# Why People Do Want to Date You **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 12, 2011, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338 "2011-01-12T13:36:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/1 "2011-01-12T13:36:15Z")
So, overall you’re a worthless sack of crap. Dull, out of shape, boring and repetitive, your life’s only pleasure consists of Scooby-Do reruns and your favorite character is Scrappy. You order Bacon Double Cheeseburgers with no bacon. But there’s hope! For as Tolkien said, not all who wander are lost. Losers are most loser-ish before the dawn. And shit. OK, with that alcohol-fueled and probably incoherent opening, what I’m trying to get at is, _ahem_, what are your own highly attractive qualities? In the Dark Side edition of this thread, **the wind of my soul** states: > [@](#): > > We all have our deal-breakers in the dating world, and we’ve had threads about them before. But I want to turn the tables and ask what behavior you exhibit that’s often a deal-breaker for others. So, to hell with the deal-breakers, what are your game-winners? ---
**Author:** ![xanthous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/53a042/32.png) [@xanthous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xanthous)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/2 "2011-01-12T13:43:29Z")
I’ve been told: I’m beautiful I’m a passionate person about things I love I’m funny I’m smart I give a great blow job (of course guys don’t know this beforehand, but it does keep 'em around…🆒) ---
**Author:** ![The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_wind_of_my_soul)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 1:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/3 "2011-01-12T13:49:56Z")
The single one I hear most often is that I’m exciting. Side note: Yay! I’ve never been featured in someone else’s OP before! Let’s be friends! ---
**Author:** ![interface2x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c0e974/32.png) [@interface2x](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/interface2x)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 2:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/4 "2011-01-12T14:20:33Z")
I’m reasonably smart and funny. I have a college degree. I have held full time jobs consistently since I graduated college over 10 years ago. I make decent money and have no debt. I’m responsible with my decisions. I don’t smoke or do drugs. I’m pretty awesome now that I look at it. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/5 "2011-01-12T14:27:12Z")
> [@The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](#): > > Yay! I’ve never been featured in someone else’s OP before! Let’s be friends! Make it so. \*\* As for little 'ol me, I’ve been told by others (and as all my dates match myself in near-godlike honesty I see no reason to doubt it): I’m funny Kind Smart Fun to be around I wouldn’t mind adding handsome and great in bed to that list, but we takes what we can get 😃 I’m pretty darn happy with myself. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/6 "2011-01-12T14:46:30Z")
I’m small, friendly, cute, and gullible. ---
**Author:** ![shiftless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@shiftless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shiftless)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/7 "2011-01-12T14:47:04Z")
> [@The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](#): > > Side note: Yay! I’ve never been featured in someone else’s OP before! Let’s be friends! Oh no, now you are going to be in the Friend Zone and thus no longer dateable! I haven’t dated in about 22 years and nobody every told me why they dated me in the first place. Because I asked maybe? I guess I was funny and not too bad looking when I was young, was educated and athletic, didn’t live with my parents. These features are, at least, not repulsive to women so some of them said yes when I asked them out. ---
**Author:** ![filling\_pages](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b9bd4f/32.png) [@filling\_pages](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/filling_pages)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/8 "2011-01-12T17:41:14Z")
I’m funny, I’m loyal, I have certain artistic skills that some people find impressive, and I’ve been told I provide a good time in the sack. It seems to work out for me, overall. ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/9 "2011-01-12T17:48:48Z")
I’m a girl and I have a lot of nerdy interests. And I like dating nerds. So… that pretty much works out. Or has in the past, as I’m married now (to a nerd). ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/10 "2011-01-12T17:53:13Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > I’m small, friendly, cute, and gullible. Hi. I am **Sunspace** , millionaire. I own a mansion and a yacht. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/11 "2011-01-12T18:27:34Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > Hi. I am **Sunspace** , millionaire. I own a mansion and a yacht. 😉 All that and good looks too! :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/12 "2011-01-12T19:11:04Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > All that and good looks too! :eek: It’s a [classical reference](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hare_Brush). 🙂 [sub]Disclaimer: not actually millionaire or mansion/yacht owner. Honest, though. Mostly.[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/13 "2011-01-12T19:24:29Z")
> [@xanthous](#): > > I’ve been told: > I’m beautiful > I’m a passionate person about things I love > I’m funny > I’m smart > I give a great blow job (of course guys don’t know this beforehand, but it does keep 'em around…🆒) You’re also an adjectival form of yellow. And yellow is my favourite colour. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/14 "2011-01-12T20:12:43Z")
I have awesome blue eyes and a nice rack. Also, when you get to know me you learn that I’m a pretty cool chick: I’m smart and funny, I’m a great singer, I have an awesome dog and a cool car, I have various and eclectic interests, I get along with most folks and enjoy meeting new people, I’m loyal and thoughtful, etc. Heck, I’d date me. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Casey1505](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Casey1505](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Casey1505)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/15 "2011-01-12T20:20:22Z")
I might not be the best lover, but I’m fast. ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/16 "2011-01-12T20:26:50Z")
I’m funny I’m smart I’m geeky I can usually troubleshoot my own computer problems I value punctuality, honesty, and integrity I’m strange, but in a reasonably socially acceptable way I have very eclectic interests, and love learning new things I have a good job I’m a good writer I don’t smoke, drink (not philosophically opposed–just don’t like the taste much), do drugs, or gamble beyond the occasional low-stakes poker game. I’m low-maintenance (I demand respect assuming I’ve earned it, but have no particular interest in expensive meals, presents, trips, etc.) ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/17 "2011-01-12T20:42:45Z")
Smart and funny is a standard response but in my case it’s actually true. Wonderful blue eyes. Tall. Don’t smoke. Good at getting along with my date’s friends and family. Great kisser. ---
**Author:** ![lindsaybluth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90db22/32.png) [@lindsaybluth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsaybluth)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/18 "2011-01-12T22:04:33Z")
> [@Hello\_Again](#): > > I’m a girl and I have a lot of nerdy interests. And I like dating nerds. So… that pretty much works out. Or has in the past, as I’m married now (to a nerd). This. I have nerdy interests and like nerds/smart guys, so I’ve always had my pick of the litter. I’ve emotionally low-maintenance. That attracts a lot of guys, especially in college, who aren’t looking for the clingy type. Uh…and I’m a D cup. For better and for worse. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/19 "2011-01-12T23:22:58Z")
I’m modestly smart. I have a very wide range of knowledge: I’m forever picking up tidbits here (and particularly here on the Dope), there, and everywhere. I’m tall, dark-haired, and modestly handsome. I appear to be good with small children. But I’ve yet to win a point, let alone a game. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2011, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/20 "2011-01-12T23:58:59Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > All that and good looks too! :eek: Hello, my name is drach, I mumble alot, have tattoos featuring the names of 3 ex g/f’s 6 children, and the exploits of a life spent mostly in prison. I drink too much, and currently am wanted in 6 states and 3 foreign countries. I don’t own a car, or a home. I come and go at odd hours but manage to pay the bills. [braces for the oncoming flood of women throwing themselves on me/marriage proposals] [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338.md?page=2)