# Why I Froze My Eggs (And You Should, Too) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 6, 2013, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-i-froze-my-eggs-and-you-should-too/657600 "2013-05-06T04:45:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Sateryn76](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Sateryn76](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sateryn76)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2013, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-i-froze-my-eggs-and-you-should-too/657600/21 "2013-05-07T00:55:30Z")
> [@Dangerosa](#): > > Or, no, you can’t have it all. You may have eggs, but carrying a healthy fetus to term at 50 will be harder. Having a toddler at 50 will be harder. Having your kids go to college when you are 70 will be harder. And paying for college on a fixed income 😃 > > Maybe, the combination of lucky and dedicated will pay off in your 40s with a great husband, a lot of personal wealth, a baby, and a good nanny, but there is a hell of a lot of risk there. This is like betting at 14 that you’ll have a pro sports career. That’s an excellent analogy. I think we should get away from letting people think they can have it all. Because they can’t. And oftentimes, the kid is the one who pays. Mom and dad get their twenties and their thirties, with party time and career building, and then the kids. The kids get to deal with geriatric problems in their twenties, then their parents are dead by their thirties. And their kids get no grandparents. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2013, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-i-froze-my-eggs-and-you-should-too/657600/22 "2013-05-07T02:02:27Z")
> [@Dangerosa](#): > > Or, no, you can’t have it all. You may have eggs, but carrying a healthy fetus to term at 50 will be harder. Having a toddler at 50 will be harder. Having your kids go to college when you are 70 will be harder. And paying for college on a fixed income 😃 > > Maybe, the combination of lucky and dedicated will pay off in your 40s with a great husband, a lot of personal wealth, a baby, and a good nanny, but there is a hell of a lot of risk there. This is like betting at 14 that you’ll have a pro sports career. Freezing one’s eggs is not betting; it’s hedging one’s bets. Nothing stops the woman from then conceiving children naturally at any age. The frozen eggs are a backstop in case life doesn’t work out for whatever reason and one ends up having children late. (Obviously, the downside is the monetary cost). Personally, I’m a new father at 45. Married for the first time in my late 20s; lasted for a few years before breaking up with no kids. Single for a few years in my mid-thirties. Married again in my late 30s (much more happily) and spent several years trying to conceive. Certainly, there are risks and downsides to having a baby now, but there would have been risks and downsides to bringing a baby into the world when my life was less stable and less happy. I will say, I don’t have the energy now that I did at 25. But on the other hand, I’m a lot calmer, more tolerant, and more together than I was back then, and my son will get the benefit of my emotional maturity. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2013, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-i-froze-my-eggs-and-you-should-too/657600/23 "2013-05-07T03:26:22Z")
We never have any eggs left to freeze. We fry them sunny side up and eat them. 😃 😃 😃 ---
**Author:** ![keturah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e95f7d/32.png) [@keturah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/keturah)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2013, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-i-froze-my-eggs-and-you-should-too/657600/24 "2013-05-07T03:39:50Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > We never have any eggs left to freeze. We fry them sunny side up and eat them. > > 😃 😃 😃 What in the world would move you to post something like this? ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2013, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-i-froze-my-eggs-and-you-should-too/657600/25 "2013-05-07T03:43:41Z")
It’s called a joke. Inspired by the thread title. There were plenty of serious responses before my post. Joking is common in threads. ---
**Author:** ![keturah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e95f7d/32.png) [@keturah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/keturah)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2013, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-i-froze-my-eggs-and-you-should-too/657600/26 "2013-05-07T03:51:26Z")
That is what passes for a joke in your world? You should excuse yourself to the ladies room–your poor taste is showing. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2013, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-i-froze-my-eggs-and-you-should-too/657600/27 "2013-05-07T04:14:39Z")
Banking eggs has been a growing trend among professional women for over a decade. My oldest daughter banked hers in 2011. She’s not interested in marrying until she has her own accounting firm established. She’s a CPA in another firm right now. Theres really no down side other than the cost. If the money is available then it’s a smart choice to make. The decision to have children can be made at a more convenient time. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2013, 7:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-i-froze-my-eggs-and-you-should-too/657600/28 "2013-05-07T07:13:15Z")
Let’s drop the hijack of the joke and continue it in the Pit if any of the parties wish. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-i-froze-my-eggs-and-you-should-too/657600.md?page=1)