# Why People Do Want to Date You **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 12, 2011, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338 "2011-01-12T13:36:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/21 "2011-01-13T00:15:41Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > I have awesome blue eyes and a nice rack. This. Well, actually, a \*huge \*rack, which is not quite the same thing as awesome. But it certainly has its share of fans. Most of the time, it really is my eyes that lovers comment on, though. I’m funny (not quite as often as I think I am, but still…), can discuss the shit out of a whole bunch of topics, and I can generally gauge the tone of a debate in real life, knowing when to bring out cites and when it’s just talking smack. I can make your boo-boos better, by any number of conventional or traditional means. I’m a good cook. I tend to get interested in whatever you’re interested in. And it’s genuine, not faked. People’s passions interest me. I like sex, and I’m not jealous. I hope you (meaning the person I’m interested in) like sex with me, but if you like sex with someone else as well, be my guest. I don’t tie a whole bunch of emotional baggage to sex or sexual attraction. I’m pretty likely to notice that girl with the great rack or ass walking down the street and point her out to you, and it’s \*not \*a trap. If I ask you if my ass looks fat in these pants, it’s also not a trap. I won’t get mad at you, I really do want to know, because I can’t see back there! ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/22 "2011-01-13T01:32:55Z")
I’m in a male body and I’m attracted to females, but I’m a girl. (Not transsexual because I don’t reject the body I’m in as _wrong_, just as not the expected combo of sex and gender). ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/23 "2011-01-13T02:31:24Z")
I kick ass at video games. I’ve been complimented on my oral techniques pretty much universally in every relationship I’ve been in. I’m open-minded, smarter than I look, and I’m not Republican. oh and I have a sexy voice which is nice for phone-anigans I’m not jealous, at all. I would definitely consider being in a poly or open relationship. And although I’ve never had a chance to lez out, I find females and males both attractive and sexy (like in porn). And I’m not repressed! ---
**Author:** ![Allthegood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c68b51/32.png) [@Allthegood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Allthegood)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/24 "2011-01-13T02:45:49Z")
> [@AHunter3](#): > > I’m in a male body and I’m attracted to females, but I’m a girl. AHunter3 knows this, but the rest of you might not realize: the combination he describes can be really, REALLY attractive to a certain kind of female. It helps that the male body in question is pretty darned cute, and that his traditionally-female characteristics exclude the more annoying ones. He’s downright irresistible. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/25 "2011-01-13T02:54:46Z")
> [@Allthegood](#): > > AHunter3 knows this, but the rest of you might not realize: the combination he describes can be really, REALLY attractive to a certain kind of female. It helps that the male body in question is pretty darned cute, and that his traditionally-female characteristics exclude the more annoying ones. He’s downright irresistible. 🙂 🙂 I also listed the exact same characteristic in the parallel thread “Why People Don’t Want to Date You”. Certain women do seem to find the combination really attractive; for many others, it’s very much the dealbreaker. ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/26 "2011-01-13T02:57:54Z")
> [@drachillix](#): > > Hello, my name is drach, I mumble alot, have tattoos featuring the names of 3 ex g/f’s 6 children, and the exploits of a life spent mostly in prison. I drink too much, and currently am wanted in 6 states and 3 foreign countries. I don’t own a car, or a home. I come and go at odd hours but manage to pay the bills. > > [braces for the oncoming flood of women throwing themselves on me/marriage proposals] I’m a Nice Guy. I’m clean, well-behaved and polite. I’m not particularly interesting or fun to be with or sexy, but I’m there when when **drach** gets hauled off to jail for waving a broken beer bottle at his dates. I am the Recovery Boyfriend. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/27 "2011-01-13T03:12:17Z")
Because I can lick my eyebrows. ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/28 "2011-01-13T03:12:36Z")
I don’t nag ---
**Author:** ![Allthegood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c68b51/32.png) [@Allthegood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Allthegood)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 3:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/29 "2011-01-13T03:13:36Z")
> [@AHunter3](#): > > 🙂 I also listed the exact same characteristic in the parallel thread “Why People Don’t Want to Date You”. Certain women do seem to find the combination really attractive; for many others, it’s very much the dealbreaker. I know. I saw. And my answer to that is: GOOD! If everyone found you as attractive as I do, I probably wouldn’t stand a chance with you. And that would be sad – for me, not for you. ---
**Author:** ![Allthegood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c68b51/32.png) [@Allthegood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Allthegood)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/30 "2011-01-13T03:26:56Z")
Why men want to date me: Passionate. Intelligent. Witty. Educated and artsy. Thoughtful and considerate. Good listener. Easy-going and undemanding. Very open-minded. Socially adept. Highly sexed. Kinky. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/31 "2011-01-13T03:31:07Z")
I’m sarcastic to the point of obnoxiousness I drink excessively I’m lazy I could probably work out more I’m sometimes unemployed Women seem to like that ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/32 "2011-01-13T04:19:27Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I’m sarcastic to the point of obnoxiousness > I drink excessively > I’m lazy > I could probably work out more > I’m sometimes unemployed > > Women seem to like that They do indeed. What instrument do you play? ---
**Author:** ![Invisible\_Chimp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f05b48/32.png) [@Invisible\_Chimp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Invisible_Chimp)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/33 "2011-01-13T05:08:41Z")
People have told me I’m smart and I think I’m handsome. At least I have that going for me, which is a start. ---
**Author:** ![Noel\_Prosequi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b19c9b/32.png) [@Noel\_Prosequi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Noel_Prosequi)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 5:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/34 "2011-01-13T05:53:48Z")
My mum says I’m cool. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/35 "2011-01-13T05:57:13Z")
I’ll lower your self-esteem to the point where you’ll consider dating me. ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 10:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/36 "2011-01-13T10:17:16Z")
Because I loathe sports and hate watching them on TV. I have a pretty acerbic wit and… uh… know big words and stuff. I last a long time in the sack (although they don’t know that at first) ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 10:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/37 "2011-01-13T10:22:23Z")
I’m white and speak English. Only works in select countries, though. ---
**Author:** ![Rex\_Goliath](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bcef8e/32.png) [@Rex\_Goliath](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rex_Goliath)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 10:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/38 "2011-01-13T10:31:31Z")
I’m mysterious and have a lot of charisma when I want to. Plus, I’m cute. ---
**Author:** ![SanVito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sanvito/32/2805_2.png) [@SanVito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanVito)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/39 "2011-01-13T13:18:55Z")
I’m charming and easy-going, bright, creative, have a job that sounds more glamorous and well paid than it actually is, and have been told by varies parties and third hand comments that I’m a sexy woman. The dimples and cheekbones help. ---
**Author:** ![Shecky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85e7bf/32.png) [@Shecky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shecky)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2011, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338/40 "2011-01-13T14:19:39Z")
Smart Witty Funny Ambitious Able to talk to anyone I tell people it’s because I can lick my own eyebrows. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-people-do-want-to-date-you/567338.md?page=3)