# Why don't men call? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 4, 2001, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874 "2001-08-04T03:00:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/21 "2001-08-06T16:07:40Z")
Men who ask for your number but don’t call you are chicken-shits. They do, however, fall into two categories: 1. They didn’t like the date, but wanted to get out of there without a big hassle, so they pretended they did, and asked for your number. They never planned to call you. 2. They may have liked the date, but are afraid you didn’t and/or wouldn’t want to see them again, so rather than risk rejection, they’d rather just sit alone in their squalid apartments eating mac and cheese straight out of the pan. I was usually a type-3 chicken-shit, i.e. worried about rejection to the point of just not asking people for their number. Type-3’s are more lame, but don’t bother anybody at least. Once I got over that, I saw no reason not to call if I liked someone. Rejection? Pah! ---
**Author:** ![Eo\_Echo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ebca7d/32.png) [@Eo\_Echo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eo_Echo)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/22 "2001-08-06T16:50:56Z")
I’m phone-phobic. I don’t even like calling my friends on the phone. I’m much more comfortable talking to people in person. That said, for years I made up excuses not to call for dates. Then I started forcing myself. Now it’s not very difficult at all. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/23 "2001-08-06T17:18:57Z")
There’s about a 90% intersection of guys you find attractive with all the other women out there - about 10% of the guys. So most of the time you’re competing with a lot of other women, and that minority of men have learned they can treat women like dirt. There’s plenty more. So most women can honestly post on here that men don’t call them back. Also, most men can post that they honestly do call women back. Yes, I realize I’m painting with a brush so big it covers the whole canvas with one swath. ---
**Author:** ![bughunter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/aeb1de/32.png) [@bughunter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bughunter)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/24 "2001-08-06T22:09:48Z")
As a male, I could ask the counter-question, with an equally generalizing tone: “Why do women always prefer the men who are jerks?” [sub]Of course, I don’t believe that’s true. Anymore.[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![kasuo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/8c91f0/32.png) [@kasuo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kasuo)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2001, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/25 "2001-08-06T23:41:11Z")
Isn’t there any industry-standard of 2 or 3 days? Well OP, maybe you should watch **Swingers** , there’s a whole scene on this very topic. ---
**Author:** ![TVeblen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4bbf92/32.png) [@TVeblen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TVeblen)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2001, 1:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/26 "2001-08-07T01:44:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Mahaloth \* > \*\*Does anyone else feel this spiraling toward becoming a Pit thread? \*\* **Moderator’s note:** Yepper, you ain’t alone, **Mahaloth**. Please try to keep this discussion civil and above personalities, folks. I’m guessing the OP put this in IMHO seeking a somewhat rational discourse. TVeblen, for IMHO ---
**Author:** ![Albert\_Rose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de053/32.png) [@Albert\_Rose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Albert_Rose)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2001, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/27 "2001-08-07T03:32:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Markxxx \* > \*\*After a good date? > > When they ask for your number? \*\* Cite, please? ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2001, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874/28 "2001-08-07T15:11:04Z")
I don’t like to call cause I have to use a relay operator to do the thing & it freaks people out. I just use email instead. Women give their email address a lot faster than their phone numbers. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-dont-men-call/74874.md?page=1)