# Why older women turn me on **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 7, 2015, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884 "2015-06-07T13:40:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/1 "2015-06-07T13:40:30Z")
My buddy and I were having breakfast on the beach the other day and part of that involves checking out the ladies in bekinis. I won’t say I don’t enjoy checking them out a bit but they do zero for me in the way of turning me on. My buddy was very puzzled by this and teased me about it a bit. ``` After giving it some thought it was easily clear that I have no attraction to the young ones simply because I can't realisticaly see them attracted to me unless I had something they wanted like money for instance. An older gal I can easily envision a scenario of mutual attraction based on realistic factors leading to a warm, loving romantic relationship. The thought of that turns me on. If you are an older guy or gal and are attracted to much younger members of the opposite sex tell me how your attraction works? ``` ---
**Author:** ![LH75](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lh75/32/4438_2.png) [@LH75](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LH75)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/2 "2015-06-07T14:27:27Z")
I am sixty two. I am not attracted to younger women at all. Some younger women are decorative, and some can be pretty or cute, but very rarely do I find a woman under fifty or so attractive. Women in my age group that spend an inordinate amount of time attempting to look like they much younger also do nothing for my libido. Just a matter of personal preference ---
**Author:** ![LH75](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lh75/32/4438_2.png) [@LH75](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LH75)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 2:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/3 "2015-06-07T14:32:11Z")
Also, as a patter of personal opinion: the current crop of stick thin, blond twenty-somethings that populate all of our magazine covers, lingerie ads and reality shows do nothing at all for me. They all look like they have all been extruded from the same strange play dough fun factory mold. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/4 "2015-06-07T14:37:43Z")
The older I get the wider the age range gets. Young people are completely impossible for me to connect with these days, but I’d be lying if I said they weren’t still at least physically attractive. ---
**Author:** ![GaryM](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/garym/32/241_2.png) [@GaryM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GaryM)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/5 "2015-06-07T15:18:31Z")
I’m 69 and though I find women in their late 20’s to 30’s nice to look at, I find women in their 50’s and up more interesting to be around. As mentioned above, as I age the range of attractive women gets larger. ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/6 "2015-06-07T15:21:47Z")
I like older women because females my age are immature and only care about things like Keeping Up With The Kardashians and clubbing ---
**Author:** ![Fear\_Itself](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fear_itself/32/19637_2.png) [@Fear\_Itself](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fear_Itself)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/7 "2015-06-07T15:36:45Z")
I am not attracted to much younger women, but I can appreciate the beauty of the female form. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/8 "2015-06-07T15:38:45Z")
I find younger women plenty attractive, I just don’t know how much we’d have in common. I make a lot of tv & movie comments in my daily life, and if you didn’t grow up watching Brady Bunch/George Carlin/Mel Brooks/etc., there’s gonna be a lot of blank looks from across the table. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/9 "2015-06-07T15:47:45Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > I like older women because females my age are immature and only care about things like Keeping Up With The Kardashians and clubbing So _Matlock_ and bingo, then? ---
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/10 "2015-06-07T16:28:58Z")
_An old woman don’t yell An old woman don’t tell An old woman don’t swell And she’s grateful as hell_ [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Nb\_KJyMHgw](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Nb_KJyMHgw) [http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/519679/posts](http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/519679/posts) ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/11 "2015-06-07T16:44:52Z")
I’m 61, married for almost 32 years. Young, good-looking guys are nice eye candy, and if I could get one to do some of the yard work I’ve been dealing with, that’d be great, but that’s as far as it goes. As for what I do find sexy in a man, it seems to vary according to the man and I don’t know if I can define it. I’d say it’s probably a combination of self-assurance, humor, intelligence, and pleasantness. Kinda like my husband. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/12 "2015-06-07T17:16:43Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > I like older women because females my age are immature and only care about things like Keeping Up With The Kardashians and clubbing But if you find one who’s likes Clubing the Kardashians, she’s a keeper! 🆒 I’d wouldn’t mind sleeping with two twenty y/o’s but would rather _date_ a 40 y/o. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/13 "2015-06-07T18:48:40Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > ``` > If you are an older guy or gal and are attracted to much younger members of the opposite sex tell me how your attraction works? > > ``` Basically i don’t believe being attracted to me for one reason or another makes any difference. Liking someone because they have money or a young tight body are both equally valid. You won’t really know someone to like them for who they are until much much later. ---
