# Why is your ex your ex? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 26, 2025, 1:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-your-ex-your-ex/1017536 "2025-04-26T13:07:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Moonrise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moonrise/32/14764_2.png) [@Moonrise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moonrise)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2025, 11:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-your-ex-your-ex/1017536/41 "2025-05-03T11:28:04Z")
> [@LSLGuy](#): > > It’s amazing how many people are completely blind to the fact somebody else is one of those sorts. In retrospect, I think that it was partly due to pure hubris on my part. At 45, I’d had quite a few relationships, which covered the spectrum from 100% committed to 100% casual and I basically thought I’d seen it all. I never imagined I could be blindsided so completely. That, and… [_The sun in your eyes Made some of the lies worth believing_](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=56hqrlQxMMI) ---
**Author:** ![zimaane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a3d4f5/32.png) [@zimaane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zimaane)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2025, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-your-ex-your-ex/1017536/42 "2025-05-03T19:09:10Z")
Both of mine were catalyzed by physical separation. After high school I went pretty far out of town for college and she stayed in our home area. It wasn’t as easy to stay in touch back then and when I went back in the summer the spark wasn’t there, so we just stopped seeing one another. I don’t know how her life worked out, but I wish her well. After college, the same thing. I moved out of the country, and so even phone calls weren’t really an option. She reconnected on social media and I learned that she had come out as lesbian, so it wasn’t going to work out anyway. Again, I don’t know how her life worked out, but I wish her well. Current relationship is A-OK even though we spend a lot of time separated. ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2025, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-your-ex-your-ex/1017536/43 "2025-05-08T19:07:52Z")
borderline personality disorder ---
**Author:** ![Jasmine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jasmine/32/2964_2.png) [@Jasmine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasmine)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2025, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-your-ex-your-ex/1017536/44 "2025-05-08T19:18:13Z")
My first serious boyfriend was in high school after my parents were killed. Looking back, I honestly think it was a subconscious effort to replace loss. He was a nice guy but, after we moved from MA to Chicagoland, it died a natural death. My next major boyfriend that I was attracted to because of his good looks and physique was on steroids and was unstable emotionally. When I broke up with him, he stalked me and almost killed me. He actually went to prison for a few years. Other than that, nothing really notable or serious. ---
**Author:** ![BippityBoppityBoo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bippityboppityboo/32/5745_2.png) [@BippityBoppityBoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BippityBoppityBoo)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2025, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-your-ex-your-ex/1017536/45 "2025-05-08T19:37:06Z")
> [@Jasmine](#): > > Other than that, nothing really notable or serious. That is a pretty significant ‘other than that’. Glad you are ok. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2025, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-your-ex-your-ex/1017536/46 "2025-05-09T01:31:59Z")
> [@Omar\_Little](#): > > borderline personality disorder That’ll do it for sure. Glad you survived mostly intact. ---
**Author:** ![Toxylon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f05b48/32.png) [@Toxylon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Toxylon)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2025, 10:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-your-ex-your-ex/1017536/47 "2025-05-09T10:14:06Z")
> [@BippityBoppityBoo](#): > > That is a pretty significant ‘other than that’. Well, as far as relationships go, they aren’t much. ---
**Author:** ![Jasmine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jasmine/32/2964_2.png) [@Jasmine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasmine)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2025, 11:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-is-your-ex-your-ex/1017536/48 "2025-05-09T11:37:51Z")
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