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Which leads to my next question. Why is it that people can admit what is apparently one of their deepest, darkest secrets to strangers online, but decide to hide it from their closest friends and family in real life?
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Because your close friends and family can mess up your life - through staging a needless “intervention”, through turning you into the police, through taking away custody of your children, through making you a social outcast…
It’s far less likely that someone will put in the time and detective work needed to mess up the life of some stranger they only know online. It’s not impossible, of course, and there are wacky people out there, but the odds are far greater that your own family, who cares about you personally, will have a much greater interest in interfering with your drug habit - even a “harmless” one like pot.
I put “harmless” in quotes because I think there is the possibility of harm from smoking weed - but that the harm* is all because of the illegality of it - losing a job, jail time, no federal grants for school, etc. So, yeah, if my kid was smoking pot, I’d be very concerned that he might go to jail or not be able to go to college as a result, and so I might “mess up” his life to get him clean at least through college. If I find out you use it, well, I just don’t care too much, frankly.
And it’s hardly my “deepest, darkest secret”. I’d tell my mother I smoked weed long before I’d tell her I used to be a participant in S&M shows. There are just things a woman doesn’t need to know about her daughter, y’know? Pot smoking is way down on the list. But, as Who_me says, if I heard you IRL say the things you’ve said in this thread, I don’t think I’d mention my smoking to you either. I tend to avoid arguments IRL, while I thrive on them on the internet.
People share all sorts of TMI - from drug use to favorite sexual positions to the consistency of their menstrual flow - online, when they wouldn’t in real life. It’s called discretion. Also known as “covering your ass.”
*aside from idiosyncratic personal reactions like Antinor01’s, psychological addiction or outright allergies - things that can be said of every substance on earth save water