# Why should I care if a women got home safe after a date if she plans to see me again??? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 19, 2014, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540 "2014-07-19T18:28:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/41 "2014-07-19T19:48:19Z")
> [@njtt](#): > > Then you are a psychopath, or at the very least a huge asshole. > > She showed good judgement in turning you down. Don’t call others names outside of the Pit. ---
**Author:** ![FBJJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8e8cbc/32.png) [@FBJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FBJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/42 "2014-07-19T19:52:27Z")
I guess I should have known something was up when I asked what she wanted to eat or drink at the cafe and she said…“im fine” ---
**Author:** ![FBJJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8e8cbc/32.png) [@FBJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FBJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/43 "2014-07-19T19:53:54Z")
> [@Mithras](#): > > That’s the same exact thing you might be told via email after interviewing for a job. It almost always means you didn’t get the job. Well the fact that she sent the text 2 days later means she is on medication ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/44 "2014-07-19T20:09:08Z")
Normally, the better someone knows you, the more likely you are to get a second date. But if you’re a sociopath, you’ll only get dates from women who don’t know you. ---
**Author:** ![outlierrn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/outlierrn/32/3005_2.png) [@outlierrn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/outlierrn)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/45 "2014-07-19T20:11:45Z")
OK, now I’m completely confused. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/46 "2014-07-19T20:25:25Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > I never understood that at all. I am supposed to care if a woman got home safe and she has no interest in a second date? And if she has no interest in a 2nd date then she is nothing but a stranger and I’m not concerned about people I don’t know. > > This is why i hate dating Most human beings who are mentally stable do not have the extreme black and white utilitarian view of relationships that you do. Assuming this is the way you are coming across IRL stop and ask yourself what kind of woman or person in general would want to take a chance having a relationship with a person like you? You’re in or you’re out with someone like you there is no kindness or empathy buffer a person can rely on to get past disagreements or misunderstandings. You like to think of yourself as strong, direct and honest however this quasi-autistic binary world view of yours where people who are of no utility to you are effectively dead to you is off putting to normal people. Assuming this is not trolling and you’re serious that this is actually the way you look at the world you are going to have difficult time with serious relationships . ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/47 "2014-07-19T20:26:13Z")
FBJJ, your opinions and feelings are reprehensible. Any woman who gives you a 2nd date has extremely poor judgment. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/48 "2014-07-19T20:32:28Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > I’m just sick of thinking they text me because they are interested and then after that I never get another text If that’s a pattern you’re noticing, maybe explore how you are causing it to occur? ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/49 "2014-07-19T20:52:50Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > . . . > > This is why i hate dating Then why do it? Why not just stop dating entirely? ---
**Author:** ![FBJJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8e8cbc/32.png) [@FBJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FBJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/50 "2014-07-19T20:53:59Z")
maybe she should also tell me she got a promotion at work ---
**Author:** ![FBJJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8e8cbc/32.png) [@FBJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FBJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/51 "2014-07-19T20:58:21Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > Then why do it? Why not just stop dating entirely? I am considering it and just get involved in fetishes instead ---
**Author:** ![Baron\_Greenback](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/baron_greenback/32/48_2.png) [@Baron\_Greenback](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baron_Greenback)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/52 "2014-07-19T21:01:07Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > maybe she should also tell me she got a promotion at work Tell me you are not stalking this most fleeting of acquaintances? ---
**Author:** ![FBJJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8e8cbc/32.png) [@FBJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FBJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/53 "2014-07-19T21:02:26Z")
> [@Baron\_Greenback](#): > > Tell me you are not stalking this most fleeting of acquaintances? I have too many hobbies to stalk anyone ---
**Author:** ![Baron\_Greenback](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/baron_greenback/32/48_2.png) [@Baron\_Greenback](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baron_Greenback)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/54 "2014-07-19T21:09:07Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > I have too many hobbies to stalk anyone Hmmm. Probably best you go and do one of them rather than continuing on this path. There’s a big old world up those stairs! ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/55 "2014-07-19T21:12:12Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > I am considering it and just get involved in fetishes instead What on earth does that even mean? ---
**Author:** ![FBJJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8e8cbc/32.png) [@FBJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FBJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/56 "2014-07-19T21:16:51Z")
> [@andros](#): > > What on earth does that even mean? I will only be in the presence of women for them to help me with my fetishes ---
**Author:** ![tapu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/49beb7/32.png) [@tapu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tapu)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/57 "2014-07-19T21:29:03Z")
Well, don’t call us when you get rolled–in your world, none of us should care about you. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/58 "2014-07-19T21:29:17Z")
> [@njtt](#): > > Then you are a psychopath, or at the very least a huge asshole. > > She showed good judgement in turning you down. Don’t call someone an asshole in MPSIMS. Feel free, however, to start a Pit thread to call someone an asshole. Thanks, **twickster** ---
**Author:** ![Baron\_Greenback](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/baron_greenback/32/48_2.png) [@Baron\_Greenback](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baron_Greenback)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/59 "2014-07-19T22:02:51Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > I will only be in the presence of women for them to help me with my fetishes I won’t ask in this public forum about your specific fetishes, but it would help the community to help _you_ if you could maybe indicate on this line where your fetishes lie: 1: Appreciates a nicely turned ankle . . . . . . . . 10: Necrophiliac cannabalism ---
**Author:** ![chiroptera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/60 "2014-07-19T22:05:28Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > I have too many hobbies to stalk anyone Ah. Yes. [You are addicted to Facebook](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=728775). That’s a worthy hobby that doesn’t lend itself to stalking, right there. Nope. Not at all. You sound like a real catch! I can’t believe all these women are disrespecting you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540.md?page=4)