# Why is sex with someone else so much more satisfying than masturbation? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 11, 2003, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839 "2003-10-11T14:33:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![PhillySteak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f6c823/32.png) [@PhillySteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PhillySteak)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 10:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/41 "2003-10-13T10:52:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Chimera \* > \*\*Should we assume that if Jesus Christ didn’t masterbate, that he had wet dreams? > > There are a lot of jokes in there somewhere… \*\* Here’s one. What’s white and shoots across the sky? The coming of the Lord. ---
**Author:** ![merge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9f8e36/32.png) [@merge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/merge)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2003, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/42 "2003-12-18T19:19:25Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by AHunter3 \* > \*\*Ditto that, but in general I think (this is IMHO, right? I don’t need cites?) we’re hard-wired so that sex does some cool and interesting things to our sense of identity, bridging gaps between us and our partner and doing a “merge”. \*\* hehehehe… “doing a merge” ---
**Author:** ![blowero](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/41988e/32.png) [@blowero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blowero)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2003, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/43 "2003-12-18T20:38:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by nisosbar \* > (Actually, I once had a boyfriend who did NOT masturbate - never had, he claimed, and didn’t know how. I found that to be very incredible - and he never did masturbate the entire time I lived with him). You mean you never _caught_ him. I think emotions enhance the sexual response in an additive way. I would liken it to taste: We can actually only distinguish a small number of different tastes (is it 4? I forget), but we smell the food we are eating at the same time, and it becomes one unified sensation. So in the same way, the physical sensation of genital stimulation combines with the visual sensation of a partner we find attractive, and the emotional connection with another person to form a unified sensation that exceeds the sum of its parts. And yeah, Jesus definitely whacked. ---
**Author:** ![whippingboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/54ee81/32.png) [@whippingboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whippingboy)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2003, 1:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/44 "2003-12-19T13:16:38Z")
I’m think watching someone masterbate can be a real big turn on … my partner( F) and I sometimes masturbate in front off each other as a way of turning the other on we both have fantastic orgasm but we haven’t touched each other once so masturbation can be as good as sex… don’t knock it till you have tried it it ---
**Author:** ![sultana\_of\_slash](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bbe5ce/32.png) [@sultana\_of\_slash](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sultana_of_slash)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2003, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/45 "2003-12-19T14:36:15Z")
I suppose nobody wants to bring up evolution, and how successful animals get here. ---
**Author:** ![NoGoodNamesLeft](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/8797f3/32.png) [@NoGoodNamesLeft](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NoGoodNamesLeft)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2003, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/46 "2003-12-19T17:56:05Z")
> [@](#): > > Masturbation you can do whenever you want. Umm, remind me to never sit next to **The Griffin** on the bus, m’kay? ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2003, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/47 "2003-12-27T16:54:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by sultana of slash \* > \*\*I suppose nobody wants to bring up evolution, and how successful animals get here. \*\* What am I, chopped liver? From my post of October 12th, > [@](#): > > My WAG- > > Evolution. > > If masturbation were equally or more pleasurable than sex with another person, our ancestors would have no reason to seek out a mate and would not produce offspring ---
**Author:** ![green\_dragon\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/13edae/32.png) [@green\_dragon\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/green_dragon_1)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2003, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/48 "2003-12-27T18:21:43Z")
As far as I’m concerned, the major point of sex is to make sure my SO has the best time possible; I get as much pleasure out of giving as I get out of getting, possibly even more. So yeah, masturbation doesn’t involve this element and so is less pleasurable, for me anyway. ---
**Author:** ![agiantdwarf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8c91f0/32.png) [@agiantdwarf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/agiantdwarf)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2003, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/49 "2003-12-27T21:39:40Z")
Well, I’ve never had sex, but if people here are saying that the pleasure comes from pleasing your partner, why is oral sex so popular? ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2003, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/50 "2003-12-29T00:35:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by nisosbar \* > \*\*His manner of release was to have wet dreams. I know, I know - :rolleyes: … > > Honestly, he never touched himself in order to stimulate himself sexually, and we would always be renting pornos and fooling around. It was very weird - he was a black guy from middle-class black Chicago, so perhaps it was a cultural thing? I’m really not sure what the explanation there was… \*\* You had porno movies laying and you believe he never endulged. Maybe you misunderstood him when he said he had a firm grasp of his sexuality. 95% of men will admit that they masterbate. (the other 5% are liars). ---
**Author:** ![xayoz306](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/bc8723/32.png) [@xayoz306](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xayoz306)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2003, 11:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/51 "2003-12-29T11:25:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Magiver \* > \*\*95% of men will admit that they masterbate. (the other 5% are liars). \*\* Reminds me of the joke: 95% of men masterbate in the shower, the other 5 % sing the same song. You say you don’t jerk? What song do you sing… ---
**Author:** ![Threadreviver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b5a626/32.png) [@Threadreviver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Threadreviver)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2015, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/52 "2015-02-15T05:46:08Z")
> [@agiantdwarf](#): > > Well, I’ve never had sex, but if people here are saying that the pleasure comes from pleasing your partner, why is oral sex so popular? Because you’re pleasing your partner. ---
**Author:** ![Honey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honey/32/5074_2.png) [@Honey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honey)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2015, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/53 "2015-02-15T08:23:48Z")
> [@Threadreviver](#): > > Because you’re pleasing your partner. Perfect username. It made me laugh. ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2015, 10:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/54 "2015-02-15T10:33:51Z")
> [@Honey](#): > > Perfect username. It made me laugh. Looking at the join date I’d say it was purpose built. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2015, 11:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/55 "2015-02-15T11:17:47Z")
Do zombies masturbate? Can they? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2015, 11:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/56 "2015-02-15T11:29:42Z")
> [@Threadreviver](#): > > Because you’re pleasing your partner. So da broad says, “Who you gonna please with that little thing?” And I says to her, “Me!” ---
**Author:** ![edwardcoast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/cab0a1/32.png) [@edwardcoast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/edwardcoast)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2015, 11:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/57 "2015-02-15T11:35:57Z")
> [@nisosbar](#): > > Many of us can give ourselves a better orgasm with Rosy Palm, yet, most people would probably agree it is not satisfying in the same way as coming to orgasm with a partner. (Actually, I once had a boyfriend who did NOT masturbate - never had, he claimed, and didn’t know how. I found that to be very incredible - and he never did masturbate the entire time I lived with him). > > Exactly why is that? Sounds like a real prude and most importantly I don’t believe him. ---
**Author:** ![Honey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honey/32/5074_2.png) [@Honey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honey)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2015, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/58 "2015-02-16T00:44:09Z")
Do you think we’ll ever get past the stupid zombie comments in old threads? We know it’s an old thread. No, you aren’t brilliant for discovering it. :rolleyes: Sorry, I don’t know why it drive me so nuts. ---
**Author:** ![yorick73](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/b5a626/32.png) [@yorick73](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yorick73)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2015, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/59 "2015-02-16T01:26:23Z")
> [@mhendo](#): > > Hey, beyond a point it doesn’t do anything for me either. > > But that “point” is when i blow all over the wad of folded tissue. > > 😃 I know it’s an 11 year old joke but I laughed out loud. ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2015, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839/60 "2015-02-16T01:55:46Z")
zombie or no if you have enough sex you will likely find that not true. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-sex-with-someone-else-so-much-more-satisfying-than-masturbation/206839.md?page=4)