# Why is it important to be humble? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 30, 2013, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-it-important-to-be-humble/657141 "2013-04-30T20:28:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 114
**Author:** ![SenorBeef](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senorbeef/32/2220_2.png) [@SenorBeef](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SenorBeef)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2013, 10:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-it-important-to-be-humble/657141/114 "2013-05-02T10:03:29Z")
Oh please, pretending you’re the victim here, claiming that you didn’t go the extra mile to do the “song and dance” to avoid bragging is ridiculous. You seek out situations in which you can talk about just how beautiful you are, and if those situations don’t present themselves, you just bring it up anyway when it has no relevance. I assume my post in the weight loss thread was (one of?) the post that triggered this thread. Let’s review. I realize that this alone isn’t particularly damning, but it’s part of a pattern. > [@2013 Weight Loss & Healthy Living Support Thread](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2013-weight-loss-healthy-living-support-thread/651411/151): > > Has anyone else found [ChickenTuna](http://chickentuna.com)? Holy cow, her body’s kind of unreal. I don’t want to get to that level of fitness but I find her positive attitude and simple approach to be motivating. More tuna for me! > [@2013 Weight Loss & Healthy Living Support Thread](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2013-weight-loss-healthy-living-support-thread/651411/152): > > She seems like a smart lady but it gets on my nerves a bit when I see someone with her/my body type preaching to normal people. I’m sure she eats strictly and exercises plenty, to be so lean at her age, but 95% of us could do what she does and not even look like the same species. Meanwhile I look like her without even trying (granted I am active and eat a lot of protein - but I also eat a ton of calories and fat, and haven’t done any real exercise in months now). Accusations of stealth bragging and defense snipped. > [@2013 Weight Loss & Healthy Living Support Thread](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/2013-weight-loss-healthy-living-support-thread/651411/228): > > You have a pretty consistent pattern of that sort of stealth bragging around the boards (and in fact if you had showed me the text of the post blind, and asked me to guess who that was, you’d have probably been the guess - one or two others in the running). You could’ve just left it at “she looks really amazing for her age but even with that amount of work a lot of people simply couldn’t do that so don’t have unrealistic expectations”, but you had to sneak in the part about how you were perfect and it came to you effortlessly and all you fatties shouldn’t even get your hopes up trying. I find it implausible that your intentions are as pure as you state, but if what you say about your intent is true, you could find non-condescending ways to express it. > > Edit: I may be rushing to judgment on the condescending thing. It’s plausible that the stealth-bragging aspect was the important part to you, and that you weren’t deliberately trying to insult anyone. That’s actually fairly likely, so scratch the parts where you’re necessarily being negative towards everyone else. What a burden it must be for you to be so beautiful that you must always share it with the world no matter how much of a stretch it is to fit it into the current conversation. As you say, you’re just sharing “nothing more than the facts”, and anyone who reacts negatively are just fatties and uggos who are so bitter and jealous of you that they take offense. So you try to tell people that most people, that even if they put in a lot of work they’ll never look as great as that amazingly fit woman (and oh by the way, me!). Don’t get your expectations up fatty, you have no chance. And hey, you could’ve even left it at that and made your point entirely. But then, of course, you had to say that you were amazingly fit with no effort at all. What a blessing it must be to be you, I could only hope to live in the same geographic area that you’re in that I might bask in the magnificence, since I assume that such a transcendent presence could be felt for hundreds of miles. Really, by working that fact into every conversation, you’re doing us all a favor. We can’t all see your greatness in person, but perhaps if you share just a little bit with us here on thee boards we might be awed from afar and our lives enriched. The thing is - even if you were as attractive as you thought you were - it would still be irritating to be around you. You acknowledged in your OP that no one likes a “narcissistic preening … asshole”, you’re just apparently oblivious. But it’s even stranger because, and I would never snark on anyone’s appearance under normal circumstances, but not only are you not so stunningly attractive that it needs to be brought up constantly as the element that most defines you, you’re actually not even really attractive at all. It sounds like you’ve had some lecherous old dudes tell you how hot you are because you’re in your early 20s and early 20s vagina is where it’s at, and you’ve ran with it way too far. It’s not that you’re failing to be humble, no, quite the opposite. Humble people look to downplay and not draw attention to their traits or accomplishments. There’s nothing wrong with not being humble, and being realistic. But you’ve gone very far the other way - you have to work it into places it has no place constantly, you must make everyone aware of what you see as your positive trait, and, just to add to it, you don’t even qualify for the thing you brag about. Did I mention how insightful and smart I was, by the way? I feel like I don’t mention that often enough. Hope this helps. --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-it-important-to-be-humble/657141)._