# Why put another poster on one’s “ignore” list? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 8, 2005, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086 "2005-11-08T19:16:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/121 "2005-11-11T23:22:15Z")
> [@Maureen](#): > > Tch. You two are not taking this exercise seriously. How can you expect me to grow as a person if you don’t react the way you’re supposed to?! Hmph. I taught myself not to react the way I was supposed to during my birth. When the obstetrician spanked me, I bit him. ---
**Author:** ![drmark2000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@drmark2000](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drmark2000)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/122 "2005-11-11T23:59:14Z")
> [@FinnAgain](#): > > Because, you smarmy bastard, calling someone insecure and defensive is indeed a way of saying that they’re being childish and that their feelings are invalid. No, I’m not. > [@FinnAgain](#): > > YOU refuse to accept responsibility for how you’re coming off to the vast majority of Dopers here. YOU refuse to analyze your own behavior. Why? Oh, that “vast majority” crapola. As if the vast majority are entitled to dictate to others, or others required to submit to the majority. > [@FinnAgain](#): > > Would you please just change your user name to **Smarmy Asshole**? No. > [@FinnAgain](#): > > And just for the record, you remind me of every stereotypical, smarmy, head-up-his-ass shrink in popular culture. Wanna psychoanalyze me and my reasons for thinking that about you? That’s the second time I’ve been baited to “psychoanalyze” someone. Hey, I sympathize with your plight, but that’s your work, and not appropriate to boards such as these. There are plenty of websites and other resources designed to help you. Google away. > [@FinnAgain](#): > > And I think what’s worth examining is why you’re acting like a spoiled child and refusing to accept that the burden of communication falls equally on you and your parterns in dialogue. Sure, of course, the burden falls on all of us. Was that necessary to point out? ---
**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/123 "2005-11-12T00:05:38Z")
> [@EddyTeddyFreddy](#): > > Hmph. I taught myself not to react the way I was supposed to during my birth. When the obstetrician spanked me, I bit him. This latent hostility says a great deal about you, **ETF** , you should look further into that. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 12:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/124 "2005-11-12T00:20:24Z")
> [@Maureen](#): > > This latent hostility says a great deal about you, **ETF** , you should look further into that. I don’t think there’s anything latent about it. She writes _limericks_, for heaven’s sake! ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/125 "2005-11-12T00:22:25Z")
> [@drmark2000](#): > > No, I’m not. Again, do you have no idea of what pesonal accountability means? Calling someone insecure and defensive does indeed mean those things. Whether or not you intend to, you should take stock of your actions. > [@drmark2000](#): > > Oh, that “vast majority” crapola. As if the vast majority are entitled to dictate to others, or others required to submit to the majority. Nice strawman, did you make it yourself? You don’t have to ‘submit’ to anybody, but only a fool refuses to consider their audience and their audence’s reaction to their words. If you’re getting that reaction from the vast majority, you can either think long and hard about what you’re doing that might cause that (and after long thought, you might indeed conclude that you’re not to blame), or you can reflexively blame everybody who gets upset. > [@drmark2000](#): > > No. Awww, but it would save time, and people would know what to expect. > [@drmark2000](#): > > That’s the second time I’ve been baited to “psychoanalyze” someone. Hey, I sympathize with your plight, but that’s your work, and not appropriate to boards such as these. There are plenty of websites and other resources designed to help you. Google away. Again, **Smarmy Asshole** , you’ve _been_ doing that all thread. Nobody baited you, you just decided to be a smarmy asshole, and then whinged about how ‘diagnosis’ means something specific, even though you were obviously ‘diagnosing’ many people… all this talk about people’s ‘real’ motivations, and such. Again, accountability, **Smarmy**. Oh, and, by the way, suggesting that my displeasure of your constant mind reading bullshit means I need to see a counselor? That’s exactly what you’re being accused of, whether it’s tongue in cheek or not, and personally I tend to doubt that it is. And doing it while you’re denying it aint exactly smart. But then again, I’m beginning to think that you aint either. > [@drmark2000](#): > > Sure, of course, the burden falls on all of us. Was that necessary to point out? Yes, because although you’re now claiming to understand it, you sure as hell aint acting as if you understand it. But I’m sure you can tell what that “says about me”, right? ---
