I’m not a chemist but none of these answers have been real great for a ten year old.
I’m depending on my understanding, based on the Periodic Table of Videos series on YouTube, but here’s the way I would describe it.
Atoms can be thought of like little Lego pieces made of rubber, bouncing around all over the place. So long as you keep putting energy into them, they will keep shaking and bouncng and vibrating all over the place. So, when you’re doing that, the pieces are really far apart from one another just because they can’t be contained and they’re pushing each other away.
If you can get them to connect, like the actual little Legos that they are then, well obviously that little clump is all packed together tightly. You know have 3X the atoms all together where you used to have 1, so obviously it’s bigger and massier.
Here on Earth, we have to Sun throwing out energy 24/7. But it’s always, more or less, the same amount of energy. So it’s pushing on little hydrogen Legos and oxygen Legos with the same amount of juice as it is trying to push on our clump of three Legos that have been tied to each other. The upshot is that they move slower, and so they’re not kicking each other away so much. So not only are your clumps larger but they’re also closer to one another.
Our little Lego clump is also less round. It used to be a little perfect cube that would just ricochet off all the other Legos. Now it’s a little gangly mess of three Legos arranged like a coat hanger. Now there’s a lot more opportunity for things to interfere with each other and “catch”.
If you had a room with like 20 rubber balls - and there’s no telling to the room, just super tall walls that go up for millions of miles, and the walls/floor vibrate back and forth real quick, keeping the balls bouncing around - you wouldn’t have much issue driving a car through. It would be mostly empty space and the balls would just hit your car and bounce away.
If you take that same room and fill it with a thousand long rubberized batons, that’s going to be a tougher prospect. The energy of the walls might not be strong enough to keep the batons from being able to jump up more than a couple of feet. And the batons are going to catch onto each other as they bounce, so if you move one, it will hit another and change its direction of travel to hit another one, which will change its direction of travel to hit another one, etc.
You can still drive through it, but it’s a tougher proposition. You’re going to have to push your way through a bit because even though each baton doesn’t weigh that much, since they’re catching on each other, you’re moving a bunch of them every time you move.
But, I mean, if you get the batons moving fast enough and give them room to bounce just as high and far apart as you could ever want then regardless that they’re big gangly beasts, they’re never really going to touch one another and they’re mostly going to be up high over your head not wacking the radiator of your car. It’s a similar experience to driving through the lower energy version with the small rubber balls.
In outer space, water will immediately turn into a gas because it can just freely go everywhere. There’s no gravity or pressure by having things resting on it from above to keep it sort of contained. Being a gas is a matter of having your Legos all spread out all over the place. If you can get everything vibrating fast enough to be able to overcome everything trying to contain it, then no matter what it is, it will become a gas. Put into a place with no container, many things will just pull themselves apart and fly away into a cloud of steam with just the energy of the sun to push them.
Here on Earth, water molecules are too heavy and too gangly to overcome pressure. They get locked up together, jiggling and catching on each other, and are difficult to move through but still moving around enough and loose enough that you can go through without too much issue.