# Why is hetero anal sex so popular? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 19, 2012, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195 "2012-10-19T03:21:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2012, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/61 "2012-10-19T21:15:14Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > Then recommend something, yo. Seriously, every time I watch porn, I’m like “The fuck is all this bullshit?” There’s a lot of obnoxious screaming, girls attempting to look lustily into the camera, anal (gross), and sometimes even choking? WTF? Dear gods, I don’t want to be choked, and stay away from my asshole. Honestly, the moment it even looks like anal is going to be attempted, I’m done. There is no part of me that’s turned on by being poked in the back door, and it is actually a very serious turn off. This. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2012, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/62 "2012-10-19T21:15:30Z")
> [@sitchensis](#): > > In public, I have met a ton of women that say they would never try it or it’s gross. In the bedroom though, I have never met a women who wouldn’t at least try it and a good percentage who actively enjoyed it. I tend to think a lot of women feel social pressure to lie about these things. > > In addition to the physical and visual excitement it brings. Sacrificing your enjoyment for the enjoyment of your partner is pretty much always sexy, whether it’s anal or taking out the garbage. It makes me feel special when a woman does this for me. I don’t find it sexy when a woman takes out the garbage. It’s much sexier when I take out the garbage and return to find her naked. YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![jackdavinci](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackdavinci/32/3259_2.png) [@jackdavinci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackdavinci)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2012, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/63 "2012-10-19T21:20:19Z")
Well I know one woman who enjoys it, but I can’t imagine it being as enjoyable as for (receptively) men, since they have no prostate pleasure spot. Personally I find it to be a lot tighter than the vagina, and there’s less interference from the pubic bone. ---
**Author:** ![ducati](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/cc9497/32.png) [@ducati](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ducati)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2012, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/64 "2012-10-19T21:36:28Z")
If you ever wondered if [cats](http://catmacros.files.wordpress.com/2009/08/pooper21.jpg?w=720)are into this… ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2012, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/65 "2012-10-19T21:54:04Z")
> [@StusBlues](#): > > I don’t find it sexy when a woman takes out the garbage. It’s much sexier when I take out the garbage and return to find her naked. YMMV. Or you could just take out the garbage naked. ---
**Author:** ![Dublin11](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Dublin11](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dublin11)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2012, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/66 "2012-10-19T21:55:47Z")
> [@sitchensis](#): > > In public, I have met a ton of women that say they would never try it or it’s gross. In the bedroom though, I have never met a women who wouldn’t at least try it and a good percentage who actively enjoyed it. I tend to think a lot of women feel social pressure to lie about these things. > > In addition to the physical and visual excitement it brings. **Sacrificing your enjoyment for the enjoyment of your partner is pretty much always sexy, whether it’s anal or taking out the garbage.** It makes me feel special when a woman does this for me. Eh? Someone taking out the rubbish is sacrificing their own enjoyment for the sake of their partner’s enjoyment. Really? And also - what’s being sacrificed there? Blimey. If my partner took actual enjoyment in seeing me taking the rubbish out I’d have to reconsider my relationship with him, if that was his idea of a good time. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2012, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/67 "2012-10-19T22:51:54Z")
Anal sex? I love doing it, and my girfriend loves getting it, so it is pretty often on the agenda. Neither of us have any sort of hang-ups when it comes to sex. It’s no holes barred in the bedroom for us, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Our sex life is fucking awesome, literally. ---
**Author:** ![Mijin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mijin/32/9369_2.png) [@Mijin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mijin)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2012, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/68 "2012-10-19T23:07:57Z")
A large part of the appeal, and I’m surprised I’m the first to say this, is visual / conceptual. What I mean is, a nice butt can be a really big turn on. And basically, the male libido doesn’t get much more complex than “It’s made my penis hard, therefore I want to put my penis there”. Similar reasoning lies behind the tit wank. Og want put penis there. I will say though that I couldn’t do a sexual act that I thought my partner was finding painful or unpleasant. Not just because I’m A Nice Guy, but because it’s a big turn off if she’s lost her horny. And contrary to what some porn would have you believe, I think a lot of guys are similar in that regard. ---
**Author:** ![Faruiza](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecd19e/32.png) [@Faruiza](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Faruiza)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2012, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/69 "2012-10-19T23:17:45Z")
I tried it once with the smallest dicked man in the universe. It was painful and uncomfortable. I really did try, but just can’t get there from here. I can’t imagine trying it with a normal sized penis. Fortunately, my current partners aren’t into it, so I’m lucky there. I don’t have a lot of hangups or fears, I just feel that I’m not physically capable of getting pleasure out of it. I have a couple of girl friends who claim to like it, and so sometimes I think I might be missing something, but nah. I’m just not into it. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2012, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/70 "2012-10-20T00:09:54Z")
> [@Faruiza](#): > > I tried it once with the smallest dicked man in the universe. It was painful and uncomfortable. I really did try, but just can’t get there from here. I can’t imagine trying it with a normal sized penis. Fortunately, my current partners aren’t into it, so I’m lucky there. I don’t have a lot of hangups or fears, I just feel that I’m not physically capable of getting pleasure out of it. > > I have a couple of girl friends who claim to like it, and so sometimes I think I might be missing something, but nah. I’m just not into it. You were probably tensed up and very tight back there; making anything going into it painful and uncomfortable. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2012, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/71 "2012-10-20T00:15:01Z")