**Author:** ![drmark2000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@drmark2000](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drmark2000)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/126 "2005-11-12T00:29:32Z")
> [@Maureen](#): > > Hm. Insufficient data used to arrive at incorrect diagnosis in order to strengthen position. That’s the second time the word “diagnosis” has been used in regards to content in my posts! I’m getting the impression that my being a psychologist underlies some of the reactions I’ve received. > [@Maureen](#): > > …I find your usage of the phrase “gives you away” curious; do you believe people have a habit of trying to hide things from you? Or do you doubt my veracity? Let’s explore that next session. Everyone is in the habit of hiding things from everyone else, but that’s beside the point. My point all along has been that there is relatively little reason for people to have to hide anything in a venue such as this. That’s one reason that I like it so much. I don’t think that picking up on, and pointing out, significant aspects of the words one chooses is any great problem. You just did it; I just answered to it. > [@Maureen](#): > > Of course your profession ties into your posting style; why else would you be analyzing mine? Every experience that I’ve ever had ties into my own posting style, and that of anyone else. This is simply a given. I am a psychologist. I’ve also painted houses, taken extended backpacking trips, learned some carpentry, worked as a mail clerk, and participated in the research on how a certain university could improve student retention after the freshman year. And so many other things. SD asks for “profession,” and I reported it as such. > [@Maureen](#): > > Perhaps you misunderstood my meaning by “winding us up.” Allow me to elucidate. By “winding us up” I meant that you were, perhaps, engaging on a discussion with a somewhat hidden agenda and are continuing the exercise for reasons as yet not divulged by you. I did not mean “emotionally wound up.” What agenda have I tried to hide; in your opinion, I mean. > [@Maureen](#): > > However, as I was not totally-100%-able to understand by any psych 101 student-clear, I can see how you could have misconstrued that meaning. I’m sorry, but I don’t understand exactly what you mean by this statement. > [@Maureen](#): > > …what can you hope to gain from the information you’ve recieved if you refute the data you’re given? I have stated more than once that I acknowledge the validity of some, though not all, of the data I’ve received ---
**Author:** ![drmark2000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@drmark2000](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drmark2000)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/127 "2005-11-12T00:35:46Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > Just out of curiosity… has anyone here, in your view, given an opinion as to why they use the “ignore” feature contrary to your initial assumptions or preconceived notions? I certainly see plenty that seems to refute your ideas on the matter, so I’d like to hear your specific feelings on those who are out right appearing diametrically opposite. Thank you. “Diametrically opposite“? I think that would be hard to judge in a matter such as this. Differing, certainly. As I have already stated repeatedly, I have acknowledged the validity of several others’ viewpoints. ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/128 "2005-11-12T00:39:42Z")
> [@This Year's Model](#): > > I don’t think there’s anything latent about it. She writes _limericks_, for heaven’s sake! Yeh! Wanna make somethin’ out of it? :: glares fiercely :: ---
**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/129 "2005-11-12T00:44:16Z")
> [@drmark2000](#): > > That’s the second time the word “diagnosis” has been used in regards to content in my posts! I’m getting the impression that my being a psychologist underlies some of the reactions I’ve received. Partly, but not totally. Perhaps it had more to do with telling me how I feel than it did with your occupation. Also, as a nurse, I use the word “diagnosis” frequently; as I mentioned, our occupations to tend to color our posting styles. > [@](#): > > Everyone is in the habit of hiding things from everyone else, but that’s beside the point. My point all along has been that there is relatively little reason for people to have to hide anything in a venue such as this. That’s one reason that I like it so much. I don’t think that picking up on, and pointing out, significant aspects of the words one chooses is any great problem. You just did it; I just answered to it. Some would say that. Others would say “bollocks.” > [@](#): > > Every experience that I’ve ever had ties into my own posting style, and that of anyone else. This is simply a given. I am a psychologist. I’ve also painted houses, taken extended backpacking trips, learned some carpentry, worked as a mail clerk, and participated in the research on how a certain university could improve student retention after the freshman year. And so many other things. SD asks for “profession,” and I reported it as such. And I’m sure we all look forward with eager anticipation to hear of your experiences in that field. Those of us who have not put you on ignore lists, that is. > [@](#): > > What agenda have I tried to hide; in your opinion, I mean. I’m sure I could not begin to say. As you’ve sidestepped most questions about you and how you view things, it’s difficult to understand why you would continue to post in a manner which you’ve been told by multiple parties is considered to be condescending and…um…oh, yes, “smarmy”, when you profess that that is not your intent. It certainly beggars the question of what your intent might be. > [@](#): > > I’m sorry, but I don’t understand exactly what you mean by this statement. Precisely. > [@](#): > > I have stated more than once that I acknowledge the validity of some, though not all, of the data I’ve received And your findings are? ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/130 "2005-11-12T00:49:05Z")
