# Why should I care if a women got home safe after a date if she plans to see me again??? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 19, 2014, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540 "2014-07-19T18:28:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Amateur\_Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/59ef9b/32.png) [@Amateur\_Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amateur_Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2014, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/81 "2014-07-19T23:55:27Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > do me a favor and log out Aw, after 15 years? But I was just starting to have fun! Gotta go, my date’s here and I haven’t eaten enough garlic yet. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/82 "2014-07-20T00:02:05Z")
> [@Smeghead](#): > > Whoop - I thought this was in the Pit. My bad. You would think that, wouldn’t you? I had to check myself - MPSIMS, huh, go figure… ---
**Author:** ![DingoelGringo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9d8465/32.png) [@DingoelGringo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DingoelGringo)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/83 "2014-07-20T00:02:57Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > I don’t reveal this to women I met off [match.com](http://match.com) But why not? If you are looking for women who are into the same thing say so before meeting them. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/84 "2014-07-20T00:05:03Z")
To the OP: would you care if a woman you had been on a date with that evening did _not_ get home safely afterwards? What would your reaction be if that were to occur? Would you even give her a second thought? Would you feel in any way responsible that, due to your lack of courtesy and decent manners, she met an untimely end? I believe that most normal, psychologically healthy people would be devastated if such a thing were to happen. That you feel differently suggests that perhaps your thoughts, feelings and reactions are not what one might consider normal. Just sayin’. ---
**Author:** ![FBJJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8e8cbc/32.png) [@FBJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FBJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/85 "2014-07-20T00:27:15Z")
> [@outlierrn](#): > > I really am confused, she texted you 2 days later? To say what, exactly? I arrived home and logged on to the dating site and saw she viewed my profile 7 times so I was like ok she looks interested. So I sent a text saying…“Just saying I had a nice time and hope u made it home safely and good luck on your presentation” She responded 2 days later with “I arrived home safely, It was a pleasure meeting you and my presentation went very well” ---
**Author:** ![RivkahChaya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rivkahchaya/32/8919_2.png) [@RivkahChaya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RivkahChaya)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/86 "2014-07-20T00:33:57Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > I arrived home and logged on to the dating site and saw she viewed my profile 7 times > > so I was like ok she looks interested. So I sent a text saying…“Just saying I had a nice time and hope u made it home safely and good luck on your presentation” > > She responded 2 days later with “I arrived home safely, It was a pleasure meeting you and my presentation went very well” Maybe her cable was down, so she couldn’t log in at home, social sites are blocked at work, and she doesn’t have a Smartphone. ---
**Author:** ![Inna\_Minnit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Inna\_Minnit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inna_Minnit)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/87 "2014-07-20T00:34:05Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > I guess I should have known something was up when I asked what she wanted to eat or drink at the cafe and she said…“im fine” Any savvy guys wanna parse this for FBJJ. ---
**Author:** ![Namkcalb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c89c15/32.png) [@Namkcalb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Namkcalb)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/88 "2014-07-20T00:38:57Z")
> [@zoid](#): > > This has to be performance art. > In that context it’s actually somewhat entertaining. Not really, true masters of web roleplaying carry their audience to extremes of emotion and actually help us open our mind to examining how we end up feeling the way we do. Umkay made us sad when ‘she’ pretended to die. Yakuza made us question our attitudes towards the homeless. FBJJ just bangs on a keyboard ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Drake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Dr.Drake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Drake)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/89 "2014-07-20T00:39:31Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > I arrived home and logged on to the dating site and saw she viewed my profile 7 times > > so I was like ok she looks interested. So I sent a text saying…“Just saying I had a nice time and hope u made it home safely and good luck on your presentation” > > She responded 2 days later with “I arrived home safely, It was a pleasure meeting you and my presentation went very well” Meaning SHE wanted to be polite, and answer you, but at the same time indicate either (1) a lack of interest or (2) a desire to move the relationship forward fairly slowly. Probably #1. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 12:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/90 "2014-07-20T00:42:45Z")
> [@Namkcalb](#): > > Not really, true masters of web roleplaying carry their audience to extremes of emotion and actually help us open our mind to examining how we end up feeling the way we do. > > Umkay made us sad when ‘she’ pretended to die. > Yakuza made us question our attitudes towards the homeless. > > FBJJ just bangs on a keyboard Well there’s lots of different kids of entertaining. Vivaldi and The Three Stooges are both entertaining, just in different ways. ---
**Author:** ![Boogly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Boogly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boogly)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/91 "2014-07-20T00:49:35Z")
This whole thread screams to me…‘Don’t feed the trolls’ ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/92 "2014-07-20T01:21:53Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > Feel free, however, to start a Pit thread to call someone an asshole. I would, but I want to see him burn out here. People in MPSIMS so rarely get to see a self-immolation, and they deserve to get a taste of the Pit experience without having to get their clothes dirty. Anyway, he already has two threads of his own there. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Kabong](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/el_kabong/32/496_2.png) [@El\_Kabong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Kabong)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/93 "2014-07-20T01:37:49Z")
[A soundtrack for the OP’s life…](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQy5vKAaTuA) ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/94 "2014-07-20T01:46:07Z")
> [@Boogly](#): > > This whole thread screams to me…‘Don’t feed the trolls’ Oh yes. He’s been here less than two weeks and started five threads. Two of those are hatin’ on cops, this one is hatin’ on women who don’t think he’s the Emperor of the World, one is whining about his job not being guaranteed for life, and one is a relatively mild, if somewhat narcisstic thread about his screen name. And yes, I realize I’ve just fed him a really big meal, but it’s the last one. ---
**Author:** ![FBJJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8e8cbc/32.png) [@FBJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FBJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/95 "2014-07-20T02:24:02Z")
> [@Baker](#): > > Oh yes. He’s been here less than two weeks and started five threads. Two of those are hatin’ on cops, this one is hatin’ on women who don’t think he’s the Emperor of the World, one is whining about his job not being guaranteed for life, and one is a relatively mild, if somewhat narcisstic thread about his screen name. > > And yes, I realize I’ve just fed him a really big meal, but it’s the last one. whatever u say man ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/96 "2014-07-20T02:36:17Z")
Women sense my power, and they seek the life essence. I do not avoid women…but I do deny them my essence ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/97 "2014-07-20T03:06:37Z")
> [@Loach](#): > > Women sense my power, and they seek the life essence. I do not avoid women…but I do deny them my essence Eeeeeeeeewwwwww… I was just starting to forget about the circle jerk thread. ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/98 "2014-07-20T03:40:09Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Eh, I don’t know about this. What if we reversed the genders? I have a feeling the OP is not going to get laid if he reveals that it is he that feels threatened and at risk in the big bad world, and he needs his female date to protect and defend him. Are you implying that it is outdated sexism for a man to feel that he has some responsibility for the protection of a woman in his company? ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Pig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c57346/32.png) [@Little\_Pig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Pig)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/99 "2014-07-20T03:49:09Z")
To the OP, ever heard of the word [Gentleman?](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gentleman) ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/100 "2014-07-20T03:59:09Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > Well the fact that she sent the text 2 days later means she is on medication WTF? How the fuck does that work? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540.md?page=6)