HeyHomie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heyhomie/32/207_2.png) [@HeyHomie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HeyHomie)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/44 "2008-10-29T20:09:05Z")
> [@](#): > > “Why would I want to post on some geeky message board… god, you’re such a nerd”. Mrs. Homie’s sentiments exactly. She also thinks that this place is too populated by snarky, left-leaning hipsters to be to her liking (though I myself am neither snarky, left-leaning nor a hipster). She sticks to her scrapbooking message boards. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/45 "2008-10-29T20:42:31Z")
She doesn’t quite get the virtual friend thing, and isn’t much of a computer person anyway. Being that this is one of my sanctuaries away from her, I’m fine with that. She has, however, attended a 'fest, and enjoyed meeting everyone. ---
**Author:** ![Projammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/projammer/32/559_2.png) [@Projammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Projammer)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/46 "2008-10-29T21:12:14Z")
I don’t guess this question really applies to me because she does post here after having followed me in to look at a thread I linked her to. She’s started a few threads seeking insight to things I’ve said or just about things she’s interested in. I’ll point out threads I think she would be interesting to her, and for the most part I’ll treat here here the same as I would any other poster. She doesn’t have to monitor what she says here nor do I. I have no idea if she frequents any other sites and I’m not planning to make any special effort to find out. I figure that if she needs her own space she’ll find it. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/47 "2008-10-29T21:14:30Z")
He thinks it’s weird and something to keep me amused. He’s not all that sure about Facebook, either. Just not his thing. ---
**Author:** ![Cluricaun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bb73d2/32.png) [@Cluricaun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cluricaun)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/48 "2008-10-29T21:22:42Z")
She openly regards the Dope with scorn and derision as a “bunch of people you don’t actually know talking about the dumbest stuff in the world” especially because it can steal time from her, but she has occasionally used us via myself to find out answers to things by asking “So what do your internet friends think about that?” ---
**Author:** ![Knorf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/58956e/32.png) [@Knorf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knorf)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/49 "2008-10-29T21:25:51Z")
She likes to look over my shoulder from time to time, but that’s mainly during election season. Since we have some pretty erudite people on the left and right, she’s interested in what certain posters have to say about presidential election issues. Otherwise, she’s just not that interested. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Bruin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Queen\_Bruin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Bruin)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/50 "2008-10-29T21:37:48Z")
He did for a while. He just has other things he likes doing. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/51 "2008-10-29T21:40:35Z")
> [@scout1222](#): > > **Giraffe** , your wife cracks me up. Of course, it’s probably not surprising that she’d have to have a good sense of humor… Hey! What’s that supposed to mean?! And technically, she didn’t actually “say” that. I try to preserve a certain image with her (she’s much smarter and better looking than me), so whenever I go to surf and post on message boards I just tell her I’m masturbating to pornography and not to come into the room for an hour or two. I don’t want her thinking I’m some sort of “internet guy”. ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2008, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/52 "2008-10-30T03:15:10Z")
He can barely operate a computer. Seriously. He and computers don’t get along. However, he has enjoyed meeting some of the other Dopers such as **Bambi** and **Quasimodem**. He refers to Dopers as “those Internet people”. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2008, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/53 "2008-10-30T03:32:02Z")
(1) She doesn’t _do_ messages boards. (2) The rules prevent her from posting in Chinese. (3) [She’s tired](http://www.flickr.com/photos/90901585@N00/2966102085/). ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2008, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/54 "2008-10-30T03:47:17Z")
She’s inordinately un-confident about her English ability. She’s well-versed in few, if any, of the cultural and pop-cultural elements that play such a big role in the collective subconscious here. When she does read messages here, she usually loses interest in about five minutes because nothing anybody’s saying makes any sense. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2008, 3:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/55 "2008-10-30T03:48:40Z")
I have no frickin’ idea. After months of hearing me say, “So there was this interesting thread on the Dope today…” he finally started lurking, and after paid subscriptions ended he joined, but he has yet to post anything. Apparently, though, he sometimes reads my posts, so hopefully I can smoke him out. Freaking POST already, Hon! ---
**Author:** ![truthbot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e9bcb4/32.png) [@truthbot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/truthbot)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2008, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/56 "2008-10-30T04:16:12Z")
mr. bot develops an insane twitch when presented with a _press one for …__press two for…_ option when calling customer service. Dammit, he would rather speak to a human. He doesn’t know how to use his cell phone. When it rings, he gets sweaty palms and asks me “What button do I push???” It’s quite sweet, actually. When he tries to play a game on my PC, he uses both hands to control the mouse. Right hand on the mouse, left hand on top of the right hand to steady the right hand. His hunt and peck method of using a keyboard makes me giggle. Oh, I’ve tried to broaden his horizens. I bought him a nice puter five years ago. After a couple of years of him banging his head on the keyboard with _spittle flying everywhere_, I just gave up. He now surfs using his TV remote, and I peruse the internet. We are both content with this arrangement. ---
**Author:** ![BrassyPhrase](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea666f/32.png) [@BrassyPhrase](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrassyPhrase)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2008, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/57 "2008-10-30T04:44:26Z")
He is involved in plenty of online things of his own. I show him links of fun threads (funny or about something he knows about). He generally finds them riveting and we’ll have some great conversations that lead from posts. ---
**Author:** ![SmartAleq](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/smartaleq/32/163_2.png) [@SmartAleq](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmartAleq)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2008, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/58 "2008-10-30T05:11:37Z")
He’s geeky as hell and enjoys it when I share especially interesting posts and threads with him because he likes it when I read aloud, but he’s not a terribly social person overall and has zero interest in communicating with the internet as a whole. As far as he’s concerned, the internet is a place for him to get what he wants and get out–he likes being the ghost in the machine. My daughter, now, I think would be a smashing addition to the Doper culture and I’ve been trying like crazy to get her hooked but so far she’s resisting. She’s smart and articulate and writes well so I think it’s just a matter of time. I send her links quite often… ---
**Author:** ![Rico](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rico/32/3582_2.png) [@Rico](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rico)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2008, 6:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/59 "2008-10-30T06:58:09Z")
> [@MadPansy64](#): > > …Rico, Mrs. Rico… And it was wonderful meeting you and your husband as well. Although Mrs. Rico is known around these parts as **[cadolphin](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/member.php)**. Call her Mrs. Rico - and she gets…well…you know, sort of irrational… Oh wait a minute, she’s female. Disregard. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Layla01](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/layla01/32/15552_2.png) [@Layla01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Layla01)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2008, 10:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082/60 "2008-10-30T10:12:10Z")
He lurks here - but hasn’t posted. He has his own places that he likes to go online (Mostly music type sites.) Just different taste I guess. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-doesnt-your-wife-husband-significant-other-post-at-the-sdmb/470082.md?page=4)