# Why is sex with someone else so much more satisfying than masturbation? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 11, 2003, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839 "2003-10-11T14:33:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Duderdude2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/cdc98d/32.png) [@Duderdude2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duderdude2)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/21 "2003-10-11T22:53:34Z")
Jesus could have masturbated, you don’t know that he didn’t. ---
**Author:** ![Weirddave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/919ad9/32.png) [@Weirddave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Weirddave)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/22 "2003-10-11T22:58:57Z")
Since Jesus was fully human, I guarantee that he did, so what? ---
**Author:** ![5-HT](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/5/f19dbf/32.png) [@5-HT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/5-HT)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/23 "2003-10-11T22:59:23Z")
I’d say the answer is Intimacy. Masturbation is missing a whole lot of the psychological stuff that makes sex fun. That said, I too agree with **Otto** , sex isn’t always better. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/24 "2003-10-11T23:03:41Z")
It’s kinda nice sometimes not having to worry about pregnancy or STDs nisosbar. ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/25 "2003-10-11T23:37:32Z")
My WAG- Evolution. If masturbation were equally or more pleasurable than sex with another person, our ancestors would have no reason to seek out a mate and would not produce offspring. ---
**Author:** ![peri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/67e7ee/32.png) [@peri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/peri)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/26 "2003-10-11T23:40:44Z")
It is not so much like a chore. When I have sex WITH someone I am not so focused on what **I** am getting out of it. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 11:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/27 "2003-10-11T23:50:14Z")
Should we assume that if Jesus Christ didn’t masterbate, that he had wet dreams? There are a lot of jokes in there somewhere… ---
**Author:** ![AntaresJB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c2a13f/32.png) [@AntaresJB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AntaresJB)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/28 "2003-10-12T01:06:28Z")
True, sex is not _always_ more pleasurable than masturbation, but in general, I’d take a good co-ed pairs naked-time over a solo excursion anyday. The do-it-yourself version, while it achieves the intended goal, is just _different_. Personally (very personal TMI on the way), I just love the feeling of intercourse. There is just nothing like the sensation of having a penis in there. Vibrators and such are great, but it’s just not the same. I need to stop thinking about this now. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/29 "2003-10-12T16:28:25Z")
Reading the OP it appears the person already said that masturbation is better, ‘can give ourselves a better orgasm with Rosy Palm’, but wanted to know why sex was better with a partner, not which way is better. Those saying that masturbation is better are just repeating what the OP already said. Of course, all that snuggling is nice. ---
**Author:** ![danceswithcats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9e8a1a/32.png) [@danceswithcats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/danceswithcats)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/30 "2003-10-12T17:12:19Z")
Relations with a partner is always better IMHO, owing to the emotional involvement before, and after. When your partner is not available, self-love enables you to be director of a mental fantasy. If it’s sublime, fine. If it would make Fellini blush, also fine. Your mind, your privates, your soap. Wash as long and as fast as you please. ---
**Author:** ![Zap\_Rowsdower](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/3da27b/32.png) [@Zap\_Rowsdower](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zap_Rowsdower)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/31 "2003-10-12T18:12:25Z")
I may be unusual but for me sex with someone I don’t know or don’t have a connection with is not much better than masturbation. On a couple of occasions I’ve had the opportunity to have a “sure thing” with someone I did not know very well or at all. All I could think of after getting to approximately 2nd base is that I really did not want to be there with her. So I made some excuse up and left. Now if it is someone I really care about and want to be with, then it is the best thing in the world. Otherwise I’d just as soon masturbate. It’s quicker, then I can go on to other things. ---
**Author:** ![Flutterby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Flutterby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flutterby)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/32 "2003-10-12T22:33:40Z")
I’ve always thought it’s just the human contact. To be perfectly honest I don’t masturbate unless I am so insanely horny and am single that it drives me to distraction that I don’t. (Seriously, I get some of the _weirdest_ dreams when I’m horny and single and maybe 1 out of 5 actually go somewhere and don’t leave me feeling more frustrated when I wake up then I was when I went to sleep) Masturbation is a release, sex is a sharing and a coming together. The sharing can be more intense. ---
**Author:** ![Kieras](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/a87d85/32.png) [@Kieras](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kieras)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/33 "2003-10-12T23:12:18Z")
I think its more fulfilling to have sex because of the emotional and physical side of it. For some its satisfying to know you pleased the partner. ---
**Author:** ![KittyO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/6a8cbe/32.png) [@KittyO](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KittyO)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/34 "2003-10-12T23:57:51Z")
So if Jesus masturbated did he also…you know… Brings new meaning to the term, “baby Jesus.” ---
**Author:** ![Uvula\_Donor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e19adc/32.png) [@Uvula\_Donor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uvula_Donor)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/35 "2003-10-13T00:48:59Z")
Whenever I masturbate, I try to use someone else’s hand. ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 1:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/36 "2003-10-13T01:41:58Z")
On top of the emotional and psychic experience of being touched by someone else, never underestimate the power of foreplay. Yeah, I’m pretty flexible, but I still can’t kiss my own neck (or any number of other places). ---
**Author:** ![Sinshine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f04885/32.png) [@Sinshine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sinshine)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/37 "2003-10-13T02:03:05Z")
As much as I enjoy my own company, I can enjoy the fine art of foreplay, and post-play, with a known and cherished partner. There are arguments for both formats, and the intimacy, foreplay, and general joy of a partner are all telling arguments for sharing. However, I have no qualms about making certain my own needs are met. Just as well, as the beau is effectively married to his shop. ---
**Author:** ![yBeayf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/e274bd/32.png) [@yBeayf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yBeayf)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/38 "2003-10-13T03:42:19Z")
It’s not. I’d agree with **Verminous** in disagreeing with this thread’s premise, at least in my experience. Sex with other people would be a lot more satisfying if it didn’t involve other people. ---
**Author:** ![Kieras](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/a87d85/32.png) [@Kieras](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kieras)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/39 "2003-10-13T03:49:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Eva Luna \* > \*\*On top of the emotional and psychic experience of being touched by someone else, never underestimate the power of foreplay. Yeah, I’m pretty flexible, but I still can’t kiss my own neck (or any number of other places). \*\* I was not quite picturing the neck 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 8:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/40 "2003-10-13T08:10:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by The Griffin \* > **Masturbation you can do whenever you want.** Sure. On the bus, at the ball game, during parent-teacher conferences… Re the “never masturbates” side discussion, count me as a guy who never masturbated to orgasm until _after_ I had lost my virginity. The first time I climaxed, I was, er, inside the first woman I was with. A total mind-blower, because I had no idea what to expect. _After_, that, of course, I made a point of developing the skill. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by mhendo_ > \*\*Hey, beyond a point it doesn’t do anything for me either. > > But that “point” is when i blow all over the wad of folded tissue.\*\* Folded tissue? A _real_ man needs a parachute-sized drop cloth. 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839.md?page=3)