# Why don't men call? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 4, 2001, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874 "2001-08-04T03:00:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Markxxx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5daacb/32.png) [@Markxxx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Markxxx)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2001, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/1 "2001-08-04T03:00:59Z")
After a good date? When they ask for your number? ---
**Author:** ![Turbo\_Dog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ce73a5/32.png) [@Turbo\_Dog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turbo_Dog)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2001, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/2 "2001-08-04T03:16:02Z")
I’ve always called every number ever given to me. 9 times out of ten though, it was a disconnected number. I could never figure out why I always wound up dating girls that went broke the next day and had to leave town. Bad luck. ---
**Author:** ![BlackKnight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/eb8c5e/32.png) [@BlackKnight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlackKnight)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2001, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/3 "2001-08-04T03:18:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Markxxx \* > **After a good date?** Maybe the date wasn’t as good for them? > [@](#): > > **When they ask for your number?** Perhaps they wanted to call, but chickened out. Perhaps they lost the number. Perhaps they never intended to call at all, and just wanted to know if they _could_ get the number, if they tried. Maybe they’re trying to win a bet. Hell, what do I know? I’ve never gotten any phone numbers. Never asked either. ---
**Author:** ![kniz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c37758/32.png) [@kniz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kniz)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2001, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/4 "2001-08-04T18:08:22Z")
[list][list][list][list][list]I like to dissect girls. Did you know that I’m utterly insane? [list] **disqualifies his answer** [list][list]:rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2001, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/5 "2001-08-04T18:35:35Z")
Markxxx, perhaps you should ask for their phone numbers in return. Then if they don’t call you, you call them. (Or just call them and don’t bother waiting). If they don’t want you to have their phone numbers, they probably weren’t going to call you anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Albert\_Rose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de053/32.png) [@Albert\_Rose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Albert_Rose)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2001, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/6 "2001-08-04T20:56:49Z")
Some men _do_ call. Some men call **sometimes.** Please don’t lump me in with the jerks who don’t. ---
**Author:** ![sewalk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b3f665/32.png) [@sewalk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sewalk)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/7 "2001-08-05T03:49:37Z")
Quit dating jerks. ---
**Author:** ![SpaceGhostofArrakis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9fc348/32.png) [@SpaceGhostofArrakis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SpaceGhostofArrakis)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/8 "2001-08-05T16:18:10Z")
That’s easy. Men (at least, me, and everyone else in my Cadet unit)are inherently lazy. We’d much rather watch a SNL rerun then get up and take the time to call. Scratch that, my roommate for my first semester was pretty good with calling his girlfriend. But most everyone else was like “eh” ---
**Author:** ![MAXIMUMSTRENT1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de053/32.png) [@MAXIMUMSTRENT1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MAXIMUMSTRENT1)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/9 "2001-08-05T16:32:22Z")
Well, why don’t women ever call, aside from the beer enhanced ones I should never have given my number to anyhow? As for guys, many are probably rather shy once sober. They could be afraid of the ‘Big Slam’ when calling up a slightly tipsy girl they met while slightly tipsy themselves and get the ‘ice cool’ phone response. It happened to me before. Met great girl. Had great fun that night. (No sex, rats!) Got number. Sobered up and called number next afternoon. Requested date, Found she had to take dog to vet. Cool in conversation. Kind of flat. Next day I called; had to bath dog. Skipped two days and called: had to watch over dog. I got the hint. On another, ‘He’ sleepily answered the phone and sounded large so I hung up. Fast. On one more time, mouthy little kiddy answered the phone and decided she did not like me, told me so and hung up. Second call, she said I could not talk to her Momma, who was sleeping. Third call I told her to give Momma message and she said NO!!!. Next call, after Momma should have been up, got me a ‘you go away’ in this clear, no longer cute kid voice. All calls in the same day over a 6 hour period. Now, even I hesitate about calling back unless she calls me first. ---
**Author:** ![IceQueen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/34f0e0/32.png) [@IceQueen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IceQueen)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/10 "2001-08-05T18:10:40Z")
Call him yourself, it’s the 2000s, yo. ---