> [@drmark2000](#): > > That’s the second time the word “diagnosis” has been used in regards to content in my posts! I’m getting the impression that my being a psychologist underlies some of the reactions I’ve received. Are you **really** this stupid? Did you teach yourself to transcend introspection, honesty and the ability to read your own posts after you transcended being bored? > [@drmark2000](#): > > If you consider their ideas so disagreeable as to “ignore” them, then you need to ask yourself what it is you find so disagreeable, and why. > [@drmark2000](#): > > Shunning other posters for any reason is simply unnecessary on a board like this. I have yet to hear in this thread any better argument than, “I strongly disagree with that person‘s opinions, so I refuse to listen to them anymore. Nyeah!” (That after you’d been given specific reasons which certainly weren’t about disagreeing with opinions.) > [@drmark2000](#): > > Happier, perhaps in the same sense that the Amish are “happier” because they close out that which does not agree with their own views, as best they can. > [@drmark2000](#): > > A sentiment expressed by several previous posters. What are these stress levels? Why do they exist in you? What do they say, more about you than the poster whom you exclude? > [@drmark2000](#): > > I think it’s easier for you to term posters whom you might strongly disagree as “a waste of time,” rather than acknowledge the threat that they present to you and what you believe, even if it’s only an unintentional threat. > [@drmark2000](#): > > You resort again to extremes. Having done so repeatedly in your posts, this belies something significant. YOU have assumed, and with notable intensity, that my views constitute some criticism of you, and perhaps of others as well. This isn’t good news. You have become strongly defensive. Of what, I might ask? I’ve twanged a nerve. > [@drmark2000](#): > > As for you, or anyone around here, being “surely… beyond help,” tediously enough you again give yourself away with your own choice of words > [@drmark2000](#): > > As for your invoking of my profession, my sense is you’ve already had some encounters with at least a few of us, they saw through you right quick (it ain’t that difficult), and you’ve resented it to this day. Just a guess. True? > [@drmark2000](#): > > Please point out to me where, exactly, I “essentially” accused you of lying. Your paranoia heightens; one sign of boredom. > [@drmark2000](#): > > No one has “diagnosed” you; well, I haven’t, anyway. The term diagnosis has specific meanings in my profession, inappropriate to these boards. I have referred to you as paranoid, just above, but that’s not a diagnosis proper. Still, if the shoe fits… > [@drmark2000](#): > > You “debate” with me, as you term it, because you wrongly intepret something personal to you in what I have posted. You wrongly interpret it in this way because you know, deep in your black little heart, that you are guilty of your own misinterpretation of my comments. Not my fault. > [@drmark2000](#): > > Now, I can really see you in “The Other Chair.” I’ll bet you’ve been there more than a few times, haven’t you, boyo? And that wouldn’t necessarily be a bad thing. One just needs to stick with it. > [@drmark2000](#): > > Why? You bored a lot? Sounds like it, even when you’re collapsing in laughter. > [@drmark2000](#): > > Look, I’m not really intending on being condescending. If I’m being perceived as such, by whomever, then I still think that that reflects more upon the perceivers than on me. Some of my questions have been met with palpable insecurity and defensiveness. ---
**Author:** ![Dead\_Badger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/848f3c/32.png) [@Dead\_Badger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dead_Badger)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/131 "2005-11-12T01:36:17Z")
> [@drmark2000](#): > > Not bad. Not bad at all. I am complimented by the effort. Did you write it? No, actually; I nicked it off [www.howtodealwithpassiveagressivedickheadsusingfancyprose.com](http://www.howtodealwithpassiveagressivedickheadsusingfancyprose.com). Awfully handy website. Who knew they’d have something so apt? > [@](#): > > Nice opening! Neat metering, especially in the last line. Sarcasm a little too easily read, though. Shucks, thanks. Did you read sarcasm into my verse, though? Goodness. Perhaps you should examine what this says about you. > [@](#): > > Forgiveness is nice, I guess, although how you should deem yourself worthy of dispensing it, or to instruct others to, is beyond me. I’m just a giving kinda guy. A veritable Pez dispenser of warm fuzzies, that’s me. > [@](#): > > Your use of the word “rout,” intrigues me, though. A nice little ganging up, perhaps? What does this say about your view of these boards, and your own and others’ roles in them? Goodness me, are you suggesting that I think there’s some sort of coordinated campaign against you? Gosh, that sounds awfully paranoid. Perhaps you ought to think about what this says about you. Gosh, this psychobobblies thing _is_ fun, isn’t it? ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/132 "2005-11-12T01:45:39Z")