> [@Faruiza](#): > > I tried it once with the smallest dicked man in the universe. It was painful and uncomfortable. I really did try, but just can’t get there from here. I can’t imagine trying it with a normal sized penis. Fortunately, my current partners aren’t into it, so I’m lucky there. I don’t have a lot of hangups or fears, I just feel that I’m not physically capable of getting pleasure out of it. > > I have a couple of girl friends who claim to like it, and so sometimes I think I might be missing something, but nah. I’m just not into it. Was he in the Guiness Book? Hey if you don’t like it you’re not missing anything. Some women like it many don’t. ---
**Author:** ![Rich\_Mann](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ce73a5/32.png) [@Rich\_Mann](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rich_Mann)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2012, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/72 "2012-10-20T00:23:57Z")
> [@Loach](#): > > Of my scientifically proven 15.7% that enjoy it, 66.3% greatly enjoyed it but only on occasion. 33.3% enjoyed it each time and she wanted it every time in conjunction with other stimulation. At this time I am not looking into expanding my sample size but who knows what the future brings. Science marches on. Who am I to stand in the way? “C’mon, baby. If you won’t do it for me, do it…for Science!” ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2012, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/73 "2012-10-20T01:02:36Z")
> [@Arrendajo](#): > > Anal sex? I love doing it, and my girfriend loves getting it, so it is pretty often on the agenda. Neither of us have any sort of hang-ups when it comes to sex. It’s no holes barred in the bedroom for us, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Our sex life is fucking awesome, literally. So she does you in the ass as well, then? ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2012, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/74 "2012-10-20T01:18:02Z")
the smallest dicked man in the universe… so he had a [micropenis](http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&ved=0CCEQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fen.wikipedia.org%2Fwiki%2FMicropenis&ei=s_uBUISWHeTq2QWRwYGQCw&usg=AFQjCNHkhyhPdAU2LD6CrX7suKBqloD-5A&sig2=2ZpWrdaD0KbWVCvQRrfU7g)then? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2012, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/75 "2012-10-20T01:37:32Z")
> [@Der\_Trihs](#): > > That reminds me of an occasional conservative-female variation on that attitude; that non-vaginal sex doesn’t _count_ as sex, so they can have anal or oral and still be “virgins”. I’ve heard anecdotal accounts of this being a common situation in Iran among many of the more modern ladies. Still have to “save themselves” for their future husbands. > [@Little\_Nemo](#): > > I somehow doubt that his girlfriend back home was aware of exactly how he was defining faithfulness. Oh, no doubt he neglected to mention that part when he was back home regaling his sweetie with tales of college life. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2012, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/76 "2012-10-20T01:40:02Z")
> [@FoieGrasIsEvil](#): > > I’m not really into anal either, but that whole choking/gagging thing has got to go. Nothing like having a chick puke all over your dick because you’re shoving it all the way down her throat. Not all women can be Heather Brooke. Pet peeve time…no such person as “Heather Brooke”. The deep throat artist in question is named Heather Harmon, and she once tried (and failed) to teach her skill to a woman named Brooke. The video was named “HeatherBrooke.avi” and was posted everywhere. She and her husband Jim sold their domain and got out of it back in 2005 when she had a child. I enjoy watching skilled deep throaters like Vanessa del Rio, Little Oral Annie and Heather Harmon, but gagging and spitting is repulsive, and I agree, it has to go. The problem is that crap has become mainstream, along with slapping and choking. That’s why I mostly stick with vintage porn from the late 70s and the 80s. It also help avoid tattoos, which only a tiny number of porn stars like Annie Sprinkle had back then. As for anal? I’ve anally penetrated a woman when she’s asked and it felt good to me, but generally confine myself to fingering (or thumbing) the orifice while performing cunnilingus. If she’s freshly showered and squeaky-clean, I’ll do anilingus, which in my experience can be enough all by it’s self to get some women off. In the same way that a good blow job involves more than just the mouth, good cunnilingus involves more than just a tongue. Just pick one digit or hand for anal play and stick with it. ---
**Author:** ![Faruiza](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecd19e/32.png) [@Faruiza](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Faruiza)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2012, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/77 "2012-10-20T01:45:00Z")
> [@drewtwo99](#): > > the smallest dicked man in the universe… so he had a [micropenis](http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&ved=0CCEQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fen.wikipedia.org%2Fwiki%2FMicropenis&ei=s_uBUISWHeTq2QWRwYGQCw&usg=AFQjCNHkhyhPdAU2LD6CrX7suKBqloD-5A&sig2=2ZpWrdaD0KbWVCvQRrfU7g)then? Well, probably close, but sometimes having a small dick does not really mean you’re a small dicked man, ya dig? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![ZenBeam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/3ab097/32.png) [@ZenBeam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZenBeam)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2012, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/78 "2012-10-20T01:56:25Z")
> [@Kinthalis](#): > > Ok, that’s like a joke thing, right? It’s not something people actually do? RIGHT? I mean the girl would have to go to the hospital right after or die of horrible vaginal diseases, right? Pretty much. Did you look at Alabama Hot Pocket #2? That wouldn’t even be possible. ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2012, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/79 "2012-10-20T01:59:05Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > Then recommend something, yo. Seriously, every time I watch porn, I’m like “The fuck is all this bullshit?” There’s a lot of obnoxious screaming, girls attempting to look lustily into the camera, anal (gross), and sometimes even choking? WTF? Dear gods, I don’t want to be choked, and stay away from my asshole. Honestly, the moment it even looks like anal is going to be attempted, I’m done. There is no part of me that’s turned on by being poked in the back door, and it is actually a very serious turn off. “Female friendly” or “couples” porn is actually a thing now. Look for those keywords. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2012, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195/80 "2012-10-20T02:03:36Z")
[What What (In the Butt)](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fbGkxcY7YFU) > [@ZenBeam](#): > > Pretty much. Did you look at Alabama Hot Pocket #2? That wouldn’t even be possible. Takes all kinds… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-hetero-anal-sex-so-popular/638195.md?page=5)