**Author:** ![Mahaloth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mahaloth/32/1079_2.png) [@Mahaloth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mahaloth)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/11 "2001-08-05T20:27:23Z")
Some men are nervous. Some men are insecure. Some men fear being overanxious. Of course, a vast majority of men are pigs. ---
**Author:** ![djf750](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ea666f/32.png) [@djf750](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/djf750)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/12 "2001-08-05T21:07:46Z")
I guess the date wasn’t so good for them-And how did you go on a date with them if they didn’t have your number in the first place? And many men do call. And like other poster’s have written, they get shot down. And what does this mean?? “My Brillance is so pure, I make Ghandi look like a child pornographer” It is one of the earlier poster’s signature. ---
**Author:** ![BlackKnight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/eb8c5e/32.png) [@BlackKnight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlackKnight)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/13 "2001-08-05T21:24:11Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by kniz \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > I like to dissect girls. > > Did you know that I’m utterly insane? > > **disqualifies his answer** :rolleyes: \*\* Yeah, the fact that my sig is a quotation from a movie means that, obviously, I’m an utter boob with no opinions worth considering on this matter. If only it were that easy to know who to ignore. (BTW, if you meant that as a _joke_, as opposed to a derogatory remark, you probably should have used a smiling smiley instead of a rolleyes. If you had, I probably would have found it somewhat humorous.) ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2001, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/14 "2001-08-05T23:00:28Z")
So Mark, do you always call back yourself? ---
**Author:** ![Snooooopy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee7513/32.png) [@Snooooopy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snooooopy)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/15 "2001-08-06T03:47:35Z")
Once I start having good dates again, I’ll be sure to be a credit to my sex. ---
**Author:** ![DougC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7feea3/32.png) [@DougC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DougC)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 8:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/16 "2001-08-06T08:48:14Z")
- - - “Markxxx” appears to be a male name. This could be a guy asking why guys don’t call him, or a guy just asking why guys don’t call. _However_, Between men and women, Men don’t call because women worry about it more anyway, and get a bigger kick out of doing it. Maybe not all the time, but most of the time. Similar to why guys wear mismatched clothes: partly because they don’t really care, but also because if they dressed themselves well, that’s one thing the GF won’t get to do for them. -And a guy who dresses well all the time looks gay and is less likely to attract a woman in the first place, and even if he does, women don’t want a guy who can coordinate clothes better than they can. ! -Oddly enough, a good BF will have nice clothes he never wears, just so the GF can steal/wear them. ~ (-where are you?-) - MC ---
**Author:** ![slortar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/6bbea6/32.png) [@slortar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slortar)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/17 "2001-08-06T13:53:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SpaceGhostofArrakis \* > \*\*That’s easy. Men (at least, me, and everyone else in my Cadet unit)are inherently lazy. We’d much rather watch a SNL rerun then get up and take the time to call. > > Scratch that, my roommate for my first semester was pretty good with calling his girlfriend. But most everyone else was like “eh” \*\* I’m with SpaceGhost. Men inherently have short attention spans and any shiny object will distract us long enough to prevent us from dialing that number. ---
**Author:** ![Jet\_Jaguar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jet_jaguar/32/3562_2.png) [@Jet\_Jaguar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jet_Jaguar)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/18 "2001-08-06T13:58:28Z")
Well, why do women give their number out to guys they have no intention of seeing again? Call them up and they can’t go out this weekend because they’re washing their hair. All day. Okay, I can take a hint… ---
**Author:** ![Mahaloth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mahaloth/32/1079_2.png) [@Mahaloth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mahaloth)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/19 "2001-08-06T14:45:33Z")
Does anyone else feel this spiraling toward becoming a Pit thread? ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/20 "2001-08-06T14:53:38Z")
I’ve read a lot of messages from Markxxx & if I remember right he gets A LOT of dates. I don’t know if he is asking because someone didn’t call him back or just in general, maybe he could enlighten us? I don’t think it has much to do with gender though. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874.md?page=2)