> [@drmark2000](#): > > “Diametrically opposite“? I think that would be hard to judge in a matter such as this. Differing, certainly. As I have already stated repeatedly, I have acknowledged the validity of several others’ viewpoints. Ah, you are correct. I suppose that would purely be each person’s own perspective. However, I think most here are taking issue with the fact that even though you might have noted a difference, it doesn’t appear (to them) that you truly acknowledge it as valid. In my humble opinion, of course. Thank you for your answer though. ---
**Author:** ![drmark2000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@drmark2000](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drmark2000)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/133 "2005-11-12T02:11:52Z")
> [@FinnAgain](#): > > Are you **really** this stupid? > Did you teach yourself to transcend introspection, honesty and the ability to read your own posts after you transcended being bored? A most impressive effort in collecting quotations, Joycean in its scope! Now, back to Howth Castle, with ya, and all of its Environs! “The keys to. Given! A way a lone a last a loved a long the” and so on and, another 628 pages later, so on… But Joyce is beautiful. Like music to read. ---
**Author:** ![drmark2000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@drmark2000](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drmark2000)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/134 "2005-11-12T02:22:30Z")
> [@Dead Badger](#): > > No, actually; I nicked it off [www.howtodealwithpassiveagressivedickheadsusingfancyprose.com](http://www.howtodealwithpassiveagressivedickheadsusingfancyprose.com). Awfully handy website. Who knew they’d have something so apt? Damnit, the link doesn’t work! Could you repost it? > [@Dead Badger](#): > > Shucks, thanks. Did you read sarcasm into my verse, though? Goodness. Perhaps you should examine what this says about you. > I’m just a giving kinda guy. A veritable Pez dispenser of warm fuzzies, that’s me. > Goodness me, are you suggesting that I think there’s some sort of coordinated campaign against you? Gosh, that sounds awfully paranoid. Perhaps you ought to think about what this says about you. Gosh, this psychobobblies thing _is_ fun, isn’t it? “Psychobobbly(ie?)“ all you wish, if that’s your wish. ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/135 "2005-11-12T02:22:45Z")
Blah blah blah. So you still going to maintain your ignorance as to why your posts have been read as smarmy psychoanalysis? ---
**Author:** ![drmark2000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@drmark2000](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drmark2000)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/136 "2005-11-12T02:33:02Z")
> [@FinnAgain](#): > > Blah blah blah. > So you still going to maintain your ignorance as to why your posts have been read as smarmy psychoanalysis? YOU’VE read my posts as such. Now, you must stop attributing your own perceptions to all others. This is called projection. It is often considered a sign of paranoia. ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/137 "2005-11-12T02:35:23Z")
Okay, now I know what you are, without a doubt. I will not be responding to you again. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/138 "2005-11-12T04:25:14Z")
> [@drmark2000](#): > > YOU’VE read my posts as such. Now, you must stop attributing your own perceptions to all others. This is called projection. It is often considered a sign of paranoia. I’m mildly curious. Have you read any opinions of your posts in this thread that have not agreed with **FinnAgain** ’s opinion? In other words, is there _any_ evidence here that his perceptions are _not_ shared by all others? ---
**Author:** ![Giant\_Spongess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/94ad74/32.png) [@Giant\_Spongess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giant_Spongess)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/139 "2005-11-12T04:42:35Z")
> [@drmark2000](#): > > YOU’VE read my posts as such. Now, you must stop attributing your own perceptions to all others. This is called projection. It is often considered a sign of paranoia. BWAHHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!! Your posting style certainly tells _me_ a lot about _you._ ---
**Author:** ![furt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/439d5e/32.png) [@furt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/furt)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-put-another-poster-on-one-s-ignore-list/330086/140 "2005-11-12T14:21:14Z")
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