**Author:** ![Stuffy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f17d59/32.png) [@Stuffy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stuffy)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/14 "2015-06-07T18:53:21Z")
> [@Ethilrist](#): > > I find younger women plenty attractive, I just don’t know how much we’d have in common. I make a lot of tv & movie comments in my daily life, and if you didn’t grow up watching Brady Bunch/George Carlin/Mel Brooks/etc., there’s gonna be a lot of blank looks from across the table. This, I’m 46, but I just can’t see my self dating anyone more than 10 years younger. Nice to look at though. ---
**Author:** ![Dibbs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/da6949/32.png) [@Dibbs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dibbs)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/15 "2015-06-07T19:49:52Z")
I’m 60-years young. While growing up I was always waay more attracted to “older” gals up until around the age that they turned 50. I always looked at them sorta like roasting marshmallows at a campfire that became more beautiful golden-brown as time wore on … but would after the age of 50 quickly lose their sexy magical amazement as old age and gravity would (more often than not) be horrendously unkind to them. For me validation of a mature woman played a big role; as to be adored by someone wise and beautiful of the opposite sex is impossible to top! (And I have no doubt that that dynamic often plays a big role for both sexes that are into folks of an older generation, with the advantage going to young gals whom are more likely to enjoy money and nice things being passed to them…) These days, as an old geezer, I can have a serious desire for any attractive lady between the ages of, oh, say 22 through about 53 (even though to my everlasting sorrow most women have never regarded me as being particularly worthwhile). It’s like a friend’s old man once told me many years ago when he confided, “Dibbs, if God created anything better than woman, He must have kept it for Himself.” Sooo true!😉 ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/16 "2015-06-07T22:02:43Z")
> [@DigitalC](#): > > Basically i don’t believe being attracted to me for one reason or another makes any difference. Same here. I find young women attractive. The lack of realistic expectation that they could find me attractive in turn doesn’t make any difference. In fact I’m a bit puzzled by the OP. Why would _their_ lack of attraction prevent _you_ from being attracted (in a sexual way, at least. I understand it better if we were talking about romantic attraction)? Also, it seems quite widespread. Most men find, say, top models attractive and the likelihood that a random guy, even equally young, could have a relationship with them is essentially nil (probably even lower than the likelihood that a 20 yo would fall head over heels for you). Doesn’t seem to prevent them from drooling at their sight. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2015, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/17 "2015-06-07T22:20:21Z")
> [@LH75](#): > > I am sixty two. I am not attracted to younger women at all. I am 66 and I love checking out the young hotties. SWMBO says I remind her of an old hound dog on the front porch. The fire engine comes by with the lights on and the siren blaring, and I sit up and bark and wag my tail…then lie back down again because it’s too much effort to get up and chase it. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanub/32/132_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUB)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2015, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/18 "2015-06-08T18:12:18Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > My buddy and I were having breakfast on the beach the other day and part of that involves checking out the ladies in bekinis. I won’t say I don’t enjoy checking them out a bit but they do zero for me in the way of turning me on. My buddy was very puzzled by this and teased me about it a bit. > > ``` > After giving it some thought it was easily clear that I have no attraction to the young ones simply because I can't realisticaly see them attracted to me unless I had something they wanted like money for instance. > > **An older gal I can easily envision a scenario of mutual attraction based on realistic factors leading to a warm, loving romantic relationship. The thought of that turns me on.** > If you are an older guy or gal and are attracted to much younger members of the opposite sex tell me how your attraction works? > > ``` HoneyBadger, my ass. You’re a big old softie 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Learjeff](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/94ad74/32.png) [@Learjeff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Learjeff)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2015, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/19 "2015-06-08T19:45:44Z")
How does it work? Automatically. I’m 57, but I’ve thought for at least 20 years that most beautiful women just keep getting more beautiful through their 30’s, and many, through their 40’s. That doesn’t keep me from admiring beauties in their 20’s. I’ve been married longer than that, so the possibility angle doesn’t even come up. It’s purely window shopping, and no doubt I’m completely invisible to them anyway. Unless I were overt about it, and then I’d just be creepy. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2015, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884/20 "2015-06-08T20:13:58Z")
48 years old. The bikini beach babes are indeed a marvel to behold, and I do so with much the same mindset as I do a particularly brilliant sunset, a super car, or the vista from atop a 14,000+ foot mountain top: with a sense of breathless awe and inner recognition of beauty. But beauty does not really turn me on. Character does. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-older-women-turn-me-on/721884.md?page=2)