# Why I'm Leaving This Board **URL:** \ **Category:** About This Message Board\ **Created:** [March 15, 2022, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063 "2022-03-15T00:11:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![gdave](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gdave/32/3683_2.png) [@gdave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gdave)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/1 "2022-03-15T00:11:38Z")
I recently had a truly horrible interaction with moderator @Chronos in a Message thread about a post I had flagged. That post appears to have been completely removed, which was the right decision. Whoever finally made that decision, good job. Truly. The Message thread, which some other mods participated in, seems to have also been disappeared. I still have the emails of the mod messages in that thread, since I had email notifications for Messages turned on at the time, but not copies of the messages I wrote. Since the flagged post has been removed, and I don’t have a complete record of that message thread, I won’t rehash it here. And to be clear, I am under no delusions that my personal boycott will be of any moment to anyone. But I cannot be a member of this board as long as @Chronos is still a mod. @What_Exit, @RickJay, @puzzlegal, I appreciate that you seemed to actually grasp the issues with the flagged post and responded responsibly. You didn’t call out Chronos for their truly appalling responses, though. Maybe you did in private. Maybe you did after I indicated I was leaving the thread and the board. I hope so. @What_Exit made the right interim call with regards to the flagged post and ultimately the right final call was made, which I appreciate. But Chronos is utterly unfit to be a mod, and even if they are removed, I can’t bring myself to continue participating here after that experience. I know I’ve at least occasionally been kind of prickly here, and I apologize to everyone I was unnecessarily short with. Honestly, I’ve had some fairly toxic interactions here, but I’ve also had quite a few good ones, and I have learned A LOT. And I’m genuinely grateful to the good posters on here who’ve taught me so much. I’m genuinely sad to leave. Goodbye. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/2 "2022-03-15T00:27:46Z")
I am really sorry to see that, gdave, and I hope you’ll reconsider, or rejoin at some point. I enjoy your posts. ---
**Author:** ![bobot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bobot/32/21622_2.png) [@bobot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobot)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/3 "2022-03-15T00:40:58Z")
Maybe this shit should have been private, too. ---
**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/4 "2022-03-15T00:43:55Z")
Sorry to hear this. I’ve had good interactive interactions with both @gdave and @Chronos. I hope you come back. ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/5 "2022-03-15T00:44:52Z")
I am very sorry to see this. You are one of my favourite posters. ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/6 "2022-03-15T00:46:08Z")
> [@bobot](#): > > Maybe this shit should have been private, too. Board feedback should be public, especially for something that is making a good poster leave. ---
**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/7 "2022-03-15T00:48:15Z")
I’ll admit that I’m very curious what @Chronos said. ---
**Author:** ![bobot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bobot/32/21622_2.png) [@bobot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobot)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/8 "2022-03-15T00:49:21Z")
OK, then OP can be specific. I haven’t interacted much with Chronos, but I know he’s been here a long time. OP basically shit on him publicly without saying anything. OP, Buddy, even if people in this thread say that they care if you leave, no one cares. ---
**Author:** ![Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eyebrows_0f_doom/32/3119_2.png) [@Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eyebrows_0f_Doom)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/9 "2022-03-15T00:50:30Z")
> [@Northern\_Piper](#): > > > [@bobot](#): > > > > Maybe this shit should have been private, too. > > Board feedback should be public, especially for something that is making a good poster leave. Then maybe he should actually say what is so terrible that it made him want to leave. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/10 "2022-03-15T00:56:12Z")
Happy trails. There’s plenty of places out there to explore when your time here is done. ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/11 "2022-03-15T00:56:13Z")
> [@bobot](#): > > even if people in this thread say that they care if you leave, no one cares. Speak for yourself. ---
**Author:** ![RitterSport](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rittersport/32/6326_2.png) [@RitterSport](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RitterSport)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/12 "2022-03-15T00:59:52Z")
@gdave, I have generally appreciated your posts here and I’m sorry you’ve had a bad experience. I don’t think there are many other places around that have the kind of intelligent debates and discussions that you found here, so hopefully you’ll be back. RS ---
**Author:** ![bobot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bobot/32/21622_2.png) [@bobot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobot)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/13 "2022-03-15T01:04:49Z")
Seriously, no one really cares. I know that applies to me, too, should I announce a leave-ment. Let me ask you something: Is your sleep cycle going to be disturbed by this thread? ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/14 "2022-03-15T01:07:12Z")
I left the board for about half a year because of an interaction with a moderator and another poster. Yes, I care when I see someone like @gdave leaving. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/15 "2022-03-15T01:10:15Z")
I hope you reconsider but I think you’re being unfair to **Chronos**. The issue you raised was well beyond my nearly non-existing legal knowledge and I feel **Chronos** was just trying to gather more information. I think that was reasonable. I was surprised by your very strong reaction to Chronos’s questions So as I said, I hope you’ll reconsider. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/16 "2022-03-15T01:14:57Z")
Could you please, please back off. Some people do care. It varies by the users involved. I’m not particularly friendly with **gdave** but some are. There are people on this board I am friends with. I would really miss them. ---
**Author:** ![bobot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bobot/32/21622_2.png) [@bobot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobot)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/17 "2022-03-15T01:18:03Z")
No problem; but to my point, why should this be public? ---
**Author:** ![Princhester](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Princhester](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Princhester)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/18 "2022-03-15T01:24:48Z")
I have no dog in this fight and am not commenting on the specifics at all. But as a matter of broad policy I think that if a moderator is perceived by a poster to have behaved very badly then keeping it confidential is not necessarily the right course. What if a particular mod developed a track record of being an asshole? Would it not be better if that pattern could be seen by all rather than kept under wraps? Again, I am not at all commenting on this situation. But as a matter of principle I don’t think there is any great reason why this should not be public. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/19 "2022-03-15T01:26:02Z")
Also, if you’re going to leave, it would be kinda crappy not to announce it, lest people get worried. And saying why you are leaving is probably the best chance you have that the problem being rectified. ---
**Author:** ![superwombat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superwombat/32/16616_2.png) [@superwombat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/superwombat)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2022, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063/20 "2022-03-15T01:38:28Z")
_Especially_ if you’re a long-time regular. Then you end up in [https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-missing-that-you-really-want-to-see-on-the-board/](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/whos-missing-that-you-really-want-to-see-on-the-board/) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-im-leaving-this-board/961063.md?page=2)