# Why should I care if a women got home safe after a date if she plans to see me again??? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 19, 2014, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540 "2014-07-19T18:28:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/101 "2014-07-20T04:13:40Z")
> [@jtur88](#): > > I have a feeling the OP is not going to get laid if he reveals that it is he that feels threatened and at risk in the big bad world, and he needs his female date to protect and defend him. Are you implying that it is outdated sexism for a man to feel that he has some responsibility for the protection of a woman in his company? First off, I care about people’s well being. But yes, I do think it’s a little out dated. I think most women out there are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves with out a male protector. Now, I’ve been asked on more than one occasion to walk them to their car, and I’m happy to do that. Otherwise, I’d feel like I was patronizing her if I automatically assume she needs my protection. All this is pretty much moot anyway because like I said, there is usually a call or text after the date anyway just to say “had fun” or something of the like. ---
**Author:** ![FBJJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8e8cbc/32.png) [@FBJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FBJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/102 "2014-07-20T04:51:49Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > WTF? How the fuck does that work? it doesn’t take 48 hours to respond to a text ---
**Author:** ![scratch\_llll](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9fc348/32.png) [@scratch\_llll](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scratch_llll)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/103 "2014-07-20T04:54:35Z")
I’m confused. Women are so desperate they will go out with men who lack decency? Who is raising these women with so little self esteem? Men like the OP? Uh… nevemind. What a sad cycle. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/104 "2014-07-20T04:57:21Z")
No it doesn’t, but that means you’re not a priority to her, not that she’s somehow defective. She just doesn’t find you important enough to respond urgently. ---
**Author:** ![FBJJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8e8cbc/32.png) [@FBJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FBJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/105 "2014-07-20T05:10:08Z")
> [@zoid](#): > > No it doesn’t, but that means you’re not a priority to her, not that she’s somehow defective. > She just doesn’t find you important enough to respond urgently. medicated female like i said, now excuse me while I go to the toilet ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/106 "2014-07-20T05:14:38Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > medicated female like i said, now excuse me while I go to the toilet Fer a dookie?? :eek: ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/107 "2014-07-20T05:14:44Z")
“medicated”? Never mind - this is hopeless. I give up. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/108 "2014-07-20T05:19:33Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > do me a favor and log out This made me laugh and laugh. I have no idea why. Then I thought that it would be improved by being changed to “why don’t you make like a lumberjack and log out?” ---
**Author:** ![outlierrn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/outlierrn/32/3005_2.png) [@outlierrn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/outlierrn)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 11:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/109 "2014-07-20T11:10:32Z")
> [@Green\_Bean](#): > > This made me laugh and laugh. I have no idea why. > > Then I thought that it would be improved by being changed to “why don’t you make like a lumberjack and log out?” And then he fixes her cable? ---
**Author:** ![Fuji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Fuji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fuji)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/110 "2014-07-20T11:36:17Z")
> [@Baron\_Greenback](#): > > I won’t ask in this public forum about your specific fetishes, but it would help the community to help _you_ if you could maybe indicate on this line where your fetishes lie: > > 1: Appreciates a nicely turned ankle > . > . > . > . > . > . > . > . > 10: Necrophiliac cannabalism > [@FBJJ](#): > > smothering and trampling Whoa, whoa, whoa. How did this exchange get lost in the mix? WTF does “smothering and trampling” even mean? I’ve never heard of those terms applied to a sexual fetish - as opposed to modalities of death in crowded sports stadium disasters. ---
**Author:** ![2gigch1](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/2gigch1/32/3313_2.png) [@2gigch1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/2gigch1)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/111 "2014-07-20T12:44:04Z")
> [@zoid](#): > > Eeeeeeeeewwwwww… > > I was just starting to forget about the circle jerk thread. [Classic quote from the movie Dr Strangelove.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ikqx1P1DSk) ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/112 "2014-07-20T13:18:18Z")
> [@Fuji](#): > > Whoa, whoa, whoa. How did this exchange get lost in the mix? > > WTF does “smothering and trampling” even mean? I’ve never heard of those terms applied to a sexual fetish - as opposed to modalities of death in crowded sports stadium disasters. I thought exactly the same thing, **Fuji** , and decided I don’t even wanna _know_ what that means, unless **FBJJ** ’s a very angry circus elephant. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/113 "2014-07-20T13:32:32Z")
> [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](#): > > I thought exactly the same thing, **Fuji** , and decided I don’t even wanna _know_ what that means, unless **FBJJ** ’s a very angry circus elephant. ::: goes outside to make sure Simba is still chained up ::: :eek: OH NO !!! ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/114 "2014-07-20T13:56:09Z")
And he won’t even make sure she gets home safely. I’m so sorry **AncientHumanoid**. At least she’ll never forget us. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/115 "2014-07-20T14:05:11Z")
> [@FBJJ](#): > > I guess I should have known something was up when I asked what she wanted to eat or drink at the cafe and she said…“im fine” Incorrect. What it means is that she wouldn’t accept food or water from you if she was starving in the middle of a desert… > [@FBJJ](#): > > Well the fact that she sent the text 2 days later means she is on medication …Nor piss on you if you were on fire. > [@FBJJ](#): > > whatever u say man What we mean is that your posts come across as shallow, whiny, narcissistic, idiotic and trollish. ---
**Author:** ![jayrey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/47e85d/32.png) [@jayrey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayrey)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/116 "2014-07-20T14:42:26Z")
> [@partypooper](#): > > It seems to me that you’re just angry that someone doesn’t want to go on a second date with you. Therefore the person is useless to you and you don’t care about what happens to them. If your interest in a woman is completely diminished the moment you think that she’s never going to give you anything that you want then you obviously weren’t very interested in her as a person to begin with and only care about what you can get from your interaction with her. > That’s extremely immature and I can see why you would have trouble getting a second date. If you’re not able to value people for who they are instead of what purpose they serve you then you’re not ready for a relationship and you’re never going to have any success with dating. This, times 10. Thanks, **partypooper** , you saved me all that typing. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2014, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540/117 "2014-07-20T15:22:03Z")
The OP has been banned, so we can close this. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-should-i-care-if-a-women-got-home-safe-after-a-date-if-she-plans-to-see-me-again/693540.md?page